0 1. Love yourself
The love for yourself here is not what some rural women call buying the best bags, eating the best meals and using the best cosmetics, but that you are making progress every day, and you can feel that you are different from yourself yesterday and have made little progress every day.
For example, you start to pay attention to your figure and start fitness, learn makeup from online beauty bloggers, or improve your mental level, read more books, or cultivate your hobbies. Of course, the hobby of burning money should be considered according to girls' wallets and learn new life skills. These are essentially for loving yourself and improving your performance.
There is another direction, cherish yourself, there are some untouchable bottom lines, don't try to touch them! The most important thing is to invest in yourself and improve your inner core competitiveness. Even if you leave your boyfriend in the future, you are still an excellent girl, which is far more cost-effective than spending time on your boyfriend. Mirror question: If your boyfriend gets better and better, will you become more and more proud and love him more and more?
02. Emotional value (1)
You can't deny that as long as people need a steady stream of emotional value to make themselves comfortable, this sad value can be praised by others or put on 13, and you will have heartfelt pleasure and satisfaction.
When girls are angry or depressed and unhappy, most of them will coax boys, so that boys can easily check their feelings quickly and provide them with emotional value. When boys are angry, depressed and unhappy, most of them don't talk much, because boys really don't like to show negative energy in front of girls they like. At this time, women need a strong sense of smell. Generally, you should observe his attitude and tone. When you notice that he is unhappy, don't think that boys are not easy to coax. In fact, boys are really easy to coax.
There are too many places in life that can provide emotional value, such as verbally affirming him as much as possible. When he installed 13, (this 13 has nothing to do with it), although you know he is installing 13, you can cooperate with him and make him install it comfortably.
03. Emotional value (2)
Your partner has done something that he is proud of. Don't be indifferent, fight. You should learn to share his happiness and success with him, and even be smarter. While affirming him, let him treat you or let him buy something you like. This is a very clever way to share success and recognize him!
Pay attention to your partner's financial ability in consumption. Therefore, providing emotional value is not just what you have paid for each other. As long as you girls are smart enough, you can bring emotional value to each other and let them drag money. I believe most men are willing to pay for it. Mirror question: If a boy can provide you with a steady stream of emotional value, will you love him more?
04. About coquetry and games
If your coquetry is just right, you kiss him gently, and you affirm him, you can't coax the other person well, indicating that he may not love you so much. Also, if a boy always shows negative energy in front of the girl he likes, first, this person is either selfish or naive. Second, this boy doesn't like that girl that much. In short, it's not a good match. The girl needs careful consideration and stop loss in time.
The best situation that you need to give the other person emotional value is: 1. This man wants to improve himself. 2. The man's achievement is good for your future life. Men do this to provide you with emotional value. The above situations include but are not limited to this.
The opponent's game behavior affects normal life. At this time, you should never praise the other side for playing the game well, but should limit the other side's behavior to some extent. (except professional players or those who live by games) As a girl, you don't want your boyfriend to be a cripple who can only play games, do you?
05. parenting
The so-called self-cultivation, as I said before, means that people's emotions are never happy, or they rise from dull to happy, and self-cultivation means that they will not reduce each other's emotions in most cases. Needless to say, everyone will be influenced by family and environment, and can only pay attention to it slowly. After all, everyone's understanding in this respect is still slightly different. Mirror question: When you meet a well-educated boy, will you naturally have a good impression on him and love him more?
give
Giving to each other is undeniable. As long as people are involved, the gene of ta has an obvious bad root, and the more easily obtained, the less cherished it is. However, with the growth of age and experience and the improvement of emotional intelligence, many people have gradually eliminated this bad root to some extent.
As a couple, since it is the closest relationship, it is not appropriate to use the above methods. It is necessary to learn from each other. We can let the other side get my pay easily, but we must let the other side pay some.
I give it a peach, you give it back! This mutual contribution can be induced by you or by the man. In short, many times, the man needs to pay something. On the contrary, when he is paying for you, you must also give some feedback. So boys will be immersed in the joy of being rewarded for their efforts. From the result-oriented point of view, you also provide emotional value for each other, and your contribution is equally precious.
07. Send charcoal in the snow
Your contribution is very valuable to him. This is not something he can reach out and get. He should do as little as possible. Of course, doing less does not mean not doing it. It is necessary to do it occasionally to increase your interest. If your boyfriend can give you positive emotional feedback in this accidental process, besides your sweet words, your boyfriend is also very satisfied. It can be said that reaching this point is really enviable.
Sulking in life is the worst policy for a person. It is the best policy to tell him directly that it is the middle policy, to learn to use smart methods to achieve a win-win situation, and at the same time to sweep away the negative emotions accumulated in front of him. You can learn more about boys' feelings and emotions, and start to help your favorite boys in this respect, which can have the same effect, even better than the effect achieved from things. When a man is in a bad mood, girl, you take the initiative to coax him and eliminate his depression. This is a typical example of timely assistance, and only your girlfriend can do it.