"Ha ha, help me sort out the information on the table."
"Xiao He, get me a glass of water."
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The phone calls from these old employees made Xiao He feel annoyed and Xiao He felt wronged. Why did you become a handyman when you came to work? She really wants to lose her temper with these bossy old employees, but she is afraid of offending them and can only secretly scold these old employees who bully her.
Cases like Xiao He are not uncommon in the workplace. Many newcomers in the workplace will face these problems when they first join the company, and it is normal to be bossed around by old employees.
As a new employee, you must have a correct attitude. You must think that you are here to work and study. Although you often help old employees with miscellaneous things, as long as you handle these relationships well, you will certainly grow from them. For a strange environment, you will need help with many work-related problems. In addition to teaching you the method with the master, you can also learn useful things from other old employees. But this premise is that you have to let other old employees teach you willingly. There is such a concept in "The Weakness of Human Nature", which says, "If you want to get benefits from a person, you must first get this person's good opinion of you, and you must pay first to get it."
Therefore, it is not a bad thing to be bossed around by old employees. You can get closer to each other on the grounds of helping others, and then you can naturally ask various questions after getting the favor of the old employees. Generally speaking, many old employees will be happy to answer your questions, first, because of their good feelings for you, and second, because of your enthusiastic feedback.
Since we cannot change the rules, we should maximize the benefits of the rules.
Narrow-minded people will see despair in the grievances in the workplace, and those who know how to think in the opposite direction will see hope. The reason for the difference in thinking comes from your cognitive level of things. For example, you were scolded by the leader and denied your work, but in fact you understand the hardships of all the processes. You just can't figure out why the leader only pays attention to your shortcomings and never mentions your advantages, which makes you feel wronged.
Misunderstanding makes you feel wronged, doesn't it? Of course, people are a combination of sensibility and rationality, and love and hate are distinct. Of course, they all like to listen to good words rather than negative ones, and they prefer to seek truth from facts. Did the leader criticize you, scold you and deny your work? Of course there is nothing wrong. Because the leader's thinking only recognizes the results but not the process, as long as the results he sees are not satisfactory, even if your process is no matter how good, it will be completely denied. That is the reality. In this case, how to maximize the benefits is the best policy, and finding experience from it to avoid such things is the king. Don't try to convince the leader, he sees the illusion, he doesn't see the essence of things. He doesn't have time to listen to your gossip. He often only believes what he sees and judges the degree of your work.
Therefore, it is normal to be wronged in the workplace, but you should learn how to handle grievances correctly. You need to do the following:
One: In the face of the grievances given by the leaders, you must learn to face up to them. Even if you are right, don't explain and quibble, which may offend the leaders and even make them lose face. Once opposed, it indirectly shows that the leaders don't know enough about things. What you should do is to accept it with an open mind, learn from it and put an end to such things.
Two: in the face of the grievances of colleagues, as long as you don't touch your bottom line. Then you should think about how to maximize your interests instead of fighting back. Sometimes you can take the initiative by taking a step back.
Three: in the face of bullying by colleagues without a bottom line, we must not be too tolerant. You must fight back when you fight back, but you must learn how to fight back. Fighting back in the most correct and appropriate way can often defeat the enemy in one fell swoop. Be sure not to do whatever you want because of impulse, which may be very unfavorable to yourself.
Four: Don't explain too much in the face of misunderstanding, and stop here. Often, the more you explain, the more people feel that you are avoiding yourself. People who believe in you will always believe in you, and those who don't believe in you will explain too much, which will make people even more deny you. Silence is sometimes the best counterattack.
Of course, workplace grievances are often not limited to these, but also include grievances brought by customers and other grievances. However, if you encounter these grievances again, you must remember one thing: "maximize the benefits of grievances." Only in this way can you get rid of them and treat the grievances of these people from different identities with a more rational attitude, instead of getting deeper and deeper. On the contrary, it is easy to see the essence and problems.