When I saw it, I thought to myself, don't be angry, don't be angry, I want to give him the best answer: divide it, divide it quickly, or the day when she loses weight will be the time when you are dumped.
In the words of friends in Zhihu, put yourself in:
I hate that my boyfriend is too fat, forcing him to lose weight, and even saying that he is so fat that I don't want him. Is this too much?
I dislike that my boyfriend is too poor, forcing him to make money, and even saying that he is so poor that I don't want him. Is this too much?
I dislike my boyfriend's ugliness, forcing him to have plastic surgery, and even said that he was so ugly that I didn't want him. Is this too much?
Don't you want to put too much pressure on yourself? I have to play dumb, find some steps for my career, and think about what kind of gesture is more elegant when I embarrass others!
As a fat sister, Susie is quite sensitive to the word fat. Of course, I know I deserve to be fat, and I can't control my mouth. But as long as I am in good health, whether I have lost 80 kg or gained 100 kg really has nothing to do with others, whether it is passers-by, friends, boyfriends or relatives.
I remember a while ago, the children's god papi sauce was released on Monday: Do you want to join the team of "modern women"? A detailed list of the basic conditions that modern women need (ridicule).
Figure: Don't be too fat. Don't exceed 90 kg for 1 m 6 and 95 kg for 1 m 7. A is too small for the chest, B is average, and C is just right. The waist is not the thinnest, only thinner, no matter how thin.
Hairstyle: Don't perm or dye your hair. Straight black hair is the social favorite.
Education: neither too high nor too low. The doctor is obviously too high, and the undergraduate course is obviously too ordinary. Master's degree is the best, neither too high nor too low. It's beautiful to say.
Occupation: teacher, doctor and civil servant are preferred.
Income: neither too high nor too low. If tall, a strong woman is not conducive to finding a partner. If it is low, it cannot be economically independent and has no chips.
Make-up: You must know how to make up, but you can't wear heavy makeup. No nude makeup, only straight men.
Dress: neither too conservative nor too revealing, too conservative and too dissolute.
Looking for a partner: it is not advisable to find a younger one, otherwise the old cow will not find an older one, or it will be rich.
Having children: Be sure to have children. The best age is between 25 and 32. You must have children. If you have no children, you are not a woman.
These countless' simple' requirements from the outside to the inside are even worse than the previous three obedience and four virtues.
I compare them one by one. My figure, hairstyle, education, professional income, make-up, clothes, finding a partner and giving birth to a child are not up to standard. According to this standard, I am the most slutty female bitch and doomed to be an unwanted old demon.
Actually, I'm very angry when I mention it. I am a girl named' I won't marry' by my friends.
A while ago, I had a video dinner with three high school classmates (they ate three times and gave me a video online dinner). When talking about money, they all said that they must give advance notice to get married so as to prepare money.
One of the boys said that I would continue to take the civil service exam this year and get married next year. This is a notice.
I'm surprised. When did you have a girlfriend? It's okay to keep it a secret.
He leaned over to the camera and said, no, it's not easy to find a girlfriend. Pick a blind date and get married at any time.
It's my own fault that I envy you. Now my heart is drifting, and I always feel restless.
He said, I won't marry a girl like you anyway. Too wild. It is ok to fall in love!
My face is smiling and my heart is beating. What a coincidence! I will never marry a man like you.
You see, even my male friend who has known me for nearly ten years can accidentally reveal the truth by joking like this. Women are too playful and can play, but there is no way to marry home! A woman like me is definitely not the right person for married life!
Be reasonable, "You are not a girl suitable for marriage, but I want to fall in love with you" is really the best compliment! It is the biggest insult to say that girls are suitable for marriage!
Nowadays, the daily life of most girls is that in the workplace, girls must be twice or more excellent than boys to sit in the same position as boys. If they earn more money and get promoted quickly, there will be gossip behind them and she will sleep outside.
Even our respected parents and relatives are eloquent. When a girl grows up, she must get married. If she doesn't marry, it will bring shame to her family and make her parents look down. When you get married, you have to have children. If there are no children, you'd better go to the hospital for examination. Why can't others have children? Never divorce a girl when she gets married. Marriage should be tolerant. There is no quarrel in life. Don't be willful and don't talk back. Listen to your elders' husbands and don't refute them blindly. You said that even our most trusted parents think so, not to mention our relatives and friends who don't care much about watching the fun.
To tell the truth, I used to be super good, super obedient and very obedient. In the end, I found that it was useless to make others happy and make myself wronged, but it blinded my youth for so many years.
Now there are so many rules and regulations for women in this society that we have begun to lose the right to choose independently, as if they were the ones who would bear the consequences after making a choice. If girls don't know yoga, travel, fitness, vest line, cooking and makeup, then such girls are almost blacklisted by their elders, and they all hate iron to produce. Even we have changed the WeChat avatar, and someone will come over and ask, what avatar is always changed and I can't find you! (oh, my god! Note: Is this function eaten by dogs? )
In this society, every frame-up against girls is to keep them in captivity, to be obedient, not to cry and not to make trouble, just like a doll, just to carry on the family line.
But how can you not choose your life? Live the life you want. What's the matter? We are always asked to care about other people's feelings, so who cares about our feelings? Do other people's feelings have anything to do with us? It seems that if we feel that we have no money, the other party will transfer money to us.
Girls, we should try to be cool. No matter who, relatives or parents, no one can let ourselves be wronged.
Life is already very tired, and I really don't want to listen to other people's gossip to embarrass myself.