When I went to the kindergarten to pick up my children from school, I saw a mother and son quarreling at the kindergarten gate. Although the son who quarreled with his mother seems to be only a few years old, he can express his thoughts at an early age. The boy wanted his mother to buy him a particularly beautiful robot toy, because he saw one at the same table, but his mother obviously didn't want to buy this toy for her son at all. The son told his mother that he wouldn't go home today if he didn't buy that toy.
I thought the mother would compromise in the face of her crying son, but I didn't expect the mother to lose her temper. As soon as the child shouts, she knows that she is going to cry, and if she cries again, she will leave you outside and not go home. After that, she patted the child's ass. The child cried even harder, and the mother really fought violence with violence.
Not long after, the child's grandmother passed by and saw the crying child. She held the child in her arms and said to her mother, do you care so much about the child? Let the children cry every day. And he said to the child, dear grandson, don't cry. Grandma will buy you anything you want.
After grandma took her son away, she obviously sighed when she saw her mother. It can be seen that the education method of this family is very wrong. The mother has a bad temper, but her son doesn't eat it because there is a grandmother who dotes on her son. The mother's grumpiness towards her son also affects the child's style of doing things, so the son will make a hullabaloo about at the kindergarten gate.
meet violence with violence
Some parents will treat their children with a particularly tough attitude when they find that their children are disobedient. If children dare to cry outside, parents will directly hit them. In the face of rebellious children, some parents will say to their children, I think you just owe it. If you make trouble again, I will hit you now. Sometimes it is especially useful for parents to fight violence with violence, but the longer the child is, the more violent the parents will find the child.
A weak compromise
Some parents like to fight violence with violence, while others like to compromise with weakness. When the child is rebellious, parents will obey the child in everything, meet the child's requirements, and let the child stop venting his emotions. Although this method can make children not rebel for a while, after a long time, children will learn how to blackmail their parents, which will only lead children to learn more rebellious behavior.
cold-treat
No freedom
Some children will feel that they have no free space when they grow up under the particularly strict control of their parents. Some children are afraid to talk back to their parents because of their age. But when children grow up, they will be against their parents and become more and more rebellious. Although most children will start to fight back against their parents in their teens, some children may not be able to stand the discipline of their parents at a few years old.
doting
Some children grew up with old people. The biggest feature of old people's education for children is that they like to spoil their children and unconditionally meet any requirements of their children, which will make them become a particularly willful and selfish person. If children find that their parents don't meet their requirements, they will cry and try to intimidate their parents.
Equal communication
If children always like to fight against their parents, it means that children are fighting in their own way. Children will fight because they are dissatisfied with their parents. Most parents don't really respect their children and always force them. At this time, we can try to change our thinking and communicate with our children in an equal manner. In communication, learn to be friends with children, so that children will not be too rebellious and easy to listen to their parents.
come to terms
If children are always crying outside, parents should make an agreement with their children at home. Tell your child in advance that you can't do anything that doesn't conform to social etiquette outside. And let children know that if they cry, they won't get what they want. Parents are willing to meet their children's needs if they can ensure that their children are quiet, obedient and polite.
abstract
Some behaviors of children really upset parents. Every parent doesn't want his child to be a disobedient Xiong Haizi, but before changing his child, parents should also reflect on whether they have made mistakes in education. Children are in a rebellious period, and parents' educational methods should be constantly changed.