Case 1: Legend of Liuchi Lane
During the reign of Emperor Kangxi in Qing Dynasty, Zhang, a native of Tongcheng, went to Wenhua Hall as a university student and a minister of rites. The neighbor is another big family in Tongcheng, and the owner is Ye Shilang of the same dynasty. There was a dispute between the two families because of the courtyard wall. Mrs Zhang wrote a book for Zhang Ying. Zhang Ying was deeply worried after reading the letter. She replied to the old lady, "A letter thousands of miles away is just a wall, so what's the harm if it makes people three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. "So Mrs. Zhang ordered the family to step back three feet and build a wall. Ye Fu was so moved that he ordered his family to move the courtyard wall back three feet. Since then, Zhang and Ye's two governments have eliminated barriers and become family friends.
Ex. 2: The Prime Minister can hold a boat in his stomach.
Shu in the Three Kingdoms period appointed Jiang Wan to preside over the state affairs after Zhuge Liang's death. One of his subordinates is Yang, who is withdrawn and speaks slowly. When Jiang Wan talked to him, he only answered. Someone couldn't get used to it and muttered in front of Jiang Wan: "It's outrageous that Yang is so rude to you!"
Jiang Wan smiled indifferently and said, "Everyone has his own temperament. It's not in Yang's nature to praise me to my face. Let him criticize me in front of everyone, and he will feel ashamed of me. So, he had to keep silent. In fact, this is his valuable place. " Later, some people praised Jiang Wan that "the prime minister can punt in his stomach".
Case 3: Generals and Legends
In 279 AD, in the old China era, Lin Xiangru of Zhao returned to Zhao after guarding the city wall, and made great contributions. Be worshipped as Shangqing, ranking above General Lian Po. Lian Po, who was self-reliant and successful, was not convinced and threatened to humiliate him. When Lin Xiangru heard Lian Po's words, he often refused to go to court because of illness, nor did he argue with Lian Po. Sometimes when Lin Xiangru goes out by car, he runs away when he meets Lian Po.
The public thinks he is timid. Lin Xiangru said, "I am not afraid of the king of Qin, so I am not afraid of Lian Po. I don't think the powerful state of Qin invaded Zhao because of the two of us. Nowadays, fighting between two tigers is bound to hurt and weaken the power to resist foreign enemies. The reason why I avoided General Lian was to worry about my family first and then avenge myself! "
When this word reached Lian Po's ears, Lian Po felt very ashamed, so he stripped off his clothes and offered a humble apology. He said: "I am rude and humble, and my ambition is shallow and narrow." I'm guilty of Guo Xiang, and Guo Xiang can be so tolerant. My death is not enough to make up for it. " So they will get back together and become friends of life and death.
Case 4: Friends of a thousand daughters
There is an allusion to Guan Zhong and Bao Shu in the Spring and Autumn Period. Soon after Guan and Bao met, they went into business together. Guan zhong has always wanted to take advantage. Uncle Bao is not greedy with him, knowing that he is poor. Since then, Guan Zhong has made a lot of bad ideas, which almost made the business impossible. Uncle Bao didn't feel stupid, but felt that he didn't meet a good time.
Later, Bao and Guan went to the home of Qi's son and Gong Zijiu respectively. Xiao Bai won and corrected his death. Guan Zhong was unlucky to be imprisoned. Bao Shu doesn't care about the winner, but recommends Guan Zhong to Qi Huangong (Xiao Bai), and doesn't care whether he will be under Guan Zhong. Duke Huan really worshiped Guan Zhong as a relative, governed Qi, and nine kings conquered the world, eventually becoming a generation overlord. Guan Zhong later lamented: "My parents gave birth to me, and Bao Shu knows me." .
Case 5: Renyi Hutong
Dong was a native of Jiyang, Shandong Province, and was an official in Beijing during the Ming Dynasty. One day, he received a letter from home saying that his house was built to lay a foundation, and he had a quarrel with his neighbor, hoping that he could use his power to solve the matter. Dong immediately wrote a book after reading it, saying, "A thousand miles to send books is just for the wall, and I can't help laughing and breaking my heart;" You are very kind to me and close to me. Why not give up both feet? "
After reading it, the family felt that Dong had a point. When building the house, they voluntarily gave up a few feet. Neighbors saw Dong Jia's behavior and felt something, so they followed suit. As a result, the two houses were eight feet wide, and after the houses were built, there was an alley called Renyi Hutong.
Tolerance means: people are generous, don't care, and don't pursue.
Tolerance is the most beautiful flower in human nature, and tolerance is the regulator of mental health. People will always suffer, be misunderstood and be wronged in social communication. Faced with these, the wisest choice is to learn to be tolerant.
Tolerance is a good psychological quality; Tolerance is extraordinary tolerance and broad mind; Tolerance is a noble quality and lofty realm; Tolerance is a light of love and a supreme blessing; Tolerance is the wisdom of survival and the art of life. It not only contains understanding and forgiveness, but also shows temperament and mind, strength and firmness.
A person who is intolerant but only demanding of others is often in a state of mental tension, which leads to nervous excitement, vasoconstriction and high blood pressure, thus leading to a vicious circle of psychology and physiology.