But children are no better than adults. If they get used to a certain behavior pattern, it will be difficult for them to get rid of it later. And if you spend too much time on electronic products, children will disappear elsewhere. It has an impact on their learning and cognition.
I asked 10 parents, and 10 disapproved of children's excessive use of mobile phones. However, there are different opinions on whether to prohibit children from playing mobile phones.
I prefer not to ban it, and my family has never excluded children from playing video games. Nowadays, children have developed very good habits.
I don't forbid children to play mobile phones because of these considerations:
The more taboo 1 is, the more eager we are to be surrounded by electronic products. Children can learn from various channels and be attracted. Children are curious about something and want to try it. If parents strictly restrict it, it will be like controlling a flood, but if it is blocked, the flood will not be cured. His son Yu used a new method to dredge the river and finally managed the water.
Children have desires and should be guided and given an exit. Otherwise, it will only accumulate, and it will get out of control at the first opportunity in the future.
The mobile phone is not a tiger, but the game on the mobile phone is improper use. Do you think it's completely harmful? Not exactly. Games are interactive and more participatory than watching TV. Many children's games are helpful to children now. Such as programming games, language games and drawing games.
Moreover, there are many learning apps on mobile phones, and my children often use some audio apps to learn.
Children can play mobile phones properly, but they can't use them excessively. If parents are properly restrained, children can learn to entertain with their mobile phones.
3 How to make children use their mobile phones correctly? My approach in this regard is: stipulate the length of each day, the content must be healthy, stand firm and provide all kinds of happiness.
I have no objection to children playing with mobile phones and tablets. However, our family stipulates that the duration of play should not exceed 30 minutes every day (children are younger than 5 years old, and older children can be extended appropriately). It is up to the child to decide when to spend these 30 minutes in a day.
I will filter the content as broadly as possible, but if it is not suitable for young children, I will definitely not let her play. Within the safe range, she can choose for herself.
After the rules are set, I will resolutely implement them and will not condone them because the children are bored or crying. After a period of persistence, children know that family rules are like this and can accept them, and it is easy to operate when they form habits.
In addition, in order to keep children from thinking about playing games, I will provide all kinds of fun. Try to accompany your child with your heart. For example, playing games with children, doing handicrafts with children, going out for sports and reading picture books. If a child's life is rich enough, he won't always want to have fun in one way.
This is my answer to this question.
To sum up: don't restrict children, give them the desire to export. Use mobile phones reasonably, give children limited time, provide children with all kinds of fun, and let children develop good habits of using mobile phones without being addicted to them.
Thank you for reading. I hope it inspires you.
With the development of high technology, this issue has become a topic of discussion today. Mainly around the child's physical development, especially how children protect their eyes. With the development of the global Internet and electronic technology products, how do children face the irresistible problem of returning to the wall with mobile phones and computers? My personal point of view is that as a parent, it is not in line with the present era to care about it. It is also an escape from reality, and it is definitely not feasible. Parents should master the scale to guide education, that is, to protect children's health and learn knowledge from mobile phones. This is also a new problem when parents educate their children.
Hello, I'm glad to answer this question.
Mobile phone is the product of social development and has become an indispensable part of our life. Moreover, with the development of artificial intelligence, mobile phones will inevitably exist for a long time to come. We should look at the problem of playing mobile phones objectively. After all, the mobile phone is just a tool, but the tool is dominated and used by us.
Let's start with prohibition. So to some extent, the more forbidden it is, the more pleasure children can get from playing mobile phones. Children are more likely to let go only when they are completely satisfied. It's a bit like the psychology that the less you get, the more you want.
2. When we ban it, that is, when we deprive children of contact with mobile phones or electronic products, we actually deprive them of contact and adaptation with the future society. After all, with the continuous development of social life, we can't live without mobile phones, and now we need mobile phones for teaching, life and work. From this perspective, prohibition is obviously unrealistic.
3, lead by example, if we want to ban children from playing with mobile phones, then we must first set a good example. We can't let children play, but we keep brushing our mobile phones. I didn't let my daughter play when she was in the first grade. As a result, she said, why can you adults play and children can't? So you see, many times we forbid it, and children may not have the strength, and they are forced by the authority of their parents not to say anything, but it doesn't mean that children really don't want to play. This is a point that we should pay attention to.
Let's talk about playing with mobile phones. The reasons why we prohibit children from playing mobile phones may be:
1, worried about children playing mobile games, worried that children are addicted and affect their studies.
2. Worried that children playing mobile phones will affect their health, such as poor eyesight and hunchback.
I'm worried that children will get some negative effects when they play mobile phones, such as violence and swearing.
In the face of children playing mobile phones, we often show that we don't want to care, dare not care, don't care, and the most fundamental thing is that we don't care.
Therefore, it is our homework to teach children how to use mobile phones and how to get along with them. So let children know that mobile phones or other electronic products can be played. This is not a bad thing, but a common tool in our lives and a neutral existence.
Then what can we do to make children play mobile phones again and eliminate our worries?
2. Enrich children's lives, such as reading, playing with friends and getting in touch with nature. Give children a chance to play, children have many choices, so playing mobile phones has become one of the choices, which can effectively pull children back from the virtual world to real life.
3, equal respect, give children the right to choose and decide, for example: allow children to play mobile phones, we agree on time, let children set their own time. Usually, children with good feelings will have good behavior. It can also effectively enhance children's independence and sense of security.
4. Encourage, affirm and praise. When playing mobile phones, when we make an appointment with our children, they will do it. We should give them a definite definition in time and keep our word. Strengthen children's positive behavior.
Parents grow faster than their children, at least at the same level as their children. When parents don't grow up fast enough, such as observing children's emotions or coping with emergencies, they can only be parents of young children, but when children reach primary school or junior high school, parents will naturally fail to keep up or drag their feet. Because each child is at a different stage, his needs are different. If parents don't realize that they just stay in the study of food and clothing, then the depth of the relationship provided by parents to their children is far from matching the needs of a senior pupil or adolescent child.
Generally speaking, parents give their children enough company, are willing to share their children's joys and sorrows, and do not interfere excessively with their hobbies. That child is satisfied with real life, which can effectively prevent the child from indulging in playing mobile phones.
Well, this is my personal idea, I hope it will help you.
Pay attention to big fish parenting and grow up happily with children. I am the father of two babies, Dabao is six years old and Bauer is three and a half years old. Combining my own experience, I share my views on children using mobile phones. In the current social environment, mobile phones are a necessity in modern society. From the parents' point of view, the daily work arrangement and daily communication between adults, the homework arrangement after children go to primary school, and the communication between home and school are all done through various groups, etc., all of which need to be done by mobile phones, and have become a part of work and life. Parents worry that their children waste too much energy and time on their mobile phones, or indulge in some games or live broadcasts. This kind of worry is similar to when computers and networks just emerged, and the network was regarded as a scourge. With the development of the times, the network has become an indispensable support for modern social and economic life. Therefore, it is a problem that parents should consider to help children establish the correct concept of using mobile phones and control the time and content of using mobile phones. For this problem, I have several suggestions: First, tell children what mobile phones can be used for, such as chatting, video, learning, and then negotiate with them what software they can use, what is the upper limit of using mobile phones every day, and set the corresponding punishment mechanism after exceeding it.
In short, in the current social environment, children need to have mobile phones. As for how to use mobile phones for children, the positive effect of mobile phones on children depends on the patient guidance of parents.
The ancients have explained this problem: blocking is better than sparse!
For whatever purpose, parents can't ban their children from playing mobile phones all their lives. If they don't play at home, won't she play outside? She has no cell phone. Can't she watch others play? The more banned, the easier it is to usher in an unimaginable outbreak.
I think the answer is no, most parents are tired and worried about the bad influence of mobile phones on their children, whether it is games or information flow that is difficult to filter. The second aspect is the concern about "addiction".
Is there anything more convenient and brainless than banning and blocking? This is the same as beating and scolding education.
In order to let children use mobile phones reasonably, it is necessary to make rules with children; If children are not addicted to mobile phones, they need to spend more time with them to enrich their lives. ...
Parents need to learn, spend time and energy, think, explore, summarize and break through. But parents are very busy. ...
Whether children should be forbidden to play with mobile phones depends on the situation. Different situations should be handled in a reasonable way to achieve the best results.
So, don't forbid children to play with mobile phones. It depends on what is favorable. We encourage children to acquire knowledge through mobile phones. If they are unfavorable, we must guide them correctly.
However, playing mobile phones for a long time will affect children's health, such as myopia, which is easy to affect the spine. Arrange your time reasonably and combine work and rest.
In the era of information intelligence, it can be said that going out without a mobile phone will not only be regarded as a beautiful thing, but also be suspected as something. Why not prohibit children from playing with mobile phones? Before answering this question, tell yourself a true story that happened to you.
I still remember the first few years when I was born. Because I lived with my father all the time, my 4s mobile phone broke down during pregnancy, and I didn't buy it again after the receiver failed. I have always regarded that mobile phone as a companion clock. Later, after the baby was born, I was naughty and needed more care and energy. At that stage, I found it convenient to live without a mobile phone.
But then I fell in love with online shopping and took my children out for a stroll, so there will be more and more inconvenient things.
First talk about online shopping!
Because online shopping is cheap and convenient, I often like online shopping, and there are packages every once in a while. Every time the courier arrived, the child's father asked me to put the parcel in the pharmacy for safekeeping, collect a one-yuan deposit and pick it up after work. I don't think there are many one or two pieces. If there are many packages, I will feel a little distressed, which is not cost-effective.
So, I changed the receiving contact to the mobile phone number of my aunt who lives next door. At first, I had the cheek to use it, but once, no one placed an order, a puzzling package arrived and paid my aunt some unhappiness. At that moment, I also understood that mom and dad were not as good as me. Maybe my aunt is a normal expression, but my request does bring inconvenience to others.
Let's talk about the inconvenience of going out for a walk first
Once, I took my child out for a walk and found the key missing halfway. At that time, for the convenience of time, I also took my broken mobile phone with me. In order to find out whether the door is locked at home, I found a restaurant to order food for my children and asked to borrow my boss's mobile phone as a contact tool, but the boss obviously felt "afraid of being cheated", which seemed to be both caring and realistic. After all, is it normal to go out without a contact phone in this era? Being regarded as a "liar" is really not a wonderful event.
After all kinds of inconveniences, I bought a new mobile phone and charged the phone bill when the children were naughty, because as a communication tool, it sometimes seemed unnecessary, but I didn't know the importance of owning a mobile phone until I experienced the inconvenience. In fact, the same is true of educating children. Mobile phones are not as horrible as they are supposed to be. Children are addicted to mobile phones and short-sighted. Sometimes, it's really not a mobile phone, but a loophole in the way of education.
Why not prohibit children from playing with mobile phones? Because mobile phones are also an auxiliary kit in parent education!
When it comes to playing with mobile phones, we have to admit that the influence brought by mobile phones has both disadvantages and advantages. Sometimes, making good use of mobile phones is a very effective measure in our education. My classmate Xiaohua has a daughter who studies very hard. She is a "three good" student in her class and an excellent class representative every year. Every time we chat, the little girl can always speak freely.
When asked why the little girl can talk eloquently, Xiaohua said, "I studied on my mobile phone." The educational concept of students is also to let children grow up in "play", but this educational concept is really different. If you put it on other parents, you will fly into a rage when you hear about playing, forcing your child to focus on his homework. In fact, in the intelligent era of "no search", reasonably controlling children to play mobile phones can indeed become an auxiliary kit in learning, so that children can be more active in learning.
Why not prohibit children from playing with mobile phones? Because out of the phone is out of the times!
In addition to being a "no search" learning kit, the mobile phone is also a symbol of the trend of the times. If children are separated from mobile phones, it is undoubtedly directly separating them from the times. When classmates and friends talk about a hot news topic or a person's topic, people who are completely out of mobile phones will run out of goods in their minds, and even the amount of knowledge that stays in them will make fun of their own ideas.
So don't forbid children to play with mobile phones, mainly in learning AIDS and keeping pace with the times. Mobile phones are not the main reason for children's weariness and myopia. Mobile phones are harmless and harmful only to users' habits and mentality. In fact, mobile phones can also become "good partners" in children's growth.
Then, how to correct the mentality and habits of children playing mobile phones?
1, set an example from the beginning.
Let children have fun with their mobile phones and regard them as "good partners" in learning. At the beginning, parents should set an example in education, such as "try not to take mobile phones so seriously". Many parents and children are addicted to mobile phones because they regard them so important that they have to be mobile phones all the time.
How to make children understand not to take mobile phones too seriously?
When children want to play or indulge in mobile phones, if parents guide the primary and secondary relationship and let children know that mobile phones are only auxiliary, everything needs to rely on their own reasons, they can better play their positional relationship with mobile phones. For example, when we were navigating, we got lost and suddenly met with no signal in the mountains. When the mobile phone can't connect to the internet and can't show the way, it is a useless brick.
At this time, if you want to get out of the predicament, you need to rely on your own brain and calm down. In order to make your children realize that mobile phones are not omnipotent, parents can take their children out to travel and take the opportunity to exercise. After you have a personal experience, you will find that children's dependence on mobile phones will be much reduced. They like to remember their own way when they go out, and they like to think for themselves when they can't do problems, instead of going to Baidu to ask for a mobile phone whenever they encounter problems.
2. Watch more valuable content with children.
Children watching mobile phones is nothing more than a pastime, an attempt in boredom and curiosity. At this time, the child's heart is actually as white as paper. If we watch more valuable content with our children, you will find that the content of children playing mobile phones has also become positive energy. In addition, many apps now have learning enlightenment content. If the child's learning direction is not distorted, I believe that under the guidance of valuable content, the amount of knowledge on the child will become more and more abundant?
So, how to watch some valuable content with children?
Watch some valuable content with children, not show them ancient poems, performances and music performances, but use interest and intention to understand what they want to learn. For example, your child is particularly interested in painting and handcrafting. At this time, we can watch some interesting craftsman videos with our children, or simulate painting on the mobile phone with our children, which can not only develop their interesting thinking, but also feel the care and consideration from their peers with the participation of parents and children.
You know, being with children is actually a very withered thing. If the mobile phone is regarded as a part of companionship, it is actually a valuable experience content and a valuable harvest.
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Computers in those days, mobile phones today. It will ruin the child. It's also called plaything weary in well doing.
Should children be forbidden to play with mobile phones?
I saw a real case not long ago. A college student with excellent academic performance. Fail because of many courses. Was ordered to drop out of school by Zhejiang University.
The college students cried, under the discipline of their parents. I haven't played computer or mobile phone for many years. Being addicted to mobile games in college is just a compensation for the past.
A colleague in my dormitory never lets my son in primary school play with his mobile phone. Once, his son secretly played with his mobile phone under the quilt while they were sleeping. Beaten up by colleagues. The child was scared to wet the bed for several days.
The so-called extremes meet. At that time, only the pipe was blocked to control water. In the end, in vain.
Later, Dayu adopted the method of combining dredging and blocking, and finally succeeded in controlling water.
I allow children to play mobile games. I even prepared engraving equipment for him. Later, my son's rank rose from silver to diamond. Among my son's classmates, he is not the highest in the glory of the king, but he is also in the top three. Many students envy my son.
The teacher praised the master the glory of the king in his son's class.
Of course, there are conditions for children to play games.
First, keep your arms straight. Keep your mobile phone away from your eyes.
Second, you must finish your homework before playing games.
Three, a month before the final exam, don't play games.
Children used to play the king every day. Now in the fifth grade, the study task is heavy. Only once or twice a week.
When I was in my twenties, I went to Internet cafes every day because there was no computer at home. My son has had a computer since he was a child. There are also several games he likes to play. Computers are not new to him.
My son played mobile games since childhood, but he won't be so obsessed with mobile phones in his twenties.
On the other hand, my colleague's son. Never played the glory of the king. When his classmates discussed games, he was alienated and looked down upon by his classmates. Personality will gradually distort. Moreover, after 10 and 20 years old, he will definitely be obsessed with mobile games without the discipline of his parents.
I don't think children should be addicted to mobile phones. There are two main points:
The first is to let children play mobile phones moderately.
The second is to cultivate children's rich hobbies. My son is an expert in Rubik's Cube. Learn go.
This is the Confucian doctrine of the mean-do things just right and don't go to extremes. Children can't play with mobile phones. It is even more impossible to ban children from playing mobile phones.
Let me give you a simple example. I work in the government, and I am proficient in computer skills. In the work unit, it is more valued and considered to be a work expert.
Another colleague, whose computer is unfamiliar, can't adapt to the modern working environment quickly. If he can't keep up step by step, he can't keep up step by step. Now his work is basically deserted, and important work leaders are only arranged as deputies.
In fact, our academic qualifications are similar, and our studies are generally not too bad. The reason for the difference is that I played computer since I was a child, but he didn't. When I was a child, my parents regarded computers as a scourge and never got beaten for playing computers.
Today's mobile phones, like computers in those days, are actually new things, and the future will be an inseparable part of life and work. In fact, just like reading a book, mobile phone brushing media is just a different way to get information. As long as you play less the glory of the king, it's not a bad thing.
I took my daughter to get vaccinated two days ago and found that the epidemic prevention station had been reformed. There are more people than ever before, which can be described as a sea of people.
I turned around and couldn't find a seat. My daughter and I strolled back and forth. Just as a mother got up with her child in her arms and went to the queue window, we went forward and sat down.
The one closest to me is an old lady, and on her right is a young father with a two-year-old son. Father and son each have a mobile phone, father brushes Tik Tok, and son watches Piggy Peggy, each in his place and enjoying it in harmony.
Less than two minutes later, a young lady, who should be the boy's mother, came and took the boy's mobile phone, and the boy began to cry. The woman said "hug him and shake him" to the old lady, and then took the mobile phone and left. The old lady shook the little boy in her arms, and the little boy's father continued to brush his mobile phone.
Coincidentally, coming out of the inoculation room, another father showed his two-year-old daughter a mobile phone in the corridor.
Looking around again, there are quite a few people who bring their babies down to brush their mobile phones.
It suddenly occurred to me that about this time last year, I once took my daughter to Dongyuan for dinner. At the next table, three mothers took three little girls to eat. There is a mobile phone in front of every child, and the children are staring at it. While chatting, mothers send food to their children's mouths. The little girls are all about the same age, about two or three years old.
Isn't it a little early to show your child your mobile phone at the age of two or three? Is it good for children's eyes?
There is no doubt that it is still early, which is not good for the eyes. Children's retinas will not be fully developed until 12 years old. Before that, they should try to avoid touching electronic products such as mobile phones. Adults staring at the screen for a long time will still hurt their eyes and neck, not to mention children who are still developing.
Although it is impossible to directly identify the mobile phone as the direct killer of children's eyesight, what we adults deeply realize is that the mobile phone can really bring visual and auditory enjoyment and interesting information, even without thinking at all. This influence is not only eyesight, but also concentration and subjective initiative.
What if the child insists on watching and cries without showing it?
The power of example is infinite. Behind Xiong Haizi is a bear parent. Parents should set an example if children don't play or play with mobile phones less.
A mother asked my daughter if she could watch her mobile phone, but not much.
For example, when my daughter is one year old, she will get a red envelope for the New Year. I usually shoot her video, and when I play it back, I will shout "Let me see"; Occasionally, a friend sends a video and asks to see it when he hears the sound; Enthusiastic to change the chassis for me and install it again and again; Pretend to make a phone call with your mobile phone. "Hello, is this XXX?" .
However, when my daughter wants to hear a story, if I have a mobile phone in my hand, she will just grab it and throw it away, shouting "No mobile phone" and let me accompany her.
As a result, my mobile phone changed three times. I've used so many mobile phones that I haven't changed the screen. This phone is really hard.
As a communication tool to keep communication with others and society and generate links, it is impossible to abandon the mobile phone for fear of children playing. The users of tools are people, and reasonable control and reasonable use are king.
This is not to say how well I control it. I'm just starting from my personal reality, sharing some experiences and giving myself and others some experience and inspiration.
I found that my daughter returned my phone within two months. At that time, my husband and I were separated and often played videos or sent messages. When my daughter hears me talking on my cell phone, she doesn't eat well and always turns her head to look for light.
Taking pictures of my daughter and staring at my cell phone. I thought to myself, are we adults patting her with a mobile phone, and she is helpless but unable to express it? At that time, I naturally wanted to buy a camera that can take pictures without holding it, and I specially looked it up on the Internet and forgot why I didn't buy it.
Since then, it seems that nothing unusual has been found, and the whole family has agreed-not watching TV in front of the children, not playing mobile phones, and not even buying TV after the renovation of the new home.
I also gave up the habit of using the computer every day before giving birth to a baby. I haven't turned on my computer once a month, and occasionally I use iPad to take care of my children. However, the phone really can't be turned off. Online shopping, raising a baby, reading books and contacting the outside world are all done by mobile phones, usually in the middle of the night under the covers.
Mr. Wang usually uses electronic products when children can't see them. For example, computers must be used at home, and they are usually used in other rooms after children fall asleep.
In the use of mobile phones, I will tell my daughter that my mother needs to make a phone call now, and my mother needs to see if there is a courier (tell her whether there is a courier, and tell her that it is causal, because my mother saw the mobile phone and knew that the courier had arrived). Do we need to use mobile phones and XXX videos?
Generally speaking, tell children that mobile phones are tools, not toys. Frankly speaking, I am not interested in or even opposed to mobile games and computer games, so there is no relevant software on my mobile phone. The software she knows is WeChat and taking photos.
My husband and I have average eyesight. He is nearsighted and I am astigmatism, so he cares about the protection of his daughter's eyesight. I forgot where I read the article, saying that children should try not to turn on the lights after falling asleep at night, and turn on the small lights when they are turned on, which will greatly reduce the chances of myopia. Whether it's true or not, I don't sleep well, and I care about lighting and shading in my bedroom.
In addition, children's diet should also be paid attention to, such as blueberries and green leafy vegetables, which are good for eyesight and should be ingested appropriately. Also, there should be enough time for outdoor activities. Unless the weather is extremely bad, try to keep outdoor activities for an hour or two every day, try to avoid going out when the sun is strong and reduce the irritation to your eyes.
Having done this, I'm still not sure if my daughter will rob my mobile phone and how my eyesight will develop when I'm older. What I can do is to accompany her as high as possible and guide her to read more books and learn more from nature.
As for the problem that many parents are worried about-children are addicted to mobile phones and computer games, I am optimistic that even if my daughter is old enough to download software by herself, her eyesight will develop almost, and her understanding and self-control will be much better than now.