■ Typical case:
Xiao Qiang, a freshman in senior one, has been fighting with his classmates for many times since he entered school less than two months last year, but the reason is often a few speculative words or unintentional collisions between classmates.
After each fight, the teacher talked to him, and he expressed great regret and wanted to completely correct it. But in a day or two, there will be a new battle. In addition, he didn't hand in his homework many times, either because he didn't have enough time or because he forgot to bring his exercise book, so he didn't finish it. During recess or self-study class, he often sits alone in a daze, thoughtful; Sometimes I clench my fist to show the pain of "heroes are useless" ...
■ Problem analysis:
In fact, Xiao Qiang's abnormal performance stems from his "inadaptability" to the new environment. Maladjustment is a common maladjustment among freshmen, especially freshmen. From primary school to middle school, a considerable number of children are not fully prepared for the life and study that suddenly become tense. They have no spiritual support or even lost confidence for a period of time, resulting in negative emotions of self-doubt and becoming depressed. Some people find it difficult to control themselves, so they take all kinds of extreme measures to vent.
■ Preventive solutions:
First of all, in the new school, we should take part in more group activities and make more good friends. On the one hand, participating in group activities can help other students know and accept themselves quickly, on the other hand, they can make new friends and let them help and remind themselves often. In the long run, they will easily adapt to junior high school life. Secondly, we should bravely face new changes and problems and actively adapt to the new environment. If you can't solve it yourself, you can ask your parents or teachers for help and let them tell you what needs to be improved. Third, always give yourself positive hints, and you can say positive words to yourself from time to time every day, such as "I am very happy", "I am very happy" and "I have made progress again". Keeping a happy attitude can not only reduce your "inadaptability" to the new environment, but also have a positive impact on your study and life.
Psychological problems of middle school students: disagreement with teachers
■ Typical case:
Zhang Hua, a junior one student, is straightforward and sometimes seems a bit unruly.
In the first grade, he often couldn't control himself in class. Sometimes he makes a scene when he disagrees with the teacher, and even pesters the teacher, sometimes leading to a class debate for half a day. According to Zhang Hua, teachers can't accept opinions. Finally, all the teachers are unwilling to take this class, because everyone thinks that Zhang Hua is really a hedgehog head that is difficult to shave. The class teacher raised this question to his parents many times during his home visit. Zhang Hua's parents are also very sad. They don't know how to deal with the child's behavior. Criticize him. He said he was right. Don't criticize him. At this rate, no teacher will teach him sooner or later.
■ Problem analysis:
Teacher-student relationship is a very important relationship between children. Children in primary schools are often full of awe and admiration for their teachers. After middle school, many children think they have grown up. They gradually learn to think independently and find solutions to problems independently, instead of blindly obeying teachers like primary school students. There are also some children who are more and more critical of their teachers, and even dislike them because of a little misunderstanding with them, and they have conflicts with them.
■ Solution:
For how to deal with the relationship between teachers and students, parents can enlighten their children from the following aspects: First, children should treat teachers objectively and comprehensively. Teachers are also independent individuals, with their own strengths and weaknesses. Because of their emotions and abilities, they also make all kinds of mistakes. Therefore, as students, we should evaluate teachers objectively and comprehensively, and don't make teachers perfect;
Secondly, parents should not impulsively interfere in the relationship between children and teachers. There are contradictions between children and teachers. At first, they may just complain, but they don't really want to be against the teacher. If we easily compare the truth and distinguish between teachers and children, it may make children feel that they have found an alliance, and they will simply be bold and less and less cooperative with teachers. Therefore, after parents ask their children what happened, let them think about whether they are also responsible, and don't let them feel that the teacher is just deliberately embarrassing themselves; Third, we should educate children to respect teachers and pay attention to polite communication. Parents can tell their children that if the teacher really has any mistakes, they can convey them to the teacher through an anonymous note after class. Don't stand up and argue in class, which is impolite and wastes everyone's time.
The third ranking of middle school students' psychological problems suddenly fell.
■ Typical case:
Xiao Wu, a student, has been a monitor in junior high school and his academic performance is excellent. Every exam is the best in his class. His parents had high expectations of him, and he was lucky to be admitted to a famous high school.
However, in the first exam after entering high school, Xiao Wu was hit hard, and his ranking in the class was actually at the lower-middle level! Since then, he has been unhappy, feeling that he is no match for others and his interest in learning is not as good as before. Parents are extremely nervous and frequently ask, what's wrong with my child? What's the problem?
■ Problem analysis:
There are three stages in the changes of freshmen after entering school. The first stage is called the exciting stage. At the beginning of school, students come from different schools and have a process of understanding. At this time, students are full of curiosity about everything. However, when the problem comes to the second stage, the school calls it the downturn stage. Because after studying for a month, I will have an exam. Students find the questions in front of them very difficult, and their test scores far exceed their expected bottom line. Students from some good schools, in particular, are the best in all schools. I didn't expect to fall behind many people in the first exam in high school, which is psychologically unacceptable. The third stage is that students will face the mid-term exam. At this stage, parents and students will also bear a kind of psychological pressure. It is very important for parents and students to correctly view the ranking of the first and second exams.
■ Solution:
After entering high school, the teaching method is very different from that of junior high school. In addition, there are many courses and deep learning contents, and some students have not adapted yet. They feel stressed, feel inferior and think they can't do it. Actually, it's not necessary What is most needed at this time is to learn self-motivation. First of all, motivate yourself with your past experience and achievements, and believe that what others can do can be done by yourself. At this time, it is important for parents to have a peaceful mind. Parents should guide their children to straighten their position and get out of the "halo" of junior high school. According to children's ability, strength and learning requirements, help children set goals that can be achieved through hard work; Second, give full play to your strengths. I have strong points in a certain field or a certain subject, so I should actively show them in front of my teachers and classmates, so that I can be affirmed and encouraged by my teachers and classmates, enhance my self-confidence and make up my mind to learn my weak points well. Third, set an example for yourself. Taking the classmate who is slightly better than you as the goal, secretly competing with him, learning from him, and catching up step by step can also enhance your confidence and progress. The high school curriculum is a bit difficult for children who have just come out of junior high school. As long as the children make progress, parents should encourage and praise them. Fourth, constantly sum up yourself. Know your own strengths and weaknesses, so as to define the goal of your future efforts, so that you will certainly make progress, even by leaps and bounds.
Psychological problems of middle school students: how to learn more and more subjects?
■ Typical case:
Lily, a senior one girl, has excellent Chinese performance. When she was in junior high school, the newspaper often published some small articles. After entering high school, her composition is often read aloud in class as a model essay by the teacher, and her classmates call her a "little writer". Lily is very happy.
However, a year later, almost as "famous" as her composition is her math score, which has been at the bottom of the whole grade. Poor math has also brought troubles to physics. After each exam, her Chinese score is almost the highest in the whole grade, but her math and physics scores are very poor, and her total score falls behind, which makes her very sad. The more serious problem is that when Lily mentions going to school, she wants to go to Chinese, science and even "run away".
■ Problem analysis:
Lily's problem is that there is a serious phenomenon of "partiality" Children's learning deviation is mainly caused by the following reasons:
1, different likes and dislikes of the topic. If you like a subject, students will study hard. On the contrary, if you are not interested in a subject, your initiative and enthusiasm will be greatly reduced;
2. The influence of teachers. If the teacher of a certain subject treats the child too rudely and simply, the child will feel disgusted with the teacher, and then transfer this emotion to the subject taught by the teacher, who hates the subject and is unwilling to learn;
3. The influence of wrong ideas. Some children are influenced by some misconceptions, such as "learning mathematics and physics well, and traveling all over the world is not afraid", while ignoring some subjects.