202 1 year, I will lose 10 kg and change back to the previous A4 waist.
In 202 1 year, I will read 50 books to light up my life with reading.
In 2002 1 year, I will learn1skills to get rid of poverty.
However, when setting up these flags, have you ever thought about it? How many goals have you achieved in 2020?
It is easy to set up a flag, but it is too difficult to achieve it. This is the pain point of most people.
At this point, I seem to see the tragic scene of countless flags falling.
Is there any way to keep the flag still?
With this document, all friends who set up the flag in the new year hope that it will help you stand firm, fly high and complete it perfectly.
First of all, the original flags are all water from the brain.
In life, there is never a shortage of people with hot heads. The goal must be ambitious, so as to show the determination to win.
However, the consequence of this is that many flags look beautiful, but they are difficult to implement. After you persisted for a while, you gave up and let go.
To this end, you start to regroup the flag again, and the result is still the same ending.
So, you blame all this on your lack of self-discipline.
But if you are self-disciplined, can you stick to the plan?
On the surface, lowering the flag is a matter of self-discipline, but it is actually these two issues.
0 1. Unknown target
Ask yourself first, is the flag you set up really what you want?
In life, how many people's flags are made according to their own hearts?
My former colleague Dong Zi is such a person. Listen to others say that traveling makes money, and follow; In less than two months, I heard that selling insurance made money and began to sell insurance; Later, tea shops, fruit shops and fast food restaurants all made it.
Every time he is chasing the wind, whether it is suitable or not, he works hard and keeps changing. The harder he works, the more he loses, and the whole person is not good.
Such a flag is bound to fall down soon, because these goals you choose may be wrong from the beginning.
02. Anxious to see the results
"Oh, why didn't it work? Won't it be inappropriate? "
"Why am I slower than others? Is the direction wrong? "
"Are you sure about this state?"
Too eager to see the results, it is easy to produce negative emotions such as entanglement, depression, worry and anxiety, which weakens our motivation to implement.
The interruption and failure of the plan cannot be accepted.
Sometimes, we temporarily interrupt the plan for personal reasons. Nothing at first, but when I think about it afterwards, I always blame myself. When self-blame gathers to a certain extent, we will feel depressed and trigger self-denial.
Zero tolerance for failure may strengthen our determination at first, but once we encounter a small setback, it will crush us in an instant. Like a string stretched too tightly, it is easy to break.
Second, the three main points to keep the flag from falling.
Found the problem and the crux, and the rest is the right medicine.
0 1. Clear goals?
Before raising the flag, we should ask ourselves what we want most.
The master of management, Born Tracy, gave us a seven-step method to set goals in the book Eat Frogs, which may be used as a reference.
(1) Be clear about what you really want. You can reconsider the goal plan listed at the beginning of the year and clarify your real goals.
(2) Write down the goal. Writing your goals in a notebook can deepen your impression and make your goals clearer and more specific. Research shows that people who write goals will achieve 5 ~ 10 times higher than those who don't.
③ Set the completion deadline. Write down the completion time limit and increase the sense of urgency.
(4) list the projects. The target task is embodied in the form of a list. We can dynamically supplement, constantly improve and make the goal more specific.
⑤ Make specific plans. Sort out the list, adjust and supplement it into specific plans, and sort it in order of priority.
Follow the plan immediately. Remember the six words "finish first, then perfect".
7. Solve some problems every day. The key is to move forward day by day. We can further break down the plan of the fifth step into months, weeks and days according to the specific situation, so as to ensure that the time of each day is not wasted.
02. Give yourself more patience.
It took four years for bamboo to grow 3 cm. Since the fifth year, it has been growing at a speed of 30cm every day, and it can grow to 15m in just six weeks.
In fact, in the first four years, the roots of bamboo extended hundreds of square meters in the soil. The same is true of being a man and doing things.
Don't worry that your efforts at the moment will not be rewarded. All these efforts are aimed at taking root.
Learn to streamline and untie yourself.
Don't keep yourself busy, and don't get a lot of things for nothing. Our brains can't stand opening so many task bars for ourselves.
List the "three most important things to do that day" every day and concentrate on your pursuit.
Leave some flexible space for yourself. For example, you may be busy at the end of the year. Look at what you were doing in June+February of last year, 5438, what fixed things you would do, what variables might appear, set aside some spare days, and don't fill in too much time.
202 1, let's cheer together! Let those flags be the flags that guide us forward, so as to meet a better self.