Finalized: Ouyang Biwen

In the process of educating children, there is always an unavoidable topic. That is "sharing". Advocating children to share is actually a very important educational concept, but the problem is that many parents don't understand the meaning of sharing.

During the recent eleventh holiday, everyone was resting at home, and the community was more lively than usual. I can always see some parents taking their children for a walk and playing. One of them is Pipima, who is playing in the yard with her son and the scooter she just bought.

There are other parents and children in the community. Pippi's scooter is quite attractive, and several children cast envious eyes. One of the little girls dared to ask Pippi if she could borrow a scooter to play with.

Pippi looks like her sister. Remembering that his mother taught him how to share, he lent his scooter to the little girl without hesitation. Pippi looked quite pleased.

It was supposed to be a warm thing, but Pippi gradually found something was wrong. Her son's scooter was occupied by a little girl, and she didn't return it to her son after playing for a long time. Her son tried several times and was rejected, which gave her some headaches.

After thinking for a while, he shouted to his son, "Pippi, go and get the scooter back." We're going home. Play with Miss Sister next time. " Pippi was surprised when she heard her mother's words. She went directly to the little girl to ask for a scooter, but the little girl didn't want to give it yet.

When Pippi saw this, she had to communicate with the girl herself. "Little sister, we are going home. We returned the scooter and lent it to you next time. " As a result, the little girl not only refused to listen, but also clung to the scooter and refused to give up. Even hostile eyes.

This made Pippi a little angry, and she was going to take the scooter back directly. At this time, the little girl's grandmother spoke in a strange way. "Yo yo, a scooter is not worth a few money. As for being so stingy, haven't you taught your children how to share? "

When she said this, Pippi Ma got angry directly and didn't care about the little girl at all. She made a sudden snatch and snatched the scooter back from the girl, and then went back coldly. "Would you like to share? Besides, teachers teach polite children to share, and children without tutors have the face to say? " Speaking of sharing, why don't your children take out their toys for my son to play with? "

Later, in the group, Pippi Ma also talked about it. As a result, many people said they knew little girls and old ladies. Everyone said that the child was spoiled by the old man.

And Ma Bao said, "That child has no concept of sharing. Last time, he gave my son a toy. I didn't care because things were not expensive. As a result, the old lady didn't appreciate it at all and deserved it. "

Many parents have encountered similar things, and Pipi Ma's practice is really "understandable".

Even if we educate our children to know how to share, we must first establish a clear "awareness of property rights" for our babies. That is, let children understand that "their own goods have the right to control and dispose of themselves", so it is meaningful to teach children to share.

Of course, before that, let the children know what is their own and what is others'. Such as his toys, picture books, clothes, etc. It is his own. If others want to use them, they must ask his permission.

Parents' mobile phones and computers are all parents'. If children want to use it, they must first ask their parents for permission. Various facilities in public places, such as slides, fitness equipment, bus seats, etc. , all for the public. If you want to use it, you have to use it in turn according to "public order and good customs".

Over time, under the influence of this kind of education, children's awareness of property rights can be accurately established. In this way, when the child chooses to "share" again, it is a heartfelt sharing.

Some parents will reluctantly say that we are willing to respect children's awareness of property rights, but sometimes it is not the same thing at all, such as Xiong Haizi grabbing children's toys, or like the little girl Pippi Ma who met above, taking toys and not returning them. What should we do?

1) peace of mind

Faced with such a problem, parents should never fall into the emotional whirlpool, either thinking that their children are too stingy when they do something wrong, or that they are too timid and bullied to resist. No matter what kind of idea, it is not the right emotion to solve the problem.

Parents should first ask their two children calmly, without criticism, judgment or judgment, "Can I help you?"

2) Timely response

Sometimes, parents will not intervene with the mentality of exercising their children when they encounter other children grabbing their toys, and let them solve their own problems. It doesn't matter if the two children are evenly matched.

However, if the other person bullies the child, you should stop being nervous and exercise the child's mentality, and stand up quickly, so as not to let the child feel neglected.

3) The caliber is consistent

What this means here is that in the face of the final solution to the problem, children and parents should reach an agreement, not completely listening to their parents, or completely listening to their children, even if the children just don't want to share toys, there is nothing wrong with this.

You can help your children communicate with each other's children and ease the tense atmosphere, but as long as the other parents are reasonable, they will solve the problem peacefully.

4) Stay calm

After the first three points, things seem to be solved, but it's not over yet. Ma Bao should also guide the children to "calmly" withdraw from this debate. This matter was thus completed.

Koi fish, mom has something to say.

Before educating children to share, our parents should let them understand the concept of property rights. Secondly, we should also understand that sharing is a child's right and has nothing to do with virtue and politeness. Morally, parents should never kidnap their children, let alone other children.