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Dany was scolded again.
Dany, who came back from giving birth, appeared in the program "Men Doing Housework 3".
She wears a long skirt, smiles and has a good figure.
As a result, all kinds of mean voices are constantly emerging in the barrage:
At the age of 39, she gave birth to a second child, which was really round to the naked eye.
But for a postpartum mother, this is really normal.
Faced with these malicious taunts, Dany responded with a set of photos in Weibo.
In the photo, she wore a tight-fitting long skirt and publicly displayed her bloated waist and abdomen.
She said:
Under this Weibo's comment, many people support Dani.
Because of this self-confidence, it has disappeared from the life of postpartum mothers for too long.
These female stars under the examination of perfect figure can't get rid of physical anxiety.
Many ordinary postpartum mothers are also deeply involved.
Every postpartum mother
I have been uneasy about the physical changes after childbirth.
Be pregnant in October and give birth once.
For a family, children mean a new life and joy.
For women, it is a watershed in life.
Separated, that is, before and after becoming a mother.
When I was a mother, I had a oval face, long legs, thin waist and beautiful skin.
When you become a mother, bucket waist, big thick legs, double chin and chloasma will follow.
The seemingly different changes are the true portrayal of many mothers.
A little change in the body is also constantly aggravating and amplifying the anxiety of mothers.
Even from the moment of pregnancy.
I have a colleague who has swollen hands and feet and spots all over her face during pregnancy.
During that time, she became extremely inferior, afraid to take pictures or even look in the mirror.
People around her advised her to say, "Just unload the goods."
Will it really be better after giving birth?
Of course not.
A mother in Zhihu said that when she looked in the mirror after leaving the hospital, she found herself uglier than when she was pregnant.
Looking at the flabby belly, the stretch marks are dark and thick, and the navel is getting bigger and darker. ...
She couldn't help but stand in front of the mirror and cry for a moment.
It's not that people around her don't like her, but that they can't accept this great change for a while.
Especially everything around you reminds you that your figure has gone out of shape.
What you can see is fat, loose and dull skin.
Invisible are various sequelae such as urinary leakage, uterine prolapse, chest prolapse and hair loss.
The traces left by these bodies are always destroying the confidence of postpartum mothers.
It is a minority to be born thin.
Getting back in shape is a long process.
How long will it take to get back into shape after giving birth?
This is the most concerned issue for many postpartum mothers after giving birth to their children.
This kind of pressure comes from oneself, and also from all kinds of exaggerated propaganda about postpartum figure around you.
Postpartum repair advertisement says:
Various notices say:
When these propaganda is overwhelming, the concept conveyed to everyone is:
Postpartum can quickly become thin and beautiful.
When everyone thinks so, the time left for postpartum mothers to lose weight will only get shorter and shorter.
Some time ago, a reader left a message in the background saying.
Three months after she gave birth, her husband said to her:
That sentence of 200 Jin also destroyed her last confidence.
What did they see:
Whether a female star gives birth to a baby or a slim girl, ordinary women have become bloated aunts.
What they can't see is:
It is a female star who serves as a nanny, a new moon, a baby nurse, a nutritionist and a fitness coach.
They certainly can't see:
Ordinary mothers give birth, nurse, burp, put to sleep and do housework ... 24 hours a day, they don't get enough sleep.
They only know:
You can't get back in shape quickly because you don't work hard enough.
So, under this kind of anxiety, some people go to gird their waists and some people go to liposuction.
Not long ago, I saw an operation called "Abdominal Plastic Surgery" in Weibo.
This operation is mainly aimed at postpartum mothers, which can achieve the effect of rapid abdomen.
During the operation, not only the excess skin should be removed, but also the excess fat should be sucked off. The surgical wound is bigger than cesarean section.
The risk of surgery is also high, fat may be necrotic, and the skin may relax repeatedly.
Paying such a big price is just to lose weight faster.
The fact is:
Only a few people recover quickly after delivery, and most people have to go through a long recovery period.
The big S once advised the small S not to "harm others and not benefit themselves" in the program:
Pregnancy weight will increase, the stomach will not shrink back soon after giving birth, and stretch marks will not necessarily disappear.
It takes a year or even years to recover the accumulated fat, open pelvis and open stomach.
Even if you get back in shape, you can't get back to your pre-pregnancy level.
This is the truth of fertility.
Every woman has experienced a narrow escape in order to have a baby.
Compared with physical examination, the harm caused by childbirth to women's health should be paid more attention to and seen.
Accept physical changes.
Be a confident mother
I believe that every woman gives birth to a child with the greatest love.
However, anxiety and inferiority caused by unexpected physical changes also exist.
I am also sad because I gained weight during pregnancy, and I feel dejected when I touch my flabby stomach.
For half a year, I didn't go shopping, didn't try on new clothes, and didn't have the heart to dress up.
The whole person becomes particularly depressed.
Later, a girlfriend woke me up.
She is the person with the least physical anxiety I have ever seen, and she lives confidently and truly.
After giving birth to the baby, she developed nephrotic syndrome.
Later, I could only keep taking hormone drugs, and finally gained more than 20 kilograms.
So far, her weight has not recovered.
But she is never ashamed to show her real body because of other people's "perfect" figure.
She still loves to take photos in her circle of friends, and even if she is bloated, she smiles brightly and confidently.
I once asked her if she regretted having children when she saw her figure become like this.
She smiled and said to me:
When I heard this sentence, I was instantly relieved.
My negativity and anxiety are actually imposed by myself.
Too concerned about other people's opinions, I feel that I am not good enough, not thin enough, and my recovery is too slow.
The more you think like this, the more negative you are, and the more you feel inferior.
It's true that having a baby will make your stomach loose, your body collapse, and stretch marks are always there.
But these are not traces of a new life.
This also proves that we are closely connected with our children.
For children, we are willing to sacrifice, and children also give us healing and joy.
That's enough.
We may not be able to avoid getting fat after giving birth, but we can choose what attitude to face.
Even if the skin is slack, we can be an active mother.
Even if the baby is no longer beautiful, we can be a confident mother.
Some time ago, on foreign social media, many celebrity mothers exposed their postpartum photos.
It's not an S-shaped figure that bends forward and turns back, but a bulging belly and a loose belly.
Figure/From "Those Things in Britain"
In the face of physical deformation, they are not troubled, only confident.
Even if the stomach can't get back before pregnancy, every body that breeds new life is valuable.
They show their bodies and tell all postpartum mothers:
No matter what happens after delivery, it is normal.
Those hoarded fats are not grown in a day, nor can they be reduced in a day.
Ignore external sounds and follow the recovery rhythm of your body.
Don't embarrass yourself, take your time.
Click "Like" and hope that all mothers can be confident in themselves, accept and actively face physical changes; I also hope that the ridicule of the pregnant mother's figure will never appear again.