This burden reflects the problem that it is difficult for women to find a partner and organize a family. I remember reading a sentence like this: undergraduate women are like Huang Rong, master women are like Li Mochou, doctoral women are like extinct teachers, and 35-year-old unmarried doctoral women are Dong Fangbubai.

For a woman, 35 years old is not small. It can be said that she has passed her youth. Maybe some people call you "sister" before the age of 35, but once they reach the age of 35, they just call her "aunt".

Even the tellers who recommend cosmetics to you in the shopping mall will directly recommend some anti-wrinkle products to you. It seems that she was a girl yesterday and is now a middle-aged woman.

It is said that women are not married after 35 years old and can only get married twice in the future. It is even more difficult to find a satisfied husband, because at this time, even if you have a crush on others, others will doubt you and be afraid that you will not have children.

1, find a phoenix among chickens.

Yan Yan showed her unique talent from an early age, and she was among the best in learning. She has always been a child of others in the eyes of relatives, friends and neighbors, and finally she was admitted to a prestigious school.

When graduate students were about to graduate, Yan Yan's mother wanted Yan Yan to find a job close to home and be with her after marriage, but Yan Yan secretly signed up to the doctor behind her back.

The parents of other children are worried that their children will not study, but Yan Yan's mother is worried that their children are too studious. What she didn't expect was that she also applied for a place to study abroad in the second year of Bo, which made her mother sit still even more, because she felt that she was just a child and would definitely have a good life abroad in the future. What should she do if she makes a foreign boy and lives abroad?

Fortunately, Yan Yan devoted herself to her studies. Love is like a blank sheet of paper. I don't know if it's because I have no talent for dating or because I don't have time. I haven't even seen the shadow of my boyfriend now.

Seeing that people of the same age are married and have children, Yan Yan is still in no hurry, immersed in the world of knowledge every day and studying her own professional affairs. Seeing that Yan Yan has been like this, her mother began to worry and said to her: You are 30 years old, why don't you worry about your life? In a few years, all the good men will be picked out, or they will have to get married twice!

Under the pressure of family, Yan Yan finally embarked on the road of blind date, but it was not easy to find the right person at this time, so she had to look for the phoenix among the "chickens", because Yan Yan's mother thought that Yan Yan was a doctor, how could she find the average person?

2. The reality is cruel

At first, my aunt was not worried about her daughter's object. After all, my daughter's education, income and face value have nothing to say. It is not difficult to find a successful person with a car and a house.

However, after many blind dates, although I met many people, it was really different from what I expected. So far, Yan Yan hasn't met a suitable one, so she can't be high or low. After two years, even the number of people introduced is much less.

The blind date was also forced to stop, and Yan Yan once again devoted herself to her career. Although Yan Yan has bought a car and a house now, she is considered a successful person, but Yan Yan's mother looked at her daughter's almost 35 years old and began to worry again.

For her daughter, she stopped dancing square dance and concentrated on her daughter's business. Not only did she ask around if there was a suitable young man, but she also went to the matchmaking agency to register, but the standard in her heart did drop again and again: it doesn't matter if there is no garage. It's better to be unmarried and married twice, but she can't have children.

I got married just to have children.

After many troubles, Huang Tian finally found a relatively suitable "man", but he is almost 40 years old and has his own company. All the conditions are not bad, and he is very graceful.

Yan Yan also wanted to get along well with each other first, but in the end the man suddenly made a request: "We are all adults, so we must try together first!" " "

Yan Yan also understood the meaning of this sentence, but she still kept her first kiss, and it was a bit embarrassing to go directly to the next step, so she said: Can't it wait until after marriage?

But the man's next words were enough to make her angry: "I got married to have children." I wanted to find a younger one, but I heard that you are a doctor, but you are 35 years old. I'm not sure you can have a baby. If we have children, we can get married right away. "

Karl Marx once said, "Marriage without love is immoral." Whether a marriage is happy or not depends on whether the two sides have an emotional foundation. If they just make do with having children, then think about it and know what kind of distress they will face in the future.

Everyone wants to harvest a beautiful life, a beautiful family and a beautiful marriage, but if marriage is not based on love and only pursues those so-called successful people, how can there be happiness?

Tu Lei once said: Only height, beauty and ugliness, and wealth match can be more conducive to the stability of marriage. Of course, this doesn't mean everything, but I think only the right one is the best. Instead of blindly pursuing the upper class and delaying your great youth, it will not be worth the candle.