Leave a spare tire, fall in love with two people at the same time, do not take responsibility, pass the buck, etc. ...
He Shuhuan is a scum, but his scum is completely insignificant in front of Xu Zhimo.
When we mention Xu Zhimo, we will definitely think of the song Farewell to Cambridge, the love that he and talented woman Lin Hui can't have because of romance, the vigorous love between him and Lu Xiaoman, his talent and his talent. ...
Anyone who knows him well knows that he also has an original wife, Zhang Youyi. Their marriage was a victim of feudal society and ended in divorce.
There is no denying that Xu Zhimo is a rare talent, and he has dazzling talent. Emotionally, he is very devoted, love is love, no love is no love, and he can give up everything for love.
But he gave the most ruthless and indifferent side to the most innocent original wife.
So today, I really want to stand in Zhang Youyi's position and accuse Xu Zhimo of love rat's behavior.
When Xu Zhimo saw Zhang Youyi's photo for the first time, his mouth curled down and he left a sentence: "Hillbilly!"
Let's see if this evaluation is pertinent.
On family background: Zhang Jia is a local tyrant, and his ancestors worked as local officials in the Qing Dynasty. Zhang Youyi comes from a big family and is a well-deserved lady.
On Appearance: Zhang Youyi has exquisite facial features. In that era when there was no ps and no cosmetic surgery, such a face value was at least above average. But judging from this photo, her eyes are big, but her spirit is not enough, and her lips are thick, giving people a feeling of simplicity and old age. Perhaps this is why Xu Zhimo thinks she is "rustic".
On knowledge: Zhang Youyi was born in a scholarly family and studied in Suzhou No.2 Women's Normal School. Although she dropped out of school after only three years because she was going to get married, she still hired a tutor to study English, geography, history and so on.
On personality: Xu Zhimo's nephew Yan Xu commented on her: "Strong personality, strict discipline, especially when she is big, full of means; Very independent, also very independent, quite active ... "
On personality: Liang Qiushi praised her as "graceful", and charming Luo Longji even fell in love with her at first sight.
It can be said that Zhang Youyi was definitely "rich and beautiful", not "country bumpkin".
When Xu Zhimo's eyes were blinded by prejudice, he turned a blind eye to these advantages of Zhang Youyi. However, Zhang Youyi never understood it and didn't even want to say a few words.
Xu Zhimo is a young man influenced by western education and trendy ideas. Faced with the shackles of this feudal dogma, he naturally hated it.
But judging a person who has never seen him by only one photo is full of the stench of male chauvinism and self-expansion.
/kloc-At the age of 0/8, Zhang Youyi gave birth to their first son. Later, Zhang Youyi came to London to accompany her and soon became pregnant with a second child.
At this point, Xu Zhimo was pursuing Lin and had no time to take care of Zhang Youyi, so he asked Zhang Youyi to abort the child.
In those days, abortion was risky. Zhang Youyi said, "I heard that someone died of abortion."
Xu Zhimo said coldly: "Someone died by train. Don't you see people don't take the train? "
Tone, full of ridicule and disdain, as if their mother and son's life and death has nothing to do with themselves.
Later, Zhang Youyi did not have an abortion, and Xu Zhimo filed for divorce. Zhang Youyi refused and left, leaving pregnant Zhang Youyi in Shaston.
A woman, pregnant, was abandoned by her husband in a foreign country and had no one to support her. What is terrible is that this husband actually speaks plausibly and has no sense of guilt at all.
Later, with the help of his second brother, Zhang Youyi went to Berlin to have a baby, but Xu Zhimo knew the whereabouts of Zhang Youyi and ignored it. He only went to Berlin when going through the divorce formalities, forcing Zhang Youyi to sign a divorce agreement. It was only because Lin had returned to China at that time that he was eager to return to China to pursue Lin.
But he never asked Zhang Youyi how to raise this child and how their orphans and widows could live.
At that time, Zhang Youyi's heart was broken, and she even wanted to die with her children. But in the end, she stood up strongly and did not give up her parents and children.
When Zhang Youyi was most miserable and wanted to end his life, Xu Zhimo finally followed Lin back to China.
Marriage is sacred. Unlike love, which is protected by law, it is responsible in marriage.
As a husband, Xu Zhimo cheated during pregnancy, forced his wife to have an abortion, and was cold and violent. ...
As a father, Xu Zhimo went abroad to study as soon as his eldest son was born. The second son died at the age of three. He has never seen his father several times, and he has never enjoyed his father's love for a day.
It can be said that in this marriage, Xu Zhimo did not fulfill his due obligations and did not shoulder his due responsibilities, no matter what role he played.
Zhang Youyi treated Xu Zhimo sincerely and silently.
She was distressed that her husband could not study, so she asked her second brother to find a school for Xu Zhimo and tried her best to convince Xu Zhimo's father.
She is filial to her parents-in-law. Even after the divorce, she still took good care of Xu Zhimo's parents. Even the funerals of the two old people were arranged by her.
After the death of his youngest son Peter, Xu Zhimo regretted it and was very sad. Zhang Youyi did not care about his indifference over the years, but extended a warm hand to Xu Zhimo and tried every means to comfort him. ...
But Xu Zhimo, from beginning to end, only thought about himself, and never considered anything for Zhang Youyi.
Many people don't understand, since Xu Zhimo didn't accept Zhang Youyi at first, why did he have a child with her?
The reason is that Xu Zhimo wants to study in the United States, but his father means that he can only go abroad if he completes the task of carrying on the family line.
After the birth of the eldest son, Xu Zhimo only stayed with his son for a month and couldn't wait to stay at school.
Zhang Youyi herself knows that she is just an autumn fan for Xu Zhimo, and when she is useless, she will be torn by her master.
Maybe you just don't love it. No matter how much the other person pays for himself, you will never realize the value of that friendship.
In their relationship, we can also see many love rat characteristics of Xu Zhimo: while enjoying the kindness of the other party, he is shirking his responsibility by "not loving".
Between sickbeds, he doesn't care about the danger and hardship of raising children, just to complete the task and get permission to study abroad.
Leaving her alone in sulston, I never thought about how she, a woman about to give birth, could give birth in a foreign country without friends.
When he divorced, he never thought about how much bitterness and supercilious ridicule a divorced woman would experience with her children.
From beginning to end, he always puts his own interests first.
Rather than hating Zhang Youyi, he really resisted marriage in feudal times, which was "the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers".
But is it Zhang Youyi's fault that Zhang Youyi married Xu Zhimo? She did not obey her parents' orders, and she was not a victim. She doesn't want much. She just wants to live in peace and have a warm support. I just never imagined that the man I married wouldn't even pretend to love myself.
Finally, Zhang Youyi, who was black and blue, experienced darkness and helplessness. After continuous study and hard work, she was finally reborn. She became the president of a commercial bank, trading stocks and doing business, and achieved a career that even men should envy.
Later, she met a gentle doctor, Su Jizhi, and spent the rest of her life in peace with Mei.
Zhang Youyi said: I want to thank Xu Zhimo for divorcing me and letting me find myself.
Speaking of which, behind this, I don't know how many tears and bitterness are filled.
But as long as she can get a little happiness and enjoy a little love in this marriage, she doesn't need to arm herself and turn herself into a strong woman.
What woman doesn't want to be held in her hand all the time and grow up all her life? I had to arm myself because no one loved me and no one relied on me.
No matter how tough a woman is, her heart is full of little girls who are eager to be spoiled!
Who can live without going through love rat several times?
Although we can't completely avoid love rat, we can choose to do something to reduce our harm.
In love, you must not love each other too much, just keep seven or eight points of love, and the rest is used to love yourself, because only by loving yourself can you get better love from others.
Girls should also strive to become stronger and have certain financial resources, so that they can have capital. When they meet love rat, they should bravely say "fuck off" to him, instead of being afraid that they will choose to compromise because they have no money.
If you happen to meet love rat, don't miss it and leave bravely! Like Zhang Youyi, arm yourself with knowledge and ability. Only by becoming better can we win respect and have a better home.
Life is long, and love is only a small part of our life. After the sadness, forget it! Then get up early, read books, make soup, exercise, study, travel … enrich yourself, and you will find that life is so beautiful and colorful.
Finally, I send you a poem I like very much: If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come, if you are wonderful, the weather will be arranged by yourself.