We fantasize more than once that when we are old, surrounded by our children and grandchildren, we will enjoy the family happiness in our later years, but when we walk, we will find that life after retirement is lonely and far from being as beautiful as we thought.
After retirement, the children have formed their own families and are busy in a corner of the city. Just like when we were young, we had no time to take care of our lonely parents. It has become an extravagant hope to go home to see them on holidays.
Being surrounded by children and grandchildren is even more extravagant. Grandchildren need to go to school, and they will be alienated from you when they grow up. Apart from loneliness and loneliness, they will only live alone.
Living alone is everyone's destination. If you dare to face up to its existence, you won't feel terrible, let alone afraid.
So, how should we face up to living alone? In fact, after retirement, if you have begun to live alone, it is best to use these two ways to relieve loneliness!
Reading, swimming in the sea of books
After retirement, we need to adapt to life at work quickly. Loneliness will inevitably follow us, and we can't get rid of it anyway. It is better to learn how to get along with loneliness than to treat it as an enemy.
Jia Pingwa once described loneliness like this. He wrote in "Walking Alone": Real loners don't talk about loneliness, but occasionally make some long screams, just like the wild animals we meet.
Living alone is not really lonely. It is only because you have nothing to do and don't know what to do at this moment that you are bored, so you call it loneliness.
Most old people like to use lively atmosphere to eliminate loneliness, but this only solves temporary troubles. When you are immersed in a person's life, loneliness will still appear. The more you are eager to struggle, the easier it is to get into it and often feel that you can't get rid of it.
In fact, if you really want to get rid of loneliness, it is not to drive it away from you, but to be with loneliness, so that you can have something in your heart and feel that living alone is a very meaningful thing.
Jia Pingwa, a writer, advocates that the elderly should read more books in Alone. Books are the most important companion in life, the treasure of spiritual world and the substitute of loneliness.
If you can swim in the ocean of books, will you still feel lonely? When you pick up Mr. Jia Pingwa's "Walking Alone", will you also find the joy of life and experience different feelings of living alone? When reading becomes a habit, you will feel comfortable instead of being afraid of living alone.
If you feel lonely now, you might as well read the book "Walking Alone", which will definitely help you get rid of loneliness and get out of the predicament of life.
Fitness, body is the capital of revolution.
After retirement, because I don't need to work, my health will definitely get worse and worse. In addition, with the growth of age, all kinds of negative emotions on TV and their fear of loneliness will follow.
An old man who is already in poor health, the more willing he is to entertain foolish ideas, will easily lead to emotional collapse, affect his life and be unable to get rid of loneliness.
Therefore, whether from a physiological point of view or a psychological point of view, the body is the capital of the revolution, and it is necessary and urgent to maintain one's own health.