I watched a video the other day, which made me pay attention to the word "cyber violence" again. Interestingly, the popularity of this word has not diminished, and an explosive news broke out from time to time, which made us have to turn our attention to it.

In fact, celebrities suffer the most cyber violence, because they are public figures, and their every move will be closely watched. Therefore, they should be extra careful when going out and always pay attention to their words and deeds. As long as it's not good enough and doesn't suit the spectator's heart, it will create endless abuse.

Some people may say, don't I mean you? I don't know. You went back to blx, didn't you? Does this sound like something your parents scolded you when you were a child?

"Why? Is it hard to say now? "

Anyone who has experienced childhood knows that parents' verbal violence is sometimes more hurtful than behavioral violence. Children who grow up in an environment of verbal violence for a long time are prone to inferiority complex when they grow up.

For famous celebrities, being hurt by cyber violence is as cruel as a child being accused by thousands of parents in Qian Qian. And because there is more than one tragedy of cyber violence.

On September 20 16 16, singer Kimi was overwhelmed by the depression caused by cyber violence and chose to end her life.

2015,21,model Cindy was accused by the outside world and verbally oppressed, accusing her of drinking and selling her body. She clarified the matter by posting, but no one believed it. Finally, she made a final cry for her young life.

Singer G.E.M. admitted in an interview that he wanted to commit suicide more than once because he couldn't stand cyberbullying.

There are too many such cases. It is not only these celebrities who are deeply affected by cyber violence, but even an ordinary person who has misbehaved for a while is undoubtedly reviled after being exposed.

A woman took a selfie in front of the monument with rude gestures, which aroused people's great anger and became a street mouse shouted by everyone. It is too easy for people to define others because of a photo, an action and a sentence, and criticize others' faults with subjective thick-line cognition.

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A few days ago, I saw a video in Chinese Dream Show, in which a dream catcher performed on the stage and opened dozens of locks in two minutes to guard against the challenge of the hostess's rescue in the secret room. There is a balloon in the secret room, which will explode if it is not opened within a limited time.

After watching the video, I habitually clicked on the comments and found that almost no one in the comments said how fast the challenger's unlocking technology was, and they were all reprimanding the hostess. Just because I was afraid when I unlocked the lock, I kept shouting "Hurry up, the balloon is going to burst."

While reading the comments, I was thinking, maybe the hostess was really afraid of the balloon explosion, or maybe her childhood experience made her have a shadow over the balloon explosion; It is also possible that the director asked the challenger to show some sense of urgency in order to enhance the effect of the program when she unlocked the lock. Most people casually comment on that sentence with the mentality of watching the excitement and not being too big, which may have caused unspeakable harm to the parties.

Seeing this, you may say, "I'm not a keyboard man, I'm not that ugly." These people are only a minority, and not everyone will scold you like this. "

It's hard to guarantee that when everyone is pointing fingers at this person, it's easy for you to scold along with him. In the face of public opinion, too many people easily lose their judgment, and their judgment will be biased by some winds at any time. And you won't risk standing on the opposite side of everyone to refute it, so many people just jokingly say:

I feel that I am quite "in line with the people's hearts" and I still have a little snickering mentality. But I'm sorry, although you are not the perpetrator, you have become an accomplice.

Many tragedies caused by cyber violence are not because one or two ugly words fell on the scene, but because everyone said so. Everyone is unwilling to believe me and stand on the side of violence, which makes me desperate and helpless. No one wants to stand on my side and understand me. Not a few people scold themselves, but a group of people say so. This is the real cause of the tragedy.

Maybe you just typed a few words in the evaluation and thought it was harmless, but what you did encouraged the arrogance of the perpetrators and let more people join the ranks of violence.

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Once, a self-media video program did an experiment to simulate what it was like to find a pair of actors to play the common abuse on the internet in public when these cyber violence went to the real world.

A girl in hot pants was sitting in the rest area of the shopping mall when a man came over.

"Are you dating a beautiful woman?"

"Who are you?"

"Don't pretend, don't you dress so sexy? What are you embarrassed about? "

A girl in COS costume was on the subway, and a middle-aged woman pointed at her nose and scolded her.

"You can't learn, dress up every day. All the children in our family are influenced by you people. It's really embarrassing to come out dressed like this. "

Several boys were sitting in a coffee shop, snuggling up to each other, talking and laughing. If you come alone, shout when you come up.

"How dare people like you live in this world? It's disgusting to come out. Why not die? "

These words, which can be seen everywhere on the Internet, are particularly harsh in real life, and the whole picture is full of disobedience. This kind of thing, this kind of words, people will not say it easily in real life. You see, the people who say it are so mean and evil.

Dramatically, these scenes all happen in real life, and most people will stand up and defend the victims, speak for them and strongly condemn the behavior of the perpetrators.

"What people love to wear is their freedom, what's it to you?"

"I don't even know COS, it's too outdated!"

"If you don't like it, get out of here. It's your turn to make irresponsible remarks? "

A warm current welled up in my heart. In real life, we are often kind, civilized and polite in front of people. These are basic qualities, and no one will question that a person should not be like this. When the common language violence on the Internet occurs in real life environment, the painting style obviously becomes abnormal. As soon as ordinary people listen, they know that this is the work of a villain. He is wrong. He shouldn't be so mean and rude.

(The video has been posted in the reading room)

In real life, we will be very uncomfortable to hear such words, and we will not say such words at all, but why can we easily say those slanderous words on the Internet?

Yes, we can hide our identity in the network, because we don't know each other, which makes our words bitter, and because of the pan-entertainment of the network, which makes us feel that it's no big deal that our words are bitter. But the reality tells us again and again that the writing power of the online world is not necessarily weaker than the real world. Don't regard the internet as a barrier for us to use violence, and don't let yourself be an accomplice to cyber violence.

Nowadays, the network is getting closer to our reality and has become a part of real life. The network has gradually become an orderly "society" outside the real world. Then, as a member of this society, should we also have "social order" and "social morality" to restrain people's behavior?