Paying homage to relatives and friends also pays attention to order:
Worship the family on the first day; The next day, the third day, I visited my mother's uncle, uncle, father-in-law and so on. Until 16. This custom was popular as early as the Song Dynasty. Mr. Meng described the cloud of Bianjing in the Northern Song Dynasty in Volume 6 of Dream of China in Tokyo: "On October 1st, Kaifeng House was released for three days, and scholars celebrated each other early." In the Qing Dynasty, the New Year greeting etiquette was sublimated. Gu Tieqing, a Qing man, described in Jia Qinglu that "men and women pay homage to their parents, and the master leads them to visit their neighbors, or sends their children to congratulate them, which is called' Happy New Year'. Even if we don't meet at the end of the year, we will worship each other at this time ... "Generally speaking, it is enough for our peers to pay a New Year call.
First of all, worship the elders at home. On the first morning, after the younger generation gets up, they should first pay a New Year call to their elders. Of course, after the elders worship, they will definitely distribute the "lucky money" prepared in advance to the younger generation. What you can't forget is to pay New Year greetings to your neighbors and elders. There is an old saying in China: A distant relative is better than a close neighbor. Therefore, it is second only to our own elders to pay New Year greetings to our neighbors and elders. Generally speaking, neighbors and elders will also give "lucky money".
The second is to visit relatives and friends for the New Year. Be sure to go to your parents-in-law's house on the first or second day, and bring gifts. After entering the door, you should bow down to the Buddha statue, ancestor statue and memorial tablet, and then bow down to your elders in turn.
Then there is a courtesy New Year greeting. If you want to pay a New Year call to your friends, all you have to do is bow to the Buddha when you enter the room. If you are equal to your master, you just have to bow your head. If you are older than yourself, you should still take the initiative to bow your head. The host should get down from his seat to help you, or even say that he is not polite to show his humility. Under normal circumstances, it is not advisable to sit for a long time, and leave after greeting. After the host worships, he should also pay a return visit another day.
There are various ways to pay New Year greetings, such as sending short messages, greeting cards, courtesy calls and telegrams. When you send a greeting card, you will also send your own business card.
In ancient times, if neighbors had too many relatives and friends, it was difficult to walk around the whole house. People call it "flying mail", and let servants take their business cards to pay New Year's greetings. There is a red paper bag with the word "Fu Jie" written on it in front of each house, which is the purpose of posting flying cards. This custom began in the upper class of the Song Dynasty. In the Qing Dynasty, the Yantai Moon Order described the Beijing New Year Festival: "It's a fashion that the moon is flying and the sky is empty." Each family has set up a special door book to record the guests' contacts and flying photos. The front page of the door book is mostly the virtual relatives of four people: one is a centenarian who lives in centenarian lane; One said he was rich and lived in Yuanbao Street. One day, you promised someone and lived in the university archway; One day, Fu Zhao visited his master and lived in Five Blessingg Building. For good luck. So far, the gift of New Year cards and greeting cards during the Spring Festival is the legacy of this ancient exchange of flying cards.
It is very popular for ancient scholars to pay New Year greetings to each other. The New Year drill is today's New Year card, which evolved from ancient business cards. According to Zhao Yi's research in the Qing Dynasty, there was no paper in the Western Han Dynasty, so bamboo was cut into thorns, and the book was named "Ming Thorn". Later, people embroidered the words "business card" on the brocade with red wool. After the Eastern Han Dynasty, wood was replaced by paper, which was called "famous paper". In the Six Dynasties, it was called "Ming" for short, and in the Tang Dynasty it was called "door-shaped". Song dynasty was also called "hand stab" and "door stab".
Precautions for New Year greetings:
Pay attention to dress neatly. Put on some good clothes properly, giving people a festive beauty. Pay attention to the standardization of address. The timing of New Year's greetings should be appropriate. If necessary, you can notify the host first to avoid running empty. If you don't plan to eat, the best time is 9 am to 1 1.
1, it is best to wear new clothes, mainly warm colors, and red is better, which not only exaggerates the festive atmosphere, but also has the traditional meaning of seeking good fortune and avoiding evil. Don't wear black or white.
Don't forget to get a haircut when you wear new clothes. As the saying goes, "If you have money, you must shave your head for the New Year". Be sure to clean your hair when you pay a New Year call.
Don't pay New Year's greetings too early. The sooner the better. It is very important to ensure the rest of others and find the right visiting time.
4. Don't say unlucky things when you pay New Year's greetings at home, such as death and illness, don't exaggerate bad things, divorce, who is sick and so on.
It is necessary to know the names of elders and peers you may meet in advance to avoid embarrassing scenes and making people feel impolite. Geely's words should be said appropriately. There should be different greetings to different people. When talking, choose a topic that is pleasant to both sides, and don't bring up sad things. Don't talk too much, talk nonsense, the argument is too fierce. We should express our true feelings and wishes in a relaxed, pleasant, cordial and natural atmosphere. Manners and gestures should be civilized.