1. Talk to the right opposite sex

How can you not miss the opportunity when you meet the right opposite sex? Need some communication wisdom, also need to grasp some temperature. In fact, when interacting with the opposite sex, we always get to know each other by seeking common ground while reserving differences, from birth to maturity.

One sentence makes people laugh.

Xiaoli works in a storage room on the university campus. Wu Jiang, a young teacher, likes her very much, so she often makes small deposits in the bank window, which attracts Xiaoli's attention and curiosity.

One day, Wujiang came to the bank to deposit money again. The difference this time is that while saving money, Wujiang also handed a note: beautiful girl, I have saved my feelings for a year seriously, hoping to get rich interest one day. Now, I think it's time for lump sum deposit and withdrawal. Please pay me interest. I want to know what the cash rate is. At six o'clock in the afternoon, I'll wait for you to get off work at the bank gate. The signature is a devout depositor.

Xiaoli was moved by Wujiang's humorous language and went to the appointment happily after work.

Wujiang successfully captured the beauty's heart in this humorous way. Of course, Wujiang's perseverance also played a big role.

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At a party, single Rebecca fell in love with the same single Li Jun and took the initiative to strike up a conversation.

I heard that you work in a government agency. What's your annual salary? Wang Yan asked.

I didn't think salary was important when I first joined the company. What I value more is to exercise myself at work. Obviously, Li Jun is unwilling to answer Rebecca's question.

how much is it? I am curious. Rebecca is still in hot pursuit.

After paying the mortgage every month, I have little left. Li Jun frowned. He has some antipathy to Rebecca: he doesn't even know the taboo of not directly asking others about their income, which is really immature.

Oh, you bought a house. How much do you pay back every month? Rebecca seems very happy.

What, you want to help me pay back half? Li Mingxian was unhappy, and his tone was a little sarcastic. The scene suddenly became very embarrassing.

Everyone has something they don't want to show. Just like a woman's age, income is also the most private part of a man. Because a man's income level represents his ability to a certain extent, so; No matter what class a person is in, he doesn't want to be asked about his income.

The income of the other party in the first conversation is a very taboo thing. Rebecca had a good impression on Li Jun, but she boldly asked about Li Jun's income, which left a very bourgeois and immature impression on Li Jun.

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Many people are eager for further communication opportunities when they meet the right opposite sex, but they don't know how to speak or what to say. Even people who are talkative, humorous and funny will become dull, silent and even at a loss. In fact, you don't have to be so nervous, and don't close your feelings and heart. If you think the other person is nice, express your sincerity to him boldly. Hiding, afraid to ask, afraid to say, will only turn the original beautiful encounter into an embarrassing encounter, which is meaningless.

Once you find the opposite sex you like, you can take the initiative to say hello and try to start with the topic, so as not to be silent. Maybe before you speak, you still have an inferiority complex about your body, appearance and other external conditions, but if you speak and show that the other person likes you, the other person may be attracted to you without paying attention to your external conditions.

This is especially true for men. Understand that girls like bold, honest and sincere boys. As long as you grasp the principle of praise and make her feel happy and sweet, you can continue the relationship with your. If you can observe her psychology and hobbies before speaking, it would be better to speak in a targeted way.

When looking for topics to strike up a conversation with the opposite sex, we should choose those interesting things in life as the theme, which can not only narrow the distance between us, but also make it easier to produce * * * sounds and add friendly elements, such as choosing some relaxed topics or campus life.

In addition, when talking with the right opposite sex, we should also stimulate each other's interest in talking. Some girls don't like to think. When a boy talks to her for the first time, he always answers with yes andno. No matter how you ask questions, she always answers simply. At this time, you should be more patient, continue to attack, slowly find the topic she is interested in, and make the conversation very pleasant.

It should be noted that when chatting up the right opposite sex, we should not be too direct, on the one hand, because the feelings of the two sexes are different, on the other hand, we should also consider the factors of social environment. Therefore, we should try to feel each other's feelings from each other's point of view, consider the differences between the two sexes as much as possible, and think twice before speaking, which will help to express the language more artistically and meet each other's needs.

The art of speaking between strangers: don't "gild the lily" when talking.

The art of speaking between strangers: don't "gild the lily" when talking. Qin Zi once asked his teacher Mozi: Will you talk more? Mozi replied: frogs croak day and night, which makes people thirsty, but they are not liked. And the chickens crow on time at dawn in the morning, and the world is not woken up! What are the benefits of talking more? That's what happened.

One sentence makes people laugh.

Pop star Wang Leehom and famous pianist Lang Lang once performed on the same stage in Hong Kong. After they were not familiar with each other, Wang Leehom thought that Lang Lang should be a taciturn literary youth. Unexpectedly, Lang Lang was silent after the meeting: Leehom, you are a descendant of the dragon, and I am a descendant of the wolf (Lang). This prologue immediately brought the two young people closer together.

With this sentence, Lang Lang left a good impression on Wang Leehom. Wang Leehom said on many occasions: Lang Lang is the most easygoing and enthusiastic classical musician I have ever met!

Between two strangers, an unusual opening remark will make the conversation unique and impressive.

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On the bus, a young migrant worker carrying a big bag was holding a map in his hand and his face was full of confusion. At first glance, he comes from other places. He hesitated for a moment and asked the conductor, Master, where should I get off?

The conductor said impatiently, you are going in the wrong direction. You should go back by bus. The text should be here, but the conductor added, I can't read the map. What else can I do?

Of course the foreign boy heard it, but he just smiled and got ready to get off. However, the old man sitting on the side couldn't listen any longer. He glanced at the conductor, then turned to the young man in the field and said, actually, you don't have to sit in the back. Sit at the first few stops and then change trains. The old man's words ended here, but he just added: the education level of young people now is really poor!

With so many young people in the car, this sentence really hit a wide range. A young girl standing next to her uncle couldn't help it: Grandpa, is this wrong? After all, uneducated people are a minority! The girl didn't say anything here, but she couldn't help adding: Many people your age look very kind, but their bellies are full of bad water!

At this time, a middle-aged woman connected again: how can you, a young girl, talk to the old man like this? After all, be polite! To say that the middle-aged woman is right to criticize you, she added: Look at your clothes, it is estimated that your parents can't control you if they want, and you are dressed like a demon. When you say that, it's like throwing a bomb. The girl couldn't swallow this tone naturally, and the car suddenly exploded like a pot.

At this time, the bus arrived at the station and opened the door. The conductor said, let's not argue. Get off the bus if you need to, and don't delay the business. However, he did not forget to add: If you really want to make trouble, get out of the car and make trouble. Are you tired?

If all the people on the bus give up their last words, I believe this war of words will never happen. In fact, many times, because of the last sentence, two people who were originally at peace became opponents and enemies, and a conversation became a conflict. Remember, once you say something, you can't take it back. We advocate good eloquence, but remind you to control your words at all times. If you talk too much, you lose. Don't pay a heavy price for being fast.

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Misfortune comes from the mouth, which makes people lose their reputation, and joy comes from the heart, which makes people add luster. Sometimes the speaker means no harm, just likes to speak quickly for a while, but for the listener, it may hurt him. It is better to keep your mouth shut and make people doubt your shallowness than to prove your shallowness from the beginning. This is a famous saying worth remembering.

In an increasingly diversified society, small misunderstandings or small frictions between people are normal. Broad-minded people will forget this, but not everyone has such a mind. In interpersonal communication, we can often see that some quarrels stem from trivial matters, but because one party talks quickly for a while, it often turns trivial matters into major events or even disasters.

People who love to chat for a while are mostly impetuous and used to blaming others. In their spiritual world, there is no word forbearance. As long as you are unhappy, curse things and people to relieve your troubles, that's all. But they didn't expect that their anxiety was vented. How does the scolded person feel?

Just as people will erect their pores after sneezing, showing off their breath for a while is actually a way to vent their physical pleasure.

The difference is that the pleasure of sneezing is purely physiological, while speaking fast is mixed with strong psychological color.

In this sense, to overcome the problem of quick talking, we must work hard from the usual self-psychological adjustment.

First of all, we should remember a principle that we should talk as little as possible in any place and occasion. Silence is worth advocating. If you have to say it, you should pay attention to the content, meaning, wording, tone, posture, and what to say on what occasion and how to say it properly.

Secondly, don't talk nonsense without knowing the inside story. There are no perfect people in the world, so don't talk about their shortcomings and don't expose their privacy. First of all, you should understand that your understanding of others is not necessarily reliable, and there may be hidden reasons you don't know. If you rashly publicize the one-sided phenomenon you know, you will inevitably confuse right and wrong. By the time the truth came out, it was over.

Say the benefits of bad people, others think you are ignorant at most; It is immoral to speak ill of good people. Therefore, when learning the art of speaking, we must first learn to talk less. Of course, you can only say less, not all. Speaking well without saying much is the art of eloquence.

Workplace talk: there are ways to talk with colleagues of the opposite sex.

Workplace talk: there are ways to talk to colleagues of the opposite sex. Of course, conversations between colleagues of the same sex should be casual, but for colleagues of the opposite sex, you should be especially careful. Although it is not required to be fortified everywhere and step by step, at least the differences between men and women should not be ignored.

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Because Mr. Jiang is in a hurry to write the plan, he needs to check the relevant information with Miss Zhu, a microcomputer operator. But seeing Miss Zhu's cold expression, Mr. Jiang wanted to back down.

After a while, Mr. Jiang chatted with her: Teacher Zhu is very busy every day!

Yes!

Are you qualified to operate a microcomputer so skillfully?

Not long!

After several rounds, Miss Zhu has not only been unwilling to answer, but her face has not thawed. So, Mr. Jiang changed his conversation strategy: According to the manager, there are two most famous angels in our unit. Guess who it is?

I don't know if Mr. Zhu answered simply.

Ok, I'll tell you, one is the public relations angel Xiao Wu, and the other is miss you! Mr. Jiang said to slow down the conversation.

What angel do they call me?

Seeing that Teacher Zhu's expression relaxed a little, Mr. Jiang paused and said, I call you Leng Yan Angel!

This is nonsense, Jiang. Do I look like it? In fact, Miss Zhu's chatterbox has finally opened.

Facing the cold Miss Zhu, when the dialogue was almost deadlocked, Mr. Jiang seized the weakness of the other party, Leng Yan, and started the topic under the guise of the words of a third party, which gave a fatal blow to Miss Zhu's dignity. In order to maintain her self-esteem, she repeatedly refuted Mr. Jiang, showing her enthusiasm, gentleness and kindness, making their conversation harmonious and pleasant.

If you are a man and want to communicate with a female colleague smoothly, you must grasp her psychological characteristics before talking.

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Zhang Ming is a technician in a software company. In the end, the manager asked him to go to the accounting office and ask the accountant Wang Li to submit an expense account.

When Zhang Ming arrived at the accounting office, he found Wang Li there, but she looked unhappy. Zhang Ming guessed that Wang Li and her boyfriend were having trouble.

Zhang Ming wanted to enliven the atmosphere, so he praised Wang Li and said, Your handwriting is really beautiful! People who can write such good words now are even rarer than dinosaurs!

Wang Li is in a bad mood. Listening to Zhang Ming compare himself to a dinosaur (an unattractive girl is called a dinosaur in the network language), she was in a bad mood to the extreme and said rudely, really? I'm honored. You called me a dinosaur.

Zhang Ming quickly explained: I'm sorry, that's not what I meant. I mean, Wang Li interrupted him: What do you mean? Am I as scary as a dinosaur?

Of course not. I mean, your handwriting is beautiful, which can be compared with a book saint like Wang Xizhi.

You're exaggerating! According to you, there are too many Wang Xizhi in the world! Zhang Mingyue added insult to injury, and he felt very embarrassed.

Zhang Ming wanted to praise Wang Li, but unfortunately he used the wrong word, and it backfired. When you talk to a woman, even if you use compliments, you must master the timing and accuracy of your speech.

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Due to the different natural thinking habits of men and women, communication between colleagues of the opposite sex in the workplace will inevitably encounter some difficulties.

For example, a male colleague, who is obese, may not mind if you say that he is obese several times; But on a female colleague, don't be fat, or there may be a catastrophe. For another example, men often brag about their age to show their rich experience. But if you meet a new unmarried female colleague at a company party, you go up and care about her and ask her: You look old. How old are you? If you do, I'm afraid this female colleague will hate you for life.

Workplace experts point out that in the workplace, men like to go to the battlefield to prepare for battle, while women like to go to community service centers to establish interpersonal relationships, so men's work style is more combative, while women tend to cooperate. Such different styles mean that conflict and chaos are inevitable. Therefore, some methods are needed to achieve effective communication between colleagues of the opposite sex in the workplace.

(1) How should women communicate with their male colleagues? When talking with male colleagues, be solemn, generous and gentle, and never be too frivolous, otherwise it will easily lead to misunderstanding and unnecessary trouble. Pay special attention to the wording and tone when you speak, because it determines how carefully men will listen. Women often inadvertently use self-weakening words, such as OK, May, like, probably and I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but such words will make women look weak and should be avoided as much as possible.

In addition, for women, asking questions is an effective way to get information, but men will think that she doesn't know enough and should not be competent. Because they don't like asking questions. The reason is that they have been educated since childhood, and the responsibility of men is to provide all the answers and show that they know everything. In order to win power and respect, women need to make up for the lack of high-pitched and light-pitched, while using more confident and factual sentences and reducing sentences that sound more like questions.

When talking to male colleagues, don't be too nagging and loud. In front of female colleagues, men often like to talk about their adventures, their careers, their likes and dislikes, and prefer to express their views to surprise and admire the listeners. If women are willing to be good listeners, they will get great favor from their male colleagues. Of course, if the other person makes you unbearable, please interrupt him subtly or simply tell him: I'm sorry!

I have work to do.

(2) How should men communicate with their female colleagues? In the workplace, women are often weak communicators. Men should give more consideration, care, trust and sharing to female colleagues, let them finish their sentences, express their meaning clearly, don't interrupt, and don't show impatience that I know everything.

In the process of talking with female colleagues, don't break each other's vanity. Strong vanity is a major feature of female psychology. Reasonable and appropriate use of various ways to satisfy one's vanity in conversation will make the other party feel great psychological satisfaction and make the conversation easier.

In addition, when talking with female colleagues, we should talk more about emotional things, not contact with theory, and abstract things can only cause disgust. Talking about some relaxing topics is the key to bringing each other closer psychologically. You can talk about her dress temperament instead of pretending to discuss philosophy in depth. Only emotional things are the most acceptable things for women.

Finally, for female colleagues of any age, don't take the initiative to ask about their age in conversation, never say that they look a little old, and don't comment on their backward and inappropriate clothes. After mastering these psychological characteristics of women, communication at work is much easier.

The art of conversation between friends: there are ways to ask for help.

The art of conversation between friends: asking for help is to persuade others' legs and feet with their mouths. This is not an easy task, but if you master certain language skills, you can convince people with reason and move people with emotion, it will become much easier.

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After years of struggle, Gaoshan became an assistant to the president of a university. Recently, the school is preparing to build a library, and it needs to raise 6,543,800 yuan. To this end, the smart mountain thought of a boss, who is a student of this university and his good friend.

One day, Gaoshan visited this friend and said: Recently, our alma mater is raising funds to build a library. When the school management Committee considered this matter, it first thought of you. You are the pride of our school. When you were at school, you said that when you become an entrepreneur in the future, you should repay your alma mater. Now the opportunity to fulfill your promise has finally come. The students all know that we are going to raise money and want to contribute our share, but I think you are the most powerful one. I hope you can support us more.

His friend said: no problem, I am struggling with what to do for the school. Now there is such a good opportunity, I will fully support it. A few days later, a donation of 6,543,800 yuan was transferred to the school account.

When you need a friend's help, you'd better say what you really think, and then use the corresponding language skills to make the other party recognize your idea, so that the friend will try his best to help you.

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Xiao Zhang and Xiao Liu used to teach in a middle school and had a good relationship. Later, Xiao Liu went to the sea to open a company, and his business was booming. Xiao Zhang still insists on staying in his original school. Although he has been promoted to monitor, his economy is not well-off because of his large family expenses.

It is often said that the house leaks when it rains all night, and the boat sails against the wind. This is not the money that Xiao Zhang just paid off the mortgage. It happened that his son had appendicitis and was hospitalized for surgery. He just lost 1000 yuan. At this time, Xiao Zhang's wife asked him to find his good friend Xiao Liu, saying that Xiao Liu was worth millions, and it was not a piece of cake to borrow 1000.

This afternoon, Xiao Zhang came to Xiao Liu's company. Just as Xiao Liu was in a meeting, the secretary asked Xiao Zhang to wait in the reception room.

Xiao Zhang looked around with greedy eyes. At this time, Xiao Liu came and was very happy to see Xiao Zhang. The two exchanged pleasantries, and Xiao Zhang was full of praise for Xiao Liu.

Next, Xiao Zhang cut to the chase: I can't stay with you for long. First, you are busy. Second, my son is ill in hospital. I don't have enough money I am short of 1000 yuan. Everyone knows that you are worth millions now, Liu. Lend me 1000 yuan, it's a slap in the face!

When Xiao Liu heard what Xiao Zhang said, the boss was unhappy: I have to work hard to earn 1000 yuan! Besides, the company's funds can't be moved casually. But instead of showing it, he called his secretary and said, Xiao Huang, this is my good friend. Your name is Zhang Ge. Brother Zhang urgently needs 1000 yuan now. I seem to have left my wallet at home, so the company's money can't be moved casually. Tell you what, you give Brother Zhang a thousand dollars first, and I'll give you the money later.

Xiao Huang said: OK, Liu Jingli!

When Xiao Zhang heard what Xiao Liu said, he was very angry and wanted to turn around and leave, but his son was still waiting for the operation! I tried not to get angry. When he was holding the money, he really wanted to find a gap to get in.

Originally, Xiao Liu lent Xiao Zhang 1000 yuan, which was as easy as blowing off dust. But because there is something wrong with Xiao Zhang's way of speaking, Xiao Liu is very unhappy and doesn't want Xiao Zhang to have a smooth sailing.

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In daily life, it is very common to ask friends for help. The difference is that some people ask others to do things, and the other party can readily agree. However, although some people do their best, they always come back disappointed. In fact, as long as you grasp the psychological characteristics of others and pay attention to the skills and discretion of speaking, others will easily lend you a helping hand. When asking for help from others, you can recruit people from the following aspects: (1) Starting from each other's interests. Start a dialogue on topics that the other party is interested in or proud of, and put forward your own requirements on the basis of meeting the psychological needs of the other party.

(2) Get the knowledge of * * * first, and then ask for it. Emphasize the importance and urgency of a problem, reach an understanding with the other party, and then put forward the requirements to solve this problem, so that the other party can't turn it away.

(3) Strive for understanding. When we refuse a friend's help, we often find that the other party has actually made a decision to refuse because of impulse or other small reasons. At this time, it is necessary to stand in the position of a third party, help the other party analyze its decision, and then urge them to agree to their own requirements.

(4) The most important thing between friends is sincerity. When asking a friend for help, it is necessary to melt the request into your feelings to show that you have to ask for help, so it is easier to get the other person's help. Everyone likes to hear compliments. When you ask a friend for help, even if you ask a small matter, you might as well put a top hat on him first, and never say anything inappropriate in front of your friends, whether it's personal or not.

(5) Master proper limit. When asking for help, don't ask too much, ask for help within the other person's ability. Only in this way can we achieve the best effect of asking for help. In addition, don't forget to repay each other after the job is done, emotionally, of course. Even if it can't be realized immediately, help each other when they need it.