The partner of a person with perfect personality, in real life, when we test our personality, we can see the perfect personality, so that the person with perfect personality has a different view of feelings from ordinary people. There are companions with perfect personalities here.

The companion of a person with perfect personality 1 1, rational type.

They also like to talk about things, which can stimulate hormones well from the discussion between the two sides; At the same time, rational partners are more keen on abstract thinking than black and white in reality like perfect people, which gives both sides more room for reconciliation and compromise.

2. hedonic

Typical people with complementary and attractive personalities, hedonists can use their ability to activate the atmosphere to make the perfect type less rigid and monotonous, and increase the emotional appeal lacking in their lives.

The main characteristics of a perfect personality are strong principles, clear distinction between black and white, and striving for perfection in everything. If you are an uncompromising person with unique values that cannot be challenged, then you are likely to have a perfect personality.

Perfect people have high standards, so they tend to be relatively harsh on themselves and their partners. Pursuing perfection in everything, they seldom say compliments, but often pay more attention to how to do things best in interpersonal communication. In intimate relationships, they often show a strong desire for control, do not compromise in quarrels, are willing to make their own decisions, and have the type of overbearing president.

Who do perfectionists like?

Perfectionists also have their own standards in the choice of partners. They hope that the other half is a perfect couple, but in the search, they often fall into two extremes: one is to infinitely enlarge each other's advantages and not see each other's shortcomings; On the other hand, when they gradually wake up from the fog of love, the shortcomings of the other party will appear again, making them feel cheated. How to treat a perfectionist's lover? So, in the face of such a sensitive lover, how can we gather their hearts

Emotional characteristics of perfectionists

1. Partners should make perfectionists feel stable and safe.

2. Learn to praise them. You can show your love for them with gifts or hugs.

3. Learn to admit mistakes. Perfectionists like others to repent.

4. The appointment must be punctual. Girls should pay special attention. Being late for an appointment will not leave a good impression on your perfectionist boyfriend.

Don't pay too much attention to their criticism. Sometimes it's not that you are really bad, but a way for them to seek a balance in order to cover up their inner inferiority. However, one thing is certain: the index of perfectionists abandoning their feelings is very low. They are old-fashioned, but they are not that easy. Their "inner critic" can save you a lot of effort to supervise them. Unless you are completely disappointed with the other half, you are definitely an excellent partner who makes unremitting efforts for your family.

A perfectionist refers to a person who pursues perfection for one thing, and his desire for this thing is based on the belief that everything is unsatisfactory and imperfect, and he is caught in a deep contradiction.

They may like people like themselves, so much so that they feel the same about requirements and topics.

They may also like beautiful people. Why do you say that? Many times, perfectionists pursue beauty, whether it is material beauty or spiritual beauty.

Maybe they also like people who are serious, delicate and kind. Most people who are perfectionists will say that perfectionists are heartless and will only talk about them forever. There is no more powerful expression of love than this. However, sometimes perfectionists can really talk to you all the time, because they really can't think of the best way to express their love for you.

If it is hard to say, they should feel that it is more appropriate to be in the same category as them. But in real life, it is very realistic, not like this. We should know that everyone is not perfect and has some shortcomings to some extent.

So it doesn't mean it is suitable. Often in some situations in life, for the perfectionist's partner, it is only after the perfectionist touches himself that he feels appropriate or inappropriate. If you really want to say what kind of partner you are suitable for, it is normal, kind and more attractive to them.

For perfectionists, it will be difficult to find their unforgettable love, but if it is long-term, it is easier for them to find love that loves you.

The companion of a person with perfect personality 3. Perfect external personality characteristics

1. Image temperament:

Body shape: generally healthy and thin, obesity accounts for a very small number.

Body language: The back is straight, and you can keep the same posture for a long time, and the reaction speed is usually fast and urgent.

Facial expression: sharp eyes, little change in facial expression, serious and stiff, and few smiles.

Dress characteristics: clean and tidy, like black and white plain color.

Style of speaking: lack of sense of humor, directness, unkindness and tactfulness.

Intonation: a blunt, slow, sharp voice with no ending.

Common words: should we do it, right or wrong, no, do it by the book.

Give people the feeling: strong, persistent, sincere and harsh.

2. Behavior characteristics:

Perfectionism, self-discipline and justice, and clear love and hate.

(2) Many should's and shouldn't's are black and white, and they are afraid of the middle ground.

Strong sense of justice, strong principle, a sense of responsibility and mission, and high demands on themselves.

(4) Abide by the rules, work rigorously and efficiently, be meticulous, and be good at overall planning and arrangement.

⑤ Self-centered, self-righteous, like to criticize and blame yourself and others.

6 Emotional depression, cold outside and hot inside.

3. Personality characteristics:

Personality: Strong principle, sneering at people who break the rules. Generally speaking, the expression is cold, the heart is aloof, the eyes are sharp and the words are concise.

Work and life: meticulous, items and home decorations are placed neatly, orderly, and perhaps neat. I like to do it myself, and I am often exhausted. Before you do anything, you should make a detailed plan at every step, have a clear plan in your mind, and even make plans A and B, and so on.

But it also means that they won't delay and are extremely efficient.

Intimacy: Because perfect people are too serious and care too much about the boundaries between right and wrong, their EQ is not too high.

What are the advantages?

Being extremely loyal to your partner, you are not allowed to have unplanned things, so extramarital affairs are almost impossible to appear in their lives.

2 emotional stability, can continue to output relatively stable emotional value to the other party.

(3) The material requirements are relatively low, which will abandon the secular judgment on a person and pay more attention to a person's work style.

4 independent in thought and spirit. Generally speaking, Ma Baonan is unlikely.

⑤ Being able to manage the lives of two people in an orderly way is also easier to give your partner a feeling of peace of mind.

Disadvantages are:

(1) has relatively high requirements for partners, and they can often do it by themselves, and they must also ask the other half to do it.

2 * * * emotional ability is relatively low, and it is often impossible to feel the changes in your partner's mood.

A straightforward personality often hurts the other half carelessly, but he is unaware of it.

(4) The other party makes mistakes and is used to correcting others.

4. Personality tendency:

Introverted, passive, continuous monitoring, eager to do things well, pay attention to efficiency, suppress impulses and desires, and return with nobility. I am a down-to-earth person.

When things go wrong, it is easy to get angry and feel that things should not be like this, not only for themselves, but also for the surrounding environment and people, because they have extremely high requirements for everything. As their friends, it is really not easy to bear their anger, and there will be some pressure, so perfect people should pay more attention.

I often feel depressed in my life. In addition to venting my anger, I also experienced inner frustration and disappointment. These emotions are unhealthy for them and must be actively dealt with. The fundamental reason is not to make yourself do better, but to adjust your views on things so that you can face them easily.

5. Personality formation:

The perfect person was severely baptized by gunfire in his early years. They usually have very picky parents or elders who have a great influence on them. Unlike those successful people who are helpful, they are surrounded by praise. A perfect person will be whipped by a belt or severely reprimanded when breaking the rules. Many of them vaguely remember that they vowed never to make mistakes again, or any mistakes.

Perfect people are usually earnest, diligent and clever children. They learned how to control their anger and put aside troublesome needs. They choose to agree with a set of policies and abandon their sense of self. Sometimes they simply agree with those who give pressure and think that I can work harder, abide by these rules, keep order and strictly observe discipline.

However, as they get older, they have to notice that the face-to-face rule has not worked as expected. They began to feel humiliated and found themselves entrusted with a false hope, so resentment suddenly arose and they were angry with the world and themselves. Even so, they pretend to be good.

Perfect people are always dissatisfied with the status quo and try to improve the environment. When they are unloved, they emphasize "I am right and I am kind." They have a lot of anger in their hearts, but they don't make them angry, so they suppress their emotional conflicts. They don't face up to their inner anger and want to avoid it, but it's hard.

6. Personality analysis:

Worldview: The world is always imperfect. I have the right method. Wait till I teach you.

Potential fear: being blamed by one's own conscience or condemned by others.

Potential desire: strive for perfection in everything and do things right.

Behavioral motivation: strive for perfection, have principles and standards, often have a tendency of self-criticism, ask others to do things according to their own standards, be rational and upright, often suppress the irrational side of their own humanity, and keep their anger secret.

Focus of attention: rules and criticism.

Self-protection mechanism: reaction recombination and reverse action.

Personal obsession and uncontrollable bad habits: anger, criticism, hatred and complaints.

Intelligence that will be stronger than people: adversity intelligence.

Leadership style: taking things as the center, pursuing Excellence, doing things according to the rules, paying attention to all-round management, and sometimes dictatorial management.

Personality tendency: passive, intuitive, introverted and critical.

7. Lifting direction:

Because I always force myself to pursue perfection, I often tell myself that I am not perfect, and I am often dissatisfied with my performance, which is easy to cause psychological burden. Therefore, a perfect person should try to understand that growth is just a process of continuous progress. Even if it is not perfect now, it will eventually grow and become perfect.

8. A suggestion:

Try to avoid too detailed and outspoken or silent criticism, reduce the frequency of what should or should not be said, don't be too persistent, and be enthusiastic about people's performance of things. You know, the world is not black and white, and there are gray areas.

Second, getting along with a perfect partner is prone to contradictions.

1. Getting along in daily life

The perfect personality lies in the process of getting along with your partner. One of the great characteristics is that he has some desire for control. He will put forward his own requirements for the other half in any aspect of life, hoping that the other side can pay attention to it and practice it.

He will want to gain a sense of control in the relationship, which is also the way for him to gain a sense of certainty and security. Therefore, the other half will often feel stressed and controlled in the relationship. After getting along for a long time, they will accumulate a lot of emotions and contradictions, which are easy to break out.

2. Strong planning

The perfect personality will make a plan for the future, and each plan will be accompanied by various small plans. For them, it is a very fulfilling and happy thing to accomplish their goals step by step.

If your attitude towards life is lazy and belongs to enjoying the present, then he will be very dissatisfied with your attitude towards life, and he will often take your attitude towards life as an example. Although he wants your life to look more planned, from the perspective of intimacy, he doesn't know how to respect your lifestyle.

3. Emotional influence

After we talk about good personality, people seem to be unsmiling in life, but in fact they are very eager for the other half and can provide him with positive emotional value. He is a more optimistic and cheerful person.

If you are a person who is greatly influenced by emotions, he is silent and you are silent. Although this feeling seems to be no problem on the surface, it is meaningless, and two people will eventually be separated because they are too dull.

Third, how to save the lover with perfect personality?

Perfect personality is notoriously critical of life and work, as well as the other half, but since we can be together from the beginning, we must believe in ourselves. You must be able to meet his needs in some way or in some ways, and you can make the other person feel happy and comfortable. Although the other person often says something critical of you, he actually knows your value very well.

However, although you have many advantages, his break-up behavior shows that he is well-thought-out on this issue, and this situation is really hard to recover.

As an emotional counselor, I personally think that feelings can be redeemed. Breaking up is possible under any circumstances. What matters is whether your method is accurate. Everyone has his weaknesses. He doesn't love you. As long as you grasp each other's weakness, it can be said that it is a pain point, and you can save your success.

1. Control your emotions and stabilize your mind.

People with perfect personality often break up with their other half in a cognitive way. In this case, it is useless to force them to get back together. These behaviors directly expose your emotional instability, so he will only think that you are really not suitable for him.

To restore this personality, we must maintain a good attitude and be prepared for a protracted war. Emotional confusion will only drag you down. At this time, you need to analyze many things with rational thinking, and you need to put many subjective things behind you to see the most real reasons.

Don't worry about whether the other party will have a new love.

This can be used as a psychological construction. A person with perfect personality will only be cautious when choosing a partner, and will never find a new lover in order to transfer the pain of lovelorn.

Even if he wants to start over, he will re-conceive the characteristics of his partner in his mind and then look for it according to his own imagination. This can't be done in a short time, so there is still plenty of time for you to recover.

3. Both sides have made common progress.

When saving such people, we must follow in his footsteps, constantly improve and sublimate ourselves, so that our level can always keep pace. If you can constantly improve yourself and become more perfect and excellent, the quality of communication between you will certainly be improved to some extent.

Because no one likes people who have been stagnant, a good relationship needs you to keep making progress, especially couples with perfect personality.

4. Don't worry.

At the initial stage of recovery, if you have entered the reunion stage, you can reply to your message normally. At this time, don't be eager for quick success and instant benefit, and don't rush to put forward a unified proposition. If you cross the line at this time, your relationship will often be returned to its original shape, and he will be more determined in his choice and decision. At least for a short time, they won't change their decision.

Now that the other person has decided to separate from you, he must have found many places that are not suitable for him. Just chatting doesn't make him really want to get back together with you, so he may want to get back together with you only if you really change in some ways and make him feel it, but before some factors change, he must hold back and stop talking about getting back together.

5. Have a perfect personality

In love, if you always resist him and don't do what he asks, he will slowly lose control and even alienate you a little. So when you get back together or can talk comfortably, you can use psychological delay to satisfy this theory. Don't meet each other's requirements immediately, you can meet him slowly.

This can build a strong trust in him, so the correct way is to understand the principles and bottom line of your relationship. After all, if you step on the other person's death hole, it will make him even more unacceptable and even disgusted.

Pave the way for comfort

Because of the excessive pursuit of perfect personality characteristics, it is difficult for a perfect person to really relax himself, so in the process of recovery, you can try to help him find a suitable way to relax, actively guide him, let him get a pleasant experience in the process of getting along with you, and your relationship will become closer.

When saving this personality, it is mainly to give a positive and positive push emotionally. Because their emotions are unstable, they tend to be positive emotionally, but they need to be given stable dependence emotionally to make them feel safe, reliable and stable from their partners.

Therefore, in the process of recovery, we must be emotionally stable and determined, and we must ignore the emotional rejection of the other party. After all, their refusal was not entirely heartfelt.

Fourth, the following is the dry goods sharing time. If you want to have a sweet love experience with the perfect person, then simply say what you should do.

1. Learn to encourage each other

Because such people are eager for recognition and praise from others while pursuing perfection, you can try to express your recognition and love by giving some small gifts and appropriate praise.

2. Accept the criticism from the other side.

Perfect people just like to find fault. They are used to finding fault with every detail in their work and life, so when they are in love, you have to accept their mistakes, because on the one hand, this is his character, on the other hand, it is also a sign of his lack of confidence, so it is natural to make him feel balanced.

3. Take the initiative to admit mistakes

One of the typical characteristics of a perfect personality is that attention is always focused on one's own mistakes. Of course, other people's mistakes are never ignored. If you can take the initiative to admit your mistakes when you make them, you can often win their appreciation and goodwill.

Form the habit of punctuality

When dating them, we must attach great importance to time, because in their eyes, he cares more about the right or wrong of things, so he will have a bad impression on those who are late.

Although it is difficult to get back the perfect personality partner, they know exactly what they want. This is the key point that we can grasp. Short-term attitude doesn't make any sense. In fact, they are more eager for stability than you, so they must have confidence and firmly believe that the person who walks with him must be you.