I can understand the pain of being a stay-at-home wife

That's another housewife

People outside 0 1 are full-time wives: the husband will make money and the wife will lie at home and relax. I am a roommate who is tired every time I come home from work. My biggest wish after marriage is to be a full-time wife at home.

She said:

"Then I can lie in bed every day."

Every time I hear such words, I smile without saying a word. I laughed that she didn't understand the real meaning and actual appearance of a stay-at-home wife. What I'm not talking about is that you really have to experience it yourself to understand it. It's no use talking too much now.

Many people always think that a stay-at-home wife is the happiest person in the world, and someone can keep her without being a "worker".

Just like Lin, who plays in the TV series "Growing Up with You", she gave up the glowing development and stayed at home as a full-time wife for the growth of her children and her husband's career.

The mother of a child in the same kindergarten always thinks that she owes her husband the happiness of being a full-time wife. Such happiness is given by her husband.

To outsiders, being a full-time wife is a great gift from her husband. This gift is what the ladies want to seize on their own initiative, not passively.

As we all know, many wives are forced to take on the task of "full-time wives". They know that if no one in a family makes sacrifices, then basically the beauty of the family cannot be maintained.

Therefore, we can see that Lin, the full-time wife in the play, has a smooth career for her husband and her daughter can become a leader, at least half of which is Lin's great contribution.

Lin is too worried about her husband, her daughter and the whole family. Occasionally I want to lose my temper and vent my emotions, but I can't get my mother's understanding.

In the eyes of the mother, the daughter has money to spend without making money, and such a life should be satisfied.

She didn't understand what her daughter was dissatisfied with, so she told her daughter:

"Don't quarrel with him. You must let him, coax him in everything. After all, he is the breadwinner at home. "

Even my own mother mistakenly thinks how happy it is to be a full-time wife. Not to mention his own husband, who thought Lin lived in a big villa and he was happy every day.

Only Lin knows that he has nothing.

Only the full-time wives in the family can understand their real life: getting up early and being greedy for black, being inferior to cattle and horses, being all-round talents, and how happy the husbands of the full-time wives in the family think they are, but how hard they are.

I really don't envy the life of my full-time wife, Lin, which I see in the play at present. On the contrary, her life became something I hated.

She can really lie in the glamorous villa outside, but she can't lie down from the beginning, but "collapse" directly after she is tired from work and worried about everything at home.

Looking back on her life, she lived in a big villa and played the role of "nanny". She has to cover the cleanliness of the floor in Nuoda's house. The first time I saw her squatting on the ground, I was shocked.

She wore the most beautiful clothes, even the clothes in the closet were bought according to her husband's standards, but no matter how glamorous she was outside, she was still the lady in the villa who needed help behind her back.

Not only does she have to clean the floor, but even her husband is thirsty. If she wants to drink juice, she needs to pour out the back end of the juice for her husband and daughter to drink. In fact, at that time, she was the one who needed rest and a glass of juice most.

Husband needs to wear a coat when he goes out to work. At this time, she plays the role of escorting her husband's clothes, bringing the ironed suit jacket to her husband and putting it on.

These are not the most ridiculous. The most outrageous thing is that the husband also pushed all the educational responsibilities of his daughter to his wife Lin.

He naturally took the responsibility of "the daughter must win the first prize" from his own hands to his wife, just because he is the one who will make money at home!

When the daughter's academic performance has not yet reached the top, the first one to be scolded must be his wife Lin. As a wife who can stay at home and enjoy life, how can she even fail to educate her daughter?

She doesn't have to sunbathe outside like other wives, and she doesn't have to worry about the living expenses this month and the expenses next month. She is much happier than other wives.

I should have been a hard-working husband and considerate of my full-time wife, but I think my wife Lin is the happiest woman in the world.

All hardships are not easy, they are very hard, and only the full-time wife at home can chew and understand them.

Don't let the full-time wife in the house chill, please let the envy of other wives outside the house be a little real. Many husbands, after their wives become full-time wives, generally go into the following two misunderstandings, relying on themselves as the economic pillar of the family to win the right to speak, and then criticize their wives or show dissatisfaction from time to time.

Full-time wives don't make money.

"I raised you" is a chilling sentence that full-time wives can often hear, and soon they become red-eyed.

Every time two couples quarrel, the husband who is financially superior often tells his wife to think about it. She doesn't go to work, and the only one who goes to work is herself, not her husband who is guarding his wife. Is there any other way of life?

But it's not that stay-at-home wives don't make money, but for the whole family. They prefer to work for free.

Even, they have no salary, and they have to rack their brains to think about how to save some money for their husbands and save more money for the whole family.

Although they have listed so many monthly household expenditure tables, in fact, after careful observation, the expenditure in each small column is for the children, for you and for the whole family.

In the order of spending, they always give priority to other family members. As for myself, you need to think twice about spending some money on yourself, and then you give up.

We can imagine a person's discomfort after giving up what he likes and his joy after getting it.

A stay-at-home wife is sacrificing her own preferences to fulfill other family members. They would rather bear the loss and discomfort themselves, and also hope to see the joy of their families' mouths rising.

Moreover, they hold this view not only in life but also in career. Their sacrifice must be priceless, and no one is qualified to say that they don't make money!

Money can replace understanding and respect.

The second misunderstanding is about "money". After all, the economic foundation determines a person's right to speak in a family, which has become the status quo of many families.

In a family with a full-time wife, men who make money generally have a greater say. Sometimes a stay-at-home wife interrupts the other person and speaks her mind directly before she opens her mouth.

It is precisely because they don't have the patience to stop and listen to their stay-at-home wives, and they rarely try to think from each other's point of view. They don't understand some practices of stay-at-home wives and don't respect their opinions.

Just like in the play, Lin, a full-time wife, sold her brand-name bag for her daughter to take better care of her family, but her husband scolded her and quarreled.

In a rage, Lin finally spoke out her difficulties. This time, she really couldn't help it. Even if she doesn't have a chance to talk at ordinary times, she will fight for opportunities for herself this time.

Her husband always thinks that he has been losing money at home, so his wife has to do everything according to his idea at home. As for the wife's thoughts and opinions, they can often be ignored.

The more this time, the more brave a stay-at-home wife should be to speak her mind. I thought it was wrong not to say anything in order not to worry the other person. Only by saying it to let the other party know can we not be wronged.

We want each other to know that we are really committed to the interests of this family. But as long as they can stop and listen to our thoughts and opinions, they will naturally understand and respect what a full-time wife does.

Don't let stay-at-home wives have the dilemma of "dumb eating coptis root, but they can't tell the pain", and don't always scold them for "not making money"

Getting out of these two misunderstandings, understanding the hard work of stay-at-home wives and their contribution to the whole family are the best gifts and love for them.

Don't let your actions break their hearts and make them feel that their efforts are not worth it. You know, no one should give up and sacrifice their pursuit for whom!

Wen-a legal person who has no feelings, likes insight into the world, likes watching dramas and studying cases! Of course, I hope you like my article. I hope we can meet in the world of words and law as soon as possible!