In fact, I have heard about the principle of mirror more than once before, but I have never made any progress in understanding it. I even thought: I clearly saw a tree in the Woods, so what was it projected into my heart? It has never been known.
Only recently did I realize that the external world and the internal world are in contrast and mapping with each other. For some objective things, what you see is what you get. For example, the house you see is a house, and the people you see are people. It is not a projection of the inner world, but the external world is imaged in your brain through your eyes. You see the outside world through your eyes and build such a world in your heart.
For some subjective things, such as one thing you see, your feelings for him, your evaluation of him, and your extended imagination of him, this is to explain this matter from your three views. This interpreter is different for everyone. Since childhood, too many factors have influenced his readers, thus forming a relatively stable three views. Look at the world, you always follow this interpreter when dealing with it, and you are more speculative when dealing with such people.
For the problems encountered on the road of life, the problems or injuries encountered by the outside world will be mapped to the heart, leaving traces. If not repaired, these problems or traces will be revealed in a certain scene. And your relationship with yourself will also be reflected in your heart, but sometimes it is not so direct, but becomes other faces.
The problems in your inner world
There are always some problems in the world you live in. Some of them have been tried but not solved, such as the relationship with parents, incomprehension of what parents did, unforgivability of what parents did, and even incomprehension of their own work. It is always difficult to open up, talk thoroughly and understand each other. Some scenes change with time, such as the ridicule of teachers or classmates, such as the love-hate entanglement with the first lover, and so on. If the problems in the external world are not solved, they will leave traces in the internal world, and in some cases, they will expose similar problems in your real life. This is my understanding of the mutual mapping between the real world and the inner world. For example, the relationship with my father in the story I read before has always been blamed on my father. I feel that my father never cared about her and didn't love her, so I took photos and kept them in my heart. As a result, his attitude towards his son was bad, which made him unpopular and the parent-child relationship was very tense. The relationship with her husband in the story is to look down on her husband's work, and disrespect for her husband will also project disrespect for others. When analyzing this story, the psychologist slowly guides to solve the problems in his heart, the relationship with his parents and his husband, so as to solve the current problem: the problem with his son. Even if I have little contact with my parents and live in two places, the problem has not been solved. The problem in my mind is that in some situations, it will be reflected in my present life and problems will arise.
Everyone has a lot of problems in their hearts. Children have suffered too much persecution and helplessness since childhood. Although they also have love, they have left many problems. Parents often do all kinds of harm to their children in the name of love, including myself, sometimes giving in to school and society, thus forcing children. These problems are often exposed to the world in adulthood. Sometimes I don't even realize it. Therefore, when we encounter problems in the real world, according to the mirror principle, we can try to find solutions from our own hearts, or at least try to see if there are similar problems left in our hearts. On the other hand, the inner world needs to be taken care of, often thought about and often solved. The inner world is really sunny, full of flowers, and the real world is picturesque.
Good books can often help you solve many mental problems. I remember watching The Kite Runner before, which was very touching and heart-wrenching. After reading it, I really looked at myself carefully. I really got in touch with a friend many years ago. She is no longer in China. I sent an apology message on QQ, sincerely apologizing for an incident that happened that year, and felt that some of my actions at that time were wrong. She was still surprised. She said nothing. It's over. But it left a trace of regret in my heart. The inner world should always be lit up, and there should be no corners that can't be reviewed aboveboard, because the problems in those corners will often be mapped to your present life, so your present life is dark.
Your relationship with your inner self
Another angle of the mirror principle is the relationship between you and your inner self, which will also be mapped out. This is even more important than the last point. I was very happy when I realized this myself. Your attitude towards your inner self, your acceptance of your inner self, your love for your inner self and your trust in your inner self will all be projected into your relationship with the outside world. Take my own analysis as an example. In recent years, I have transferred from a technical position to a management position. Due to the change of role, I have been lax in technical depth. Actually, I'm not satisfied with this positioning. There will be many problems when I project it into the outside world. I feel that the outside world is not satisfied with me, so sometimes the harmony disappears in the process of getting along. The fundamental problem is that I don't accept myself in my heart. The problem lies with yourself.
This is actually similar to Freud's psychoanalysis, and solving mental problems requires an interpretation of the inner psychological world. He observes and records cases, classifies and explains the spiritual world. For patients, through understanding the trauma caused by previous unpleasant experiences in their inner world, they can treat, clean up and even relive their inner problems through hypnosis, so as to solve the current mental problems. Exactly the same.
So I believe this sentence even more. When you encounter a problem outside, please go to your heart to find the answer. This problem cannot be solved from the outside. On the other hand, if you are satisfied with yourself and care about yourself, your heart is full, you are confident, and you have the ability to think independently. To the outside world, such people must be very independent, curious and constantly exploring the future. Even if you encounter problems, I believe that as long as you work hard, there will be no severe criticism at home and abroad.
No matter whether you conform to the current mainstream values or not, it is difficult to accept and trust yourself wholeheartedly whether the audience is excellent or not. Modern society, parents' expectations and social pressure all require you to be the most perfect and not slack off at all, otherwise it seems that you will be abandoned by the whole world. However, as ordinary people, we are not perfect. We have many questions. We have average IQ, average job and average economic foundation. Many people can't accept themselves wholeheartedly, can't happily accept the ordinary life now, struggle in constant expectation and disappointment, look haggard and often go out with negative emotions. For the problems encountered, I always feel that it is the reason of others, society and system, so as to seek a little peace of mind, and go on and on.
When reading Mindfulness Meditation recently, I talked about the process of meditation, which is a process of inner exploration. You need to slowly ignore the pattern of the outside world, accept yourself wholeheartedly, feel yourself, and observe yourself, so that you can experience unprecedented joy and tranquility. A lot of anxiety and worry are caused by not fully living at this moment and not fully accepting yourself at this moment.
This is what I thought from the mirror image principle, which made me re-examine myself and gained a lot. Sometimes a good story can bring profound enlightenment. I hope you can often explore and illuminate your heart, and the mirror principle will play its role.