? I had afternoon tea with grapefruit a while ago and looked at the delicate ring on her ring finger. I smiled and said, "Congratulations, you finally got married." Grapefruit also smiled. "Then I should thank Mr. Zhu for letting me realize my wish to get married before the age of 30."
Mr. Zhu is naturally the husband of grapefruit. Grapefruit and teacher Zhu have been in love since freshman year, and their feelings are very strong. However, after graduating from college, the couple's emotional development was not smooth, mainly because of Teacher Zhu. After graduation, grapefruit went to work in a bank with a good monthly salary and lived a petty bourgeoisie life. And Teacher Zhu, because he didn't want to spend his life from nine to five, insisted on starting a business, and his immature decision was doomed to failure. Mr. Zhu didn't go to find a job from nine to five, but stayed at home every day. Grapefruit sometimes goes to his house. Mr. Zhu is either playing games with headphones on or lying in bed, half asleep and half awake.
? "On one occasion, I couldn't bear it any longer. I stood in a messy room and asked him, have you ever thought about marrying me? You do this every day. I don't think you love me at all. " Grapefruit took a sip of coffee and lowered his eyes. "He suddenly stood up and said to me, what do you want me to do? Everyone says my girlfriend is very good. What can I do if I'm so hopeless? Then he was like a balloon suddenly deflated. The whole person leaned weakly against me and said softly, grapefruit, what do you think I should do? What should I do now? " Later, Mr. Zhu went out to look for a job. He is looking for the most common job, working from nine to five, and sometimes working overtime, but he is also willing. He worked very hard and saved a sum of money in a few years. Taking advantage of the strong take-away momentum last year, he made a good investment and made a lot of money. At the wedding ceremony, Mr. Zhu said to grapefruit, "You brought me out of the trough. Because of you, I am willing to compromise and change. "
You know, we can never wake people who pretend to sleep. Mr. Zhu didn't know his shortcomings and paranoia before, but kept pretending to sleep. Until one day, he wanted to change himself, he no longer wanted to pretend to sleep, and he woke up. The trough is not terrible, what is terrible is that you are immersed in the trough. All you have to do is wake yourself up and change yourself.
There must be more than one Mr. Zhu in this world. Like me, I had a bad day. "You cried when chatting with me. It's terrible. I am completely scared by you. " T and I passed by the old school a while ago, and T stole a look at me while driving. "Yes, now that I think about it, I am very depressed. Now that I think about it, I always think too much about myself. " I said, propping up my elbow, leaning against the window and gently bending my head.
? I still remember those days clearly. My roommate, who has a tense relationship, was squeezed out of the scholarship that belonged to me, with a full face of acne and a chubby face. All the people and things I want to run away from. I look forward to that day every day, hoping that day will be closer to graduation. I especially want to get out of that environment, but I always dare not move out of that dormitory because of my feelings and fear of being criticized. But the idea that I wanted to change occupied my mind.
At that time, I was just about to prepare for further studies, so I came back to another school 1 hour away from school every day to attend a training class. The life of going out early and returning late has made me less in contact with my roommates, and because I don't have to feel this tight embarrassment every day, my mood has gradually improved, and the whole person's state has also improved.
That's why I know that as long as you get out of the environment that makes you fall into the emotional trough, you can get out of the trough quickly. Whether we can take the initiative to come out or not depends on ourselves. After all, you don't want to go, even if someone drags you away, you can't go far.
Of course, if you really can't escape from the current environment full of negative energy for some reason, then keep yourself busy.
My good friend ZZ recently returned to the workplace. Two years ago, when financial loan intermediaries and WeChat businesses broke out, she resolutely left the bank and went home to "work". She said she wanted to be free, and she wanted to control her time and life. But it turned out that this "freelancer" status was not suitable for her. She failed to achieve the goal of "freedom of time and finance", but began to be depressed and lax. "ZZ, why don't you get a job?" Three months ago, I watched ZZ wearing a loose T-shirt, with rough skin and a few big pimples. I said, "Now you sleep until 10 every day, but you can't sleep at night, and then you either watch your mobile phone or watch your computer all day. You see, not only is your skin poor, but your whole spirit is not very good. " Where is the flower shop in the old bank? "ZZ listlessly raised his eyelids," life is too comfortable and boring, that's all. Make money now. Although you can't support me, you can't starve me. Come on, let's get started. "I don't know what to say when she says that.
But more than a month ago, ZZ suddenly started looking for a job. Naturally, I accompanied her to the mall to buy clothes suitable for interviews and work, because I wanted to try on clothes more appropriately, and ZZ began to make up and tidy herself again. I accompanied her around the shopping malls with flying spirit, and my mood became better. No, yesterday I watched ZZ walk out of the office building arm in arm with his shirt sleeves, talking and laughing with his colleagues. It's really great. When we were having dinner together, ZZ said to me, "It's good to be busy again. Now that I think about it, I have been at home for two years. " Say that finish paused for two seconds, "there are two excel tables to do when I go back at night. I haven't touched these things for too long. They are all rusty. Oh, how long have you been here? You have to work overtime. " I listened to ZZ's seemingly complaining words, but I couldn't see a trace of unhappiness on her face. This busy sense of accomplishment made her find herself again.
The trough will only last for three kinds of people: one is pretending to sleep, the other is passive and the other is leisure. As long as you are willing to be sober, active and busy, it is inevitable to get out of the trough.
Of course, we are not superman or robot. Even if our life is far away from the "land of right and wrong" and full of busyness, negative emotions will still jump out from time to time and occupy our brains. Please allow yourself to be sad at this time.
In the dead of night, we can lick our wounds in our caves like injured animals, and we allow ourselves to temporarily immerse ourselves in the negative emotions brought by the trough. But we should know that there is a time limit for their appearance, and we can only allow them to appear at this time, just once or twice.
At dawn, we will continue to be busy and take the initiative. You know, many things are achieved by pretending. When we pretend to be busy and think about those unhappy in order to escape from the trough, we will find that one day, we don't have to pretend or think about those unhappy. At this time, we know that we have been cured. And this medicine is yourself.
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