Methods 1: Understand jealousy.
1, admit that you have psychological problems. Before you start to deal with jealousy, you must first admit that it is a sticking point in your life and makes you dislike yourself more and more. Jealousy will weaken your self-confidence and become an obstacle to your progress. If you meet the following description, it means that jealousy is gradually devouring your life. What I think most every day is to fantasize about having what others have and seldom appreciate myself.
Constantly compare yourself with friends, family or colleagues and find that you are always inferior to others.
You are jealous of a person in life, and when you are with him, you can't help but want to be as good as him.
Jealous of the love of all your friends, I wish I could have half of them.
During the period of love, they can't stand their partner's contact with other members of the opposite sex, and think that the only purpose for them to approach their partner is to snatch him away.
I kept going through each other's personal homepage, even his mobile phone and email, just to see if he had any signs of cheating.
Always compare your partner, work and family with everyone you know.
Every time I see a friend with a new friend to play with, I am particularly jealous. I even said to myself: What did I do wrong?
2. Reflect on where jealousy comes from. Once you admit that you have a little monster named "jealousy" in your heart, the first thing to do is to think about why you are jealous of others. If you think others have their own but don't, then your life must be biased. The next step will help you understand where your jealousy comes from. Are you just jealous of some aspect of your friend's life? If you are just jealous that your feelings are not as sweet as friends, then you should manage your feelings well. If you find that this relationship has no remedial value, break up directly. If you are jealous of your friend's courage to pursue art and dare not take a step, it may indicate that you need to re-plan your career.
Are you jealous of what others have? If you feel that you have nothing to envy, it means that you are insecure and confident. Before you overcome jealousy, you need to correct the way you look at yourself.
Are you jealous of other people's looks? Think you can live better if you have a beautiful appearance like them? Then you should establish your own unique style, eat a balanced diet and exercise more. Or look in the mirror every day and enjoy the most satisfying part of yourself.
Method 2: Improve yourself.
1, improve yourself. If you are a slow-moving person, it is very likely that the reason why you feel unworthy of being appreciated is that you are bored and lifeless. It's time to be satisfied with yourself and not be jealous of others. You can do this: build confidence. Write down your strengths and weaknesses on paper. Try to overcome your own shortcomings and gradually become more and more satisfied with yourself. Living in your own way will make you happier and less jealous.
The most common jealousy is often material. If you are jealous that your friend is richer than you, you must accept the fact that you really can't afford what he can buy. Then what you should do is to save some money to add something useful to your wardrobe or room. Only in this way can you be happy with what you can have.
Go to the gym. If you are just jealous of your friend's thick abdominal muscles and feel at home in the gym, then you should remember that although God has given everyone a different body, you can still control your body effectively. However, if you think everyone around you is better looking than you, and you can't change your appearance, then you may have a body problem and should seek the help of a doctor.
Be yourself. If you have been following others' actions, imitating others' appearance, or looking for the same emotional trajectory, you will never be able to overcome jealousy. No two people are exactly alike. Always imitating other people's lives will only make you feel worse. Although everyone has something to learn, don't forget that you are a unique individual and don't compare yourself with others.
2. Do what you should do. You may be jealous of others because you hate doing the same thing every day. In order to avoid this kind of psychology, you should be proud of your great responsibility and excited that you can pursue your interests. If you are busy fighting for your goals every day, you won't have the energy to envy what others are doing. Do more things you like. If you waste more time admiring what others do, it may be because you don't do more things that you are proud of. Read poems, plays and novels to improve your cultural level, or learn some practical skills such as sewing and repairing. The more you improve yourself, the more satisfied you are with yourself.
Work hard. If you are jealous of others' persistent pursuit of dreams or job promotion, you should either work harder or consider changing jobs.
Set and achieve goals. Starting from small things, you can't make a thousand miles without accumulating steps. If you achieve a goal, you will be proud of your ability and try to set new goals for yourself.
3. Improve your interpersonal relationship. If you are jealous of other people's many friends, or love is sweet, it may be your own interpersonal problems. Try to do something interesting with friends and establish an open and honest relationship. If you are satisfied with your friend or partner, you won't envy others' friendship or love. If you have strong feelings, you will feel safe and secure. If you have a friend approaching you to show off, it's time to break up with him. If a friend always makes you jealous by showing off himself, maybe you should consider whether to continue this friendship.
Improve family relations. If you don't spend a lot of time with your family, you may envy other people's close relationships. Making more phone calls at home and going out with your family will make your family relationship more optimistic.
Manage your love. If you are in a serious relationship, you should have more confidence and remove obstacles. If you are still single, don't envy others, rejoice in your freedom and expect that person to appear in the future.
Method 3: broaden your horizons
1, remind yourself how lucky you are. When you are blinded by jealousy, it is impossible to look at things objectively and understand how lucky you are. Tell yourself how lucky you are to have clean water, delicious food, healthy body and even a computer at any time. Think of it this way: you know that you are luckier than most people in the world, and many people can't even meet their basic needs. You shouldn't have experienced real hunger. Your body is at least healthy. Even if you feel unwell, you are prone to get sick. You can wear warm and beautiful clothes, and your place is not oppressive to you. This is what many people don't have.
You know, you have something that others envy. List at least 20 things that you have and others want to have, which can be as basic as "running water" or as detailed as "talking makes others laugh"
Understand that the life of the person you are jealous of is not perfect. Don't unrealistically envy what others can't get. Look at what you admire in others and what they expect of themselves. Maybe while you envy his love, he also looks forward to having loving parents like you. You may be jealous of your friend's promotion, but he may also want to be a freelance artist like you.
2. Be helpful. If you are always charitable, you will not only be happy with your generosity and help others, but also realize that you have something they can appreciate. Volunteer in the community. You can volunteer to help people learn English, read books, or distribute food at food aid stations. Go deep into helping people meet their basic needs, and you will find how lucky you are in life.
Help people you know. Help a friend solve emotional problems, or motivate a classmate to finish school. Understanding the plight of others will make you realize that everyone has their own difficulties, and you are not the only one who needs to improve your life.
Do small things for the people you love. Help a friend in trouble wash clothes. If his car breaks down, you can give him a ride. You will be proud of being helpful and realize your value more clearly.
Method 4: Live an active life.
1 Accept yourself. It is a long process to reflect on your jealousy and make yourself a better person. However, you still have to remember that no matter who you are, you can't be perfect. There is always something you envy in this world. Life is unfair. No matter how hard you try, you can't get everything, but some people are born luckier than you. Once you accept this fact, you can let go.
I like to be my own feeling. Like everyone else, you have shortcomings. Look for opportunities to appreciate your uniqueness and be your best. Arrange some time alone and enjoy your own space.
Focus on what you have. Although your life is flawed, you can still pay more attention to what you have and love, such as your feelings or your job. Focus on what you have and love, not what you want.
2. avoid jealousy. After trying to overcome jealousy, we should prevent jealousy from running out again. Here are some ways to avoid jealousy effectively: don't take everything around you for granted. Wake up every morning and count 10 things you should be grateful for. Doing them every day will convince you that you are a person without jealousy.
Avoid situations that lead to jealousy. If you are a jealous girl, don't fall in love with boys who like to contact the opposite sex. If you have a friend who has everything and makes you feel ashamed, you can also play less with him.
Realize the existence of jealousy. Once you realize that you are jealous again, it's time to go home and reflect. Why are you so jealous of this man? How to effectively control this jealousy?
It's good to know that you are jealous occasionally. Don't give up on yourself just because you envy everything. For example, if you have a friend who bought a new car, you hope you can buy one, or if your friend announces that you are getting married, and you hope you will have a boyfriend soon, then your envy is normal. If jealousy starts to dominate your life and behavior, then you are really in trouble.
Tip: Don't always talk about how lucky others are. This will make the atmosphere stiff and make people around feel embarrassed.
Envy is an unpleasant quality. If you are in love, remember that nothing is more annoying than jealousy. Because this will make people feel that you are very uneasy and will become a big obstacle in love.
Warning: If you try all the methods and find that your life is unsatisfactory and there is no way to improve your situation, you may suffer from depression and you should seek medical advice as soon as possible.