Just arrived at the square, Tong Tong joined several children who often played shuttlecock together and played shuttlecock with them.
I found some young parents talking about their children on the edge of the square, and I joined them. Among this group of adults, there is a boy named Gan Gan, who is snuggling up to his mother.
At this time, I heard my godmother say to another mother, "My son can't read, so his grades are not as good as yours." When mom said this, she seemed a little embarrassed to do it.
"No, I heard that work-study programs are quite good." A man said to his godmother.
Probably to show "modesty", dopted mother quickly said, "Where, my child, there is nothing to worry about. I don't study as well as Pumbaa, I'm not polite, and I don't like to do housework ... "
Being exposed by his mother in public, he was very angry with his work. He looked up and said to his mother, "I'm not good here, and I'm not good there." You should be the mother of a good child. "
Dry words made everyone laugh. I'm not laughing. I feel sorry for those dry words.
I know something about this boy named Angang. I know that he is kind, likes to help others and is loyal to his classmates and friends. I interjected, "I think it's good to do so. He has many advantages over others. Is it too difficult for a godmother to ask her son? "
Then, I asked Gan Gan: "I heard that many children like to play with you. Why don't you play with them? "
"I'm leaving." Say that finish, dry mother grabbed his hand and ran to a group of children.
After I left, I said to my godmother, "I think we should try not to talk about our children's shortcomings in front of them, especially not to compare their shortcomings with the advantages of other children." Look, were you happy just now? "
Dopted mother smiled.
Parents who want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed hope that their children are not superior to other children in all aspects, but this is unrealistic.
Every child has his own advantages and disadvantages, and all have their own advantages and disadvantages. Parents should believe that every child is unique and worthy of love, and learn to accept their own children, especially their own shortcomings and deficiencies.
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Once, several parents and I organized a children's group activity in my home. During the activity, each child performed his own specialty program, and several children performed the program collectively.
The purpose of holding such activities is to give children more opportunities to interact and get along with their peers. Because, in today's society where the only child is the overwhelming majority, peer communication has become a prominent problem in family education.
In this activity, because adults and children are familiar with each other, almost all children are scrambling to express themselves. There is only one girl who is "different". She is not keen on performing any programs. From beginning to end, she just took fruit, handed melon seeds, poured water and did some service work for others.
On several occasions, several adults encouraged Yang Yang to perform, and her mother also pushed her daughter to perform dances for everyone from time to time, but Yang Yang ignored the opinions of adults and was still busy serving everyone.
I saw Yang Yang's mother shake her head helplessly, and even whispered, "This child! Always different from others. It's really worthless Look at people, how well the program is performed. "
Looking at Yang Yang's behavior, I smiled and said to her mother, "Your daughter is very caring and kind. You see how careful and patient she is when serving people. " She will be a very popular person in the future, a person who can bring warmth to others. "
The girl's mother gave a wry smile, said nothing, and didn't force her daughter to perform again.
Parents can't simply measure and prevent children from behaving differently from many children, or from entering their parents' "sight". Parents should respect their children as long as they are harmless to people, themselves and the surrounding environment.