In Shi Bing's class, I have been thinking about the growth of a child, who also proposed it last night. Why do some children grow well? Why do some children feel confident and sunny even if the operation is not perfect? He talked about a cleft lip and palate conference he attended in Jinan, where there was a Korean professor. He could see that the polite professor was a cleft lip patient. Professor Shi asked why people are so knowledgeable, and the problem of cleft lip and palate is not reflected in this Korean professor. In the process of raising children, is it necessary to cultivate their professional skills, which is more conducive to their growth?

In today's lecture, Professor Shi put forward the improvement of sequential therapy for cleft lip and palate. While he was giving a lecture, I was taking notes and thinking about the questions he raised last night. Following his improvement, I am thinking about how to improve the problem of raising children.

Now the cost of raising children is getting higher and higher, but will children grow up? No, the number of neets is increasing, and the problem of juvenile delinquency in society has been rising. Reports of killing mothers and fathers with knives in airports are often seen in newspapers, but the success rate of children with cleft lip and palate is not high, and most of them have inferiority complex. I have also seen many teenagers with cleft lip and palate offline. Because of this cleft lip and palate problem, children are not very confident and can't face life calmly.

These problems are caused by children after teenagers, especially some older young people. Because they are patients with cleft lip and palate, they are treated unfairly in society, and it is difficult to work and get married.

Many children have these problems, so should we go back and see what problems have arisen in the process of raising them? When did something go wrong?

But many parents say that others are raised like this, and so am I. The question now is, what can I do? That's it.

With the live broadcast of Professor Shi Bing's operation on our children, I feel very uncomfortable. There are bloody pictures on the big screen. It's our baby. We must go through hardships again and again to become better. However, if there are more problems in this growing process because of our parenting methods, how can we get a good child? How can I deserve a doctor? They try to sew the children's sizes, hoping that they will have a better future?

Doctors, a sacred profession, can take scalpels. They have to go through at least four years of college and three years of postgraduate study and practice, and finally come to our children and give them a knife!

What about us? Besides food and drink, how should I raise them? How to raise it?

We can learn more advanced parenting concepts, and we can't raise them just because others do.

We enrolled our children in this interest class and that interest class. We hope our children will get better grades. We scrimped and saved and gave them more materials. What happened? Will children be grateful? Can children be themselves?

We thought the child would get better when he grew up, but what happened? Grow up, okay? If it is not good, how to make up for it? Everything has its own rules. Many times, after this time,

It's not necessarily better to start over.

It is really difficult for us to raise children now. The previous generation just gave them food and drink. Now we give them the best food, the best drink, and more importantly, we have to entertain them.

Because our children are children with cleft lip and palate, we will love them more. We only meet our psychological needs by doing so. We said to ourselves, to the children, to the people outside, look, we raise it, we drink it,

We eat them, wear them and treat them. And the result? They have a series of problems. We say that people are raised in this way. We work hard to make money, give our children the best treatment and go to the best schools. Did it turn out well?

What is our goal of raising children? Do you want to eat the best and drink the best? Finally, when they grow up, can they eat the best and live in the best?

Professor Li Meijin, an expert on adolescent issues in China, said that social problems are people's problems, and people's problems are early problems, and early problems are childhood education.

Yu also said that children are parents' photocopiers.

Now everyone is saying that this child's problem is your parents' problem. what do you want to do? There are many courses on how to be a parent. Course fees range from tens of thousands to dozens.

Professor Shi Bing said that the best is the simplest.

I said, teach without words! Our children need to study, which is the first thing they should do well. No matter where we work, we also study, study and strive for perfection.

Professor Shi Bing said that cleft lip and palate surgery is not an immediate operation, and it takes years or even longer to see it.

Yes, raising children is not for eating and drinking today, but for growing up tomorrow. Professor Shi Bing said that technically, he would try to come up with the best surgical method, and the best surgical technique would not leave too many obstacles for children at the starting line.

And what can we do at the children's starting line? Avenue to Jane, let's read to the children!

Our children with cleft lip and palate can't be as perfect as normal children even after surgery. Mothers always worry that their children will feel inferior, but reading can change their lives and enhance their self-confidence. Early education in the West is at least one hundred years earlier than that in China, and compulsory education was made in Japan 1900. In the United States, it was 194 1 after World War II. Compulsory education began in 12, and was implemented in Finland on 192 1. They produced many very good picture books in their early education, and their self-confidence, progress and kindness were all immersed in the books. So I created a reading club for mothers and babies with cleft lip and palate to read books. Starting from me, reading to children is a profound training and a process of accumulation. Just like bamboo in Sichuan.

Read three books and a small picture book to children every day for more than ten minutes, 365 days a year. How many books are there in a year? Just 1095 copies. Of course, you don't have to buy so many books. Just read every three books for a week. It is enough to buy less than 200 books a year.

Read three books a week. It doesn't cost too much to read to children, and it costs a lot to cultivate piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, but there are only two requirements for reading to children, that is, being alive and being able to read. Then reading to children is just these two points. Is it difficult to read only three books a week?

What advantages do we have in children's education, that is, we can read and read. Then stimulate your own advantages and read the book to your children. Just read it. Follow the script. No problem.

What are our weaknesses? We are grassroots, neither the official second generation nor the rich second generation, and we don't have any high academic qualifications. Then let the children study from now on and turn this into an advantage for our children. Reading to children is a long process. Don't think too long. Just remember one thing. Just read at least three books to your child every day. Hang in there. Don't think too much, think less about the future and read more to your children. Bamboo in Sichuan is a case. What is the secret?

? What do many children around me do after school? Take an interest class. What about after interest class? Play! What are you playing? Mobile phone, computer, watch TV! So what do our children do? Read a book! Read a lot! Read picture books before primary school, 200 a year. How many years? 1200 copies! Starting from the sixth year of primary school, one year 100 books is not bad. More than six years? 600 copies Before junior high school, I read nearly 2000 books! Accumulated nearly 2000 extracurricular books to read. Do you think you should worry about your children's study? I've heard that don't worry too much about the grades in primary schools, yes! As long as it's not too bad. 6 to 12 is the golden period for children to read, and it is also the primary school period. If our children have accumulated 1000 books to listen to before school, we don't have to worry about the golden period of reading in the next six years, just buy books and take them to the library.

? Some mothers say that children don't like reading, not only because they don't cultivate the habit of reading, but also because there are no good stories. Good story books are loved by everyone. Choose story books from international prize books first, because those books have a kind of historical precipitation, good-looking, deep and broad, which not only attracts children from the picture first, but also expresses the words in a super vivid way. There are some books that I have read to my children for 30 times, as before. But how can children fall in love with some shoddy story books or all-preaching forms?

? Choose books for your children, and choose them slowly. You can't buy children's books just because you can't see them. Blessed are the people of Suzhou. Taiwan Province Eslite Bookstore has settled in Suzhou, where there are many good books. Shenzhen people are also blessed. Shenzhen Library is the most beautiful, completely open and free. Among them, the collection of picture books in the children's library is amazing, and it is a pleasure to show them to children. Choose another one that you like and is suitable for children. We have no such blessing. We search some books online, look at local bookstores and online stores, buy more good books, or buy some children's libraries in local libraries. The picture book collection of Nanning Children's Library is also good.

There are too many stories, poems and famous sayings to read.

But I really like reading the sentence on the cover of the manual: "You may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewelry and cabinets of gold. But you will never be richer than me. I have a mother who reads to me. "

* * * With everyone! Keep reading to the children! Reading to children is not effective in a day or two. It is necessary to lay a solid foundation for the growth of children bit by bit like Sichuan Phyllostachys pubescens, and it will break out in the future.

The college entrance examination has been reformed again, and the era when Chinese is king has really come. Chinese should be studied from an early age and read at the age of eight.

In addition, a case of Phyllostachys pubescens in Sichuan is attached.

? There is a strange plant in Sichuan-Phyllostachys pubescens.

Its growth process can be described as a miracle of nature. Bamboo is not long in the first five years of planting period. When the rainy season came in the sixth year, it jumped up for about 15 days at a speed of 6 feet every day, and finally it grew to about 90 feet, becoming the height champion in the bamboo forest. More strangely, during its growing period, other plants around Fiona Fang 10 territory stopped growing, and only after the end of its growing period did these plants get the right to grow again.

In the process of "seeking the roots and asking for life", the mystery of this spectacle was unveiled. It turns out that in the first five years, it didn't grow, or even grew less. It just grows in a way that people can't easily find-it takes root underground. After working underground for five years, the root system of a young bamboo that has not yet sprouted has actually developed to more than ten meters around and plunged into the ground for nearly five meters. It is really "extensive and profound". This growth mode not only laid a solid foundation for its growth after five years, but also quietly "invaded" the root development space of other plants around it, making it impossible for them to obtain water and nutrients needed for growth. So when the rainy season comes in the sixth year, it can almost grow by itself in the form of resource monopoly, while other plants around it can only look up at the sky and sigh and watch it grow.

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