Most of these articles tell us a theme: women can have nothing, but they must have money.
Nothing is reliable, everything is empty, men will run, cheat, have domestic violence, and then they will only play games and leave you alone. If you get married, you will end up with nothing.
Career, no money, the appearance of a yellow-faced woman was dumped.
Most of the examples cited in this paper can't avoid the words "divorce", "abandoned wife" and "housewife", especially "housewife" seems to be synonymous with "loser".
Some people even go further and advise women not to get married. After reading these, people who are not in fear of marriage will go to fear of marriage.
In fact, I think the creators of these articles are well-intentioned and hope that women will be brave in live high. But some views are exaggerated, and some examples are unconvincing.
Among them, the most cited example is the typical case of marrying into a rich family:
The author always has good friends who marry into the rich family, but the economy is limited everywhere and the family suffers indignities everywhere. He can't even get in and out freely. Later, she angrily divorced and started a business, and eventually became a rich woman, which made her ex-husband regret it.
Seriously, this Cinderella story is really inspiring. It makes people excited just after reading it, but after reading it carefully, I feel that this story is particularly clumsy.
First of all, rich people won't marry the so-called Cinderella. The story of the overbearing president falling in love with Cinderella can only exist in TV dramas to deceive little girls.
Secondly, such stories about personal freedom are all made up, and the author watches too many Thai dramas.
There is still a big difference between real life and chicken soup articles All the articles are telling women to go out and make money quickly, but they always ignore the facts and don't put themselves in women's shoes from a realistic perspective.
First of all, talk about marriage. Marriage is not terrible. Some chicken soup articles describe the married family as Jackie Chan's Cave, as if stepping into marriage would make people beyond redemption. Everyone is married, and some girls don't yearn for marriage, but I believe most girls still yearn for marriage. I saw so many fairy tales when I was a child, and the ending was not unexpected. The prince and the princess lived happily. Who doesn't expect to be single-minded and never give up? Our parents will eventually grow old, and life is like a boat on the vast sea. Everyone is eager to have a reliable and warm arm to rely on when frustrated, and knows that there is a warm home waiting for us when lonely. These are all things that money cannot give us.
Secondly, countless chicken soup articles say that women must have a career and be rich. After giving birth, they should lose weight and go to work quickly, otherwise you will be ugly and fat and out of touch with society. Finally, your husband will dislike you and fall in love with someone younger and more beautiful than you and who has a career.
It is important to have a career and money, but for women, the real situation is not taken into account.
Now, the ranking of gender inequality in China has dropped to 100 in the world this year, which means that the gap between men and women is getting bigger and bigger, and women often face more inequality and gender discrimination when looking for a job.
When interviewing women, like the household registration survey, unmarried childless people generally require a verbal commitment not to get married and have children for several years, otherwise they will be treated as leaving their jobs. Those who are married and childless and married and fertile are not considered at all. Admittedly, employers have their own considerations, which is understandable. Why are mothers asked to find jobs in such a depressed employment environment and earn more than men? Realistic?
Secondly, talking about family and career is obviously a girl who has never given birth to a child, or a straight man with cancer. Women who have just given birth to children are suffering from postpartum pain and have to take care of a "time bomb" that will wake up at any time, be hungry at any time and cry at any time. In the case of lack of sleep and mental breakdown, do they have to clean themselves up like a little girl before marriage and go to work in high spirits?
Those who say that your husband will dislike you after giving birth, even if you don't have children and work hard to make money, he will still dislike you when the hormones stop secreting. It has nothing to do with whether you have children or how much money you earn, because he doesn't really love you, just regards you as several marriage partners, and he doesn't love you from the heart. I can only say that you met the wrong person, not that you are married or not.
People who really love you will love you at any time.
Tony Leung Ka Fai, the Hong Kong film-winner, is in the entertainment circle of debauchery, but she has been deeply in love with her skinny wife for 20 years, holding her hand in the street. This is the best proof of loving someone.
Many people say that they can choose to earn money, hire a nanny to take care of their children and send them to international schools and expensive interest classes. Although there is some truth, a child's childhood is only once. He has been changing. He can talk today and walk tomorrow. These are all missed. Who can say he won't regret it? The companionship of parents is the best gift for children's growth and even affects their life. Only when children are filled with the love of their parents in the process of growing up can they grow up happily and have a healthy personality and correct values.
Who can say that the role of housewife is not important now?
In the 20 17 hit TV series "The First Half of My Life", the role of Luo Zijun can be described as the tears of sympathy for all women, but I think the reasons leading to her divorce are all "created" by herself:
Shopping is never a luxury. Although Chen's salary is high, he can't help it.
In the shopping mall, I met Chen to accompany my female colleague to buy a necklace, and rashly appeared and said some embarrassing words to embarrass Chen;
Excessive suspicion, always ask his girlfriend to help investigate all female colleagues suspected of cheating on Chen;
The family is a drag bottle, and Chen Yi has no hesitation to help take care of the family;
Not confident about marriage, checking my mobile phone and always asking Chen: Do you love me or not? Chen, who has been tired for a day, is extremely annoyed;
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I believe all friends who have seen this play should sympathize with the role of Chen, because Luo Zijun is so creative.
In the play, Chen did not dislike his wife's economic independence. After all, the later superior, Xiao San Ling, had no proud economic strength and took her children with her. Instead, she disliked her work and was inconsiderate. Therefore, for the junior who is not young and beautiful, but considerate and considerate, it becomes a bit logical.
As a housewife, you don't have to sell yourself short at all. Running a good family, taking care of the daily life of husband and children, and maintaining the harmony of family members are definitely no easier than getting a promotion and salary increase in the workplace. You will pay even more, but you will get more.
Of course, if you have money, you have confidence, but if you have to have money to be confident at home and in front of your husband, how long can this confidence last? He only values your ability to earn money, not your ability to be a wife. When you lose your job unexpectedly or fail to start a business, will he support you and encourage you without hesitation? Only with financial support, not love, can we be confident, so this kind of marriage and husband don't matter.
I hope all women, whether married or not, know that money can't solve all problems, make your children grow up happily, make you cherish and care from your husband's heart, and make your family harmonious and warm. Money can't do anything about these problems, but as long as you manage and work hard, happiness is at your fingertips.
I also hope that you will not misunderstand the main idea of the article. I'm not saying that women's economic independence is not important, but that women only know what they really need when they choose between the workplace and the family.