A tourist said that he recently found a college classmate basking in his income in a circle of friends, a sum of money he earned after working for about ten years, so he asked her, "How did you make so much money?"

She said that she only did one thing-self-discipline.

After graduating from college, she has been striving for self-improvement, not only admitted to graduate school, but also became a partner of a tutoring institution, and successfully lost 20 pounds.

How can you accomplish so many tasks in such a short time?

In fact, it is very simple, starting with controlling self-control and getting rid of bad habits. Step by step, every day has its own pace of life. Only by persisting every day can we achieve that result.

Bernard Shaw once said, "Self-control is the instinctive reaction of the strong."

Indeed, a successful person is either a strong person who knows how to control himself or a strong person who can control himself. Successful people must have self-control to live an active and healthy life.

When people begin to be self-disciplined, the following four phenomena often occur.

First, keep a good lifestyle.

People with strong self-control must have good habits of work and rest, will ensure adequate sleep time and insist on getting up early.

Many people find it difficult to get up early. Some people even say that getting up late will ruin the morning and getting up early will ruin the whole day. But there is also a saying that a day depends on the morning, and only by getting up early can a beautiful day begin.

Early to bed and early to rise can give people positive self-suggestion. Psychologically, you are a confident person and start a new day. Besides, getting up early will give you more time to spend.

If you have enough time to finish your work, your anxiety and depression will be relieved and your thinking logic will become clearer and clearer.

After trying various methods to improve himself, Mr. Zeng Guopan began to get up early and finally made some progress in other aspects. He also left the world a sentence: "To be a man, you must get up early."

Many people can't get up early, but they can always stay up late. Give up the best sleep time and be confused day and night. People with strong self-control will not let themselves stay up all night.

Staying up late is actually a kind of psychological compensation, making excuses for yourself. What you can't finish during the day can be piled up at night, which can prove how diligent you are, but in fact, your ability is insufficient.

Second, set goals reasonably and effectively.

Self-disciplined people are usually people who set goals for themselves.

Some people pursue perfect and illusory things when setting goals, and the goals set are out of reach and cannot be completed. Others have low self-evaluation and are basically unprepared for the future. Even if they have ideas, they have set a high success rate.

Murphy's Law states that everything takes more time than your budget.

Therefore, setting goals is a technical job.

Vygotsky pointed out that students have two levels of development, one is already there, and the other is possible, that is, to give full play to their potential in classroom teaching. The difference between them is called "near-term development zone".

When we set goals, we should have this idea of "immediate development areas" and set these goals that can be achieved through diligence.

When achieving the goal, we should have countermeasures to divide a big goal into several small goals.

Achieving big goals takes time and effort, and it is easy to give up. But multiple small goals can reduce our cognitive pressure. In the process of refining the goal, you can sort out your own ideas more clearly and understand what you have done and what you have got.

The realization of small goals can not only bring us satisfaction, but also enhance our interest in achieving the next goal and provide continuous motivation.

Third, regard diligence as a habit.

People with strong self-control will regard hard work as a habit.

Whether a thing can be successful requires a lot of time and energy in addition to a certain understanding of one's own abilities.

Some people did guarantee the above two points, but they still got nothing. The point is that you don't regard hard work as a habit. Some people can't wait to return. After a period of hard work, they found that the actual effect was not great and gave up.

However, there are many examples in daily life to remind us that success is only a little more persistence, and it will certainly succeed.

Similarly, it is not correct to equate giving and returning completely.

Social psychology tells us that when a person attributes the root cause of what he does to external conditions, such as for money, he will give up after getting the money. However, if you attribute the reason for doing something to yourself and really want to do something, you will gain continuous driving force.

Fourth, reduce unnecessary interpersonal communication.

Ren Zheng Fei of Huawei said: "People's energy is limited. If I always go to unnecessary occasions, I can't concentrate on doing my own thing. "

RobinDunbar, an expert professor at Oxford University in England, has come to the conclusion through scientific research that human intelligence can make human beings have a social network with no more than 1.48 people. In other words, beyond this data, you are doing ineffective social interaction.

Everyone's time cost is fixed. If you want to get ahead of others, you have to find a way to squeeze in more time. Some people say that young people's time is used for enjoyment, consumption and profligacy, but I don't agree with this view.

Life should not be occupied by these times that have nothing to do with the future. Many people will regret when they reach middle age: the people they played with when they were young have completely lost contact, and those days were really mediocre.

Therefore, we should appropriately decline those ineffective social activities, and those seemingly prosperous lives are obtained by giving up your time cost and killing your fighting spirit.

Wan Weigang said: "If you are a self-disciplined person, you face all kinds of restrictions every day and have all kinds of fixed life processes. You always know what you should do, but you will feel a sense of autonomy. "

Therefore, the more self-discipline, the more successful and ultimately the more free.