The quality of parents represents the lower limit of children's upbringing and personality. For example, if some children are obedient, sensible and polite, everyone will think that their parents must be very literate and quality, otherwise they will not be able to teach such excellent children. When we meet that kind of "Xiong Haizi" in the same way, everyone will subconsciously think that this child's parents are not so good, and parents are just like children.
Parents are the mentors of their children's lives. Parents spend the longest time with their children and have the greatest influence on them. It can be said that children are the shadows of parents. For their Excellence, parents must also pay attention to their words and deeds.
I once saw a photo on the internet. A treasure mother took the subway with her children. Maybe the child is a little sick and doesn't look well on the subway. The mother kept comforting the child. It may be really uncomfortable. The child couldn't hold back and threw up all over the subway.
The people around you were shocked and dispersed around in succession, for fear of spitting on themselves. Bao Ma was also very embarrassed, and quickly apologized to the people around her and said a lot of good things to everyone. After that, she comforted the child first, and then Bao Ma took out the toilet paper from her bag and made an action that surprised everyone.
Bao Ma bent down and squatted directly on the ground, holding toilet paper and bag in her left hand and wiping the child's vomit on the ground with her right hand. She never let go of every angle until she wiped the ground clean.
Sometimes it really makes no difference without comparison. Some parents take their children to pee on the subway, throw rubbish at will, and some will touch their children's vomit and clean it up. It goes without saying that whoever behaves more nobly and whose children are more educated will be more popular. Therefore, parents are the most important teachers for children, and your words and deeds determine their future character.
Education means strong learning ability, but a person who studies well does not necessarily mean that he has quality. Similarly, some parents may not have a high level of education, but their education level is not bad, especially quality education.
The most obvious contrast is that some people wear expensive clothes, but they are greedy and cheap in the supermarket and throw rubbish everywhere on the subway, while others, covered in mud after a day's work, would rather sit on the ground than on a chair for fear of affecting others.
We say that the upper limit of parents determines the lower limit of children, such as upbringing, family education and personality, which are instilled in children from childhood. What parents say and do determines what kind of person their children will become in the future. If you really want to train your child to be a person with a correct outlook on life and conduct, then parents should first manage themselves and pass on the correct values and conduct to their children.
First, parents have principles not to spoil their children too much.
Why is Xiong Haizi annoying? It is not the "bear parents" who spoil their children behind their backs. When their children make mistakes, parents not only don't feel embarrassed, but use their children's age as an excuse to overprotect them, making them unable to understand right and wrong and failing to form a correct view of right and wrong.
Good parents have certain principles. When a child makes a mistake, urge the child to recognize the mistake and correct it in time, so that the child can form correct values and be responsible for his future behavior. Protecting calves will only harm children.
Second, observe public order in public places.
When the children are older, we will emphasize to our daughter that it is uncivilized and dangerous not to "speak loudly" or "run around" in crowded places, whether in shopping malls or by train or subway.
On the one hand, children talking loudly in public places will affect others, and will also be looked down upon by others; On the other hand, it is dangerous for children to run around in public places. What if the mall gets lost? What should I do if the hotel meets a waiter with hot water? These are potential dangers, and parents must make it clear to their children.
Third, parents' words and deeds.
In fact, it is the words and deeds of parents that have the greatest influence on children. For example, when waiting for the traffic lights, parents emphasize the importance of safety to their children and strictly abide by the traffic rules, so that children can firmly remember this and demand themselves according to your standards in the future.
However, if parents keep telling their children to obey traffic rules, and as a result, children often run red lights, then parents will lose their authority and trust in front of their children, and their children will also lack the ability of self-discipline.
Interactive topic: What uncivilized behaviors have you seen in public?