How can we handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal disharmony factor in China's family. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mainly due to lack of communication, and secondly, because of different living habits, both sides can't adapt. Then how can we handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law 1 1? Draw a line with your mother-in-law: Drawing a line means that you know clearly that your mother-in-law is not your mother. Her mother-in-law is closely related to you because of your husband, but she may not really get along with you. Of course, if the two sides get along best, but they don't get along well, it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you or your mother-in-law. It's just that the two sides are not suitable for being friends, and less contact is enough. Second, don't expect too much from your mother-in-law: some people expect too much from their mother-in-law. Many young people hope that their mother-in-law can help young couples take care of their children, do housework or give financial support. But in fact, my mother-in-law also has her own life. I just think you may not want her to tell you how to live your life. My mother-in-law doesn't have to make selfless contributions to your life. So if your mother-in-law doesn't want to help you, you don't need a lot of complaints and accusations. Third, respect your mother-in-law, but don't give in: after all, your mother-in-law is an elder, so you should respect her. This is also a respect for the husband. But maybe the mother-in-law will also have her own emotions and unreasonable demands, so it depends on whether it is within her own principles. If you exceed the bottom line, you need your husband to change careers. After all, your husband is closer to your mother-in-law. There is no need to do anything against one's will to show respect and filial piety to the elderly. These grievances are likely to erupt in the end, which may be even more unfavorable to the relationship between husband and wife. How can we handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? 2 skills to get along with mother-in-law 1. No matter how unreasonable your mother-in-law is, don't quarrel with her. Even if there are any more mistakes, if you fight with her, it's your fault. This is not asking you to be an ostrich. Although you are a woman in the new era, you can despise all stereotypes, but please don't forget that this is China, and this society still can't tolerate disobedient people. Although quarreling with her mother-in-law is not necessarily disobedient, in the eyes of others, it is disobedient for a daughter-in-law to spit on her mother-in-law! They will think that you have no tutor! If you say that you don't have a tutor, the target is not you alone, but your parents. Do you want to hear your parents being talked about for their own reasons? The more stingy your mother-in-law is to you, the more generous you are to her. Her mother-in-law's generation has gone through very difficult times, so there will be a kind of meanness about money that we people in the 1970 s and 1980 s can't understand. She usually lives frugally, and hopes that her son and daughter-in-law will get what they want, especially for their daughter-in-law. If you buy something for your husband, she may not say anything, but if you buy it for yourself, she will say that you spend money indiscriminately, or that what you buy is too expensive. This kind of mother-in-law is really hateful, but the daughter-in-law doesn't have to wronged herself for it. She can buy whatever she should, spend as much as she should, and don't have to bear a grudge against her mother-in-law, thinking that you are abusing me, and see how I deal with you in the future. In fact, many mothers-in-law do this not only because they are distressed by money, but also because of psychological imbalance. Think about how much they have suffered before, and they can't bear to eat or wear. The whole province came down to give it to their children, and the effect was good. What contribution does the son's wife make to his son? Now I eat well, dress well and use it well ... Even if my daughter-in-law spends her own money, my mother-in-law will have the feeling of "planting trees by herself and enjoying the cool by herself". For such a mother-in-law, the best way is to buy a gift for her mother-in-law, even if it is a very cheap small object, which can block her mouth. Although her mother-in-law will still say that you don't have to spend money for her, you can save some money or something, but you will be very happy. Don't speak ill of your mother-in-law in front of your husband. We don't like mother-in-law to speak ill of herself in front of her husband. Similarly, as mother-in-law, we don't like the daughter-in-law gossiping in her son's ear. Especially now, many men are very filial. Even if he knew that his mother-in-law was wrong, he would say, bear with it, that's his mother! Unfortunately, it seems that many daughters-in-law, including myself, have met such a gnashing husband! In this case, you can't achieve your goal by speaking ill of your mother-in-law, and it is more likely to make your husband feel disgusted with you. After all, you love your parents very much, and your husband speaks ill of them in front of you. Can you promise that you won't jump up? But that doesn't mean we have to swallow our pride. At this time, we need to use our wisdom. You can create an opportunity for your husband to see how her mother-in-law bullies you. If you can, you might as well shed tears of injustice in front of your husband. Give it to your husband. If your husband is still so insensitive, forget it. Just double the anger your mother-in-law gave you and add it to him! Such a husband would be too sorry for his filial piety if he didn't invite him to eat "sandwich cookies" and was full! If you live with your mother-in-law, don't run back to your mother's house because you are angry. In fact, you are envious of those sisters who have a mother's home to go back to when you write this article. Because my mother's home is in other places, there is basically no family to go back to, but it also saves my parents' worries. Although I sometimes run back to my parents' home in a wronged way, it's quite refreshing that my husband can come and take you home humbly. Maybe your parents won't scold him, maybe they will condemn him with their eyes at most, but have you thought about his feelings? If this happens many times, every man will get bored and decide not to get used to your problems in the future, and this trick will not work. Especially the daughter-in-law who lives with her mother-in-law, don't make such a move easily. If her mother-in-law throws you a word, don't come back out of this door! Or your husband wants to show authority in front of his mother-in-law and say this to you. Are you going to walk out of this house without hesitation, or are you going to put down your luggage and go back to your room and cry? Even if you can go through the door and finally come back, aren't you afraid that the first thing your mother-in-law said to her husband after going out was "divorce her"? When a man who lives with his mother encounters this situation, even if he really wants to keep you or take you home early, he usually slaps his face and pretends to be fat in order to prove to his mother that he is a man. Not only will he not leave you, but he will say something more rude, or he will not take you home at all. Will you divorce him or pack up and go home? If you really don't want to go there and divorce him, then say something else. If you don't want to give him up, you have to go home by yourself. Isn't that shameful? Of course, every woman has the right to run away from home without being reasonable, but can you be a little creative and change the location to another place? Personally, I prefer high-end hotels, and then I called him and said I didn't want my parents to worry, so I came to the hotel ... and then I ordered myself a delicious meal and waited for him to pick you up, hehe! I bet that 90% of men will run to the hotel after receiving this call. After all, it costs hundreds of thousands every day! Few husbands or mothers-in-law are not distressed. Maybe other 10% husbands don't care if they have money! Then run away, such as Hong Kong, Paris, Hawaii, etc ..., so that running away from home once is enough to impress him, and see if he dares to provoke you next time? Don't speak ill of your mother-in-law in front of outsiders. Maybe someone will scold me. Are you kidding? Being angry with my mother-in-law, I can't tell my husband, nor can I tell outsiders. Is there justice? Yes, it seems difficult to do this. Look at the blood and tears of the sisters in the forum and you will know how many bitter tears there are in the world as a daughter-in-law! And when friends get together at ordinary times, it seems that the evil mother-in-law at home is the one who talks the most! China's daughter-in-law is bitter! But outsiders here are specific, that is, people who know both themselves and their mother-in-law can complain on the forum, but if you speak ill of your mother-in-law in front of these people, aren't you afraid that your words will be embellished and passed on to her mother-in-law one day? It's true that we should not wash our dirty linen in public, but it's more important not to be looked down upon as Sister Xianglin. Even if you know that your mother-in-law speaks ill of you in front of outsiders, don't answer blows with blows, an eye for an eye. What's the difference between you and your mother-in-law with a long tongue? A clever daughter-in-law will do this: my mother-in-law says that I am not good in front of people, and I will say that she is good in front of people! Don't worry about being accused by your mother-in-law. Please be sure to believe the saying "justice is in the hearts of the people". Mother-in-law criticizes you in every way, but you repay kindness with evil. Isn't it clear at a glance what is right and wrong? Wait until those people return your words to your mother-in-law's ear and see if she is ashamed to death! 6. Don't exaggerate the grievances you suffered in your husband's family. There is no denying that every daughter-in-law will be wronged in her husband's family more or less. Perhaps it is the unintentional loss of the other party, or it may be intentional. Many daughters-in-law themselves can't resolve this resentment in their hearts. So I will think about it, and the more I think about it, the more I feel that I have been greatly wronged, and in this process, I will infinitely magnify the mistakes of the other party, and I will ignore my responsibility in the incident. This may be because many daughters-in-law are isolated in their in-laws and have an instinctive sense of defense, so they are too sensitive to events related to themselves. Another situation is that some daughters-in-law have a delusion of persecution and always feel that the other party is up to no good. She is like smart, beautiful and kind Snow White, and her mother-in-law is a vicious queen. She won't stop until she kills herself, so she feels sorry for herself. A woman is a delicate animal, but sometimes this delicate feeling is "narrow-minded" in the eyes of her husband's family. I also think that some trivial things at home are not worth making a fuss about. The careless daughter-in-law thing has disappeared before, and the relationship with in-laws may be the most harmonious. As long as the in-laws don't attack or insult themselves personally, a clever daughter-in-law can pretend not to understand or laugh it off. So, sometimes you might as well be a smart silly elder sister, which may make you happier. 7. Be sure to find a suitable opportunity to show the essence of your tigress in front of your mother-in-law. Everyone has a bad habit of bullying and being afraid of hard work, especially many mother-in-law now. The more docile you are in front of her, the more she thinks you are a soft persimmon that can be pinched at will. Of course, you can't quarrel with her, but this doesn't necessarily mean that you can't quarrel with others, but this person had better not choose your husband or anyone who is related to her. Give him a good scolding if you have the chance to catch the unlucky guy! Even if it is unreasonable to insist, at this time, you should show the worst and most vicious side of your personality incisively and vividly. Don't be afraid to carry the notoriety of a bitch, a bitch will splash women! As long as your mother-in-law can see, we are not without temper. We don't lose our temper with her not because we are afraid of her, but because we respect her as an elder! Take this as a warning to her: the tiger doesn't show off, don't treat me like a sick cat!