A video blogger received a question from a fan and asked his wife to take care of the baby at home full-time, with no income. Don't you hate her?
The question itself is a very asshole logic. If a man asks this question, he is an asshole. If a woman asks, it is estimated that she is currently facing a situation of being rejected by her asshole husband.
Then the blogger gave a very correct answer, which roughly means: the wife's hands have become rough because of housework, and she often holds the children, and her back begins to be a little hunched. His wife has done a lot for this family. Can't double standards, can't ask the wife to bring the children to make money; Conversely, you are not required to make money or take care of children.
The picture comes from a video screenshot, which is deleted.
The picture comes from a video screenshot, which is deleted.
This answer attracted nearly 50,000 comments and 65,438+10,000+likes, and it felt like it touched the hearts of most mothers who took their babies to work full-time. However, there are different voices. Some people question that it is impossible to understand the husband of the other half in reality. This is estimated that the blogger is performing for the sake of rising powder.
These voices reflect the reality that a family division of labor should be normal, because most men's abnormal and irresponsible behavior makes normal behavior abnormal.
Sounds a little circuitous. When entering the marriage relationship, the family division of labor should have been clear, but it was seriously damaged. As mentioned in the previous article, the essence of marriage is like two people running a company in partnership. Before starting a company, we should talk about the division of labor, such as who is responsible for making money abroad and who is responsible for the family, including housework and taking care of children. If you can't reach an agreement, it is that you haven't figured out the nature of marriage and family. It is better to talk about love, and don't rush into marriage as soon as you close your eyes, and then wait for the problem to come out. One blames the other party for not making money, just taking a child at home; One blames the other party for not making much money, and also dislikes his wife taking care of the baby full-time without making money.
Your wife takes care of the baby full-time and has no income. Don't you hate her? Behind this problem is a complete neglect of the value paid by the other half. As a result, women can only overdraw themselves now, taking care of their children while working; Or use both parents to help with the baby. This result may lead to problems in children's education.
The reality is, why only women are required to grasp with both hands, but no one questions men? Why can't they work and take care of the children?
First, I wanted to donate money to my former school, but I was scolded by the headmaster for "getting out"
There is a news circulating on the Internet these two days. A headmaster became a full-time wife because of a former student. When she went back to school and wanted to donate money, the headmaster kicked her out. In the interview, the headmaster said: it's so difficult at home. We have provided you up to now, but now you are a full-time wife. How many men are looking for mistresses outside? Because you haven't spoken the same language with him for a long time, you have been eliminated by society, and you can't help his career, so you are controlled at the original level ... so women rely on ability, and men don't trust them.
You see, the reality is that no one will believe that a man will not dislike his wife who lives at home full-time and has no income.
Full-time wife, is it really worthless?
Numerous articles and videos have responded. The value saved by a stay-at-home wife is very high. As a mother, she works 7*24 hours, as a nurse, nanny, part-time, and cook. These occupations are at least 5,000 yuan per month in the market, and the total value of a mother far exceeds the monthly salary of 20,000. However, no one sees this, only that a woman is idle at home and playing around with her baby.
In the variety show "Men Doing Housework", Huang Chulin only took the baby for one day, and he deeply realized that taking care of the baby is really much more difficult than working, and it is too hard. Those men who say it's easy to take care of the baby, without participation, it's easy to stand and talk like it's easy?
Fu Seoul said in Qipa that a child may not know nothing, but he can make you know nothing.
Children can sleep whenever they want, regardless of day and night. When they woke up, they were full of energy and could do nothing. A wrong eye is either dropped or scalded, or frozen. No one will think that you take care of your baby very hard. When you come back, you will scold: You are an adult and have nothing to do. You can't look after a child well.
This sentence can be regarded as a shoulder in the speech art of "causing depression", which makes people unable to refute the accuracy of the mind. Because many stay-at-home mothers always feel that they have no job, have no confidence to refute, and can only bite their teeth and swallow their blood.
At present, this society is educating women to be independent and awake. However, women have grown up, and the past is different from the present. They are either unmarried and infertile or working with their children.
But what about men? No one woke them up. Most of them are still like giant babies who haven't grown up, obviously relying on the comfortable family life created by women, but only staring at women without getting back the real money and belittling women. My wife gave birth to a child, lost her figure, disliked that she was not beautiful enough, and then began to be a lively demon. She is either lying in the nest or cheating, and there are many "magic mountains". If she does something wrong, she should hide behind her and ask her to help clean up the mess.
Behind more and more women's fear of marriage and education is that women are awakening; It is also because of the cruelty of this society and the imperfection of various supporting facilities; What's more, men are immature and deny women's contribution in the family.
Second, * * * and awakening.
Both men and women should have a sense of marriage. When deciding to form a family, we should consider whether there is family planning. If so, how many children will be born, who will take care of them, educate them and so on. Love can be decided by patting the head together, but marriage can't. Marriage is not only responsible for the other half, but also for the future and the next generation. Therefore, starting a family must have economic considerations and ideological responsibility.
Economic considerations: having a stable residence and sufficient economy, and being able to bear a series of expenses brought about by the birth, education, training and companionship of future children.
Ideological responsibility: how to divide the work at home, who makes money outside and who supports the family inside.
Home is husband and wife and needs to be maintained together. We are all adults. Don't always do something on impulse, and then use regret as the material for the rest of your life, slowly boil it, dry yourself and ruin the next generation.
Many people think that women want to find a rich man, that is, to worship money. This is just the sour words of those who are incapable and unwilling to make progress, in order to belittle women and seek existence. There are a few men, just like the people who wrote operas in A Dream of Red Mansions: Jia Mu said with a smile, "There is a reason: some people who compile such books are jealous of their own money, and some don't want what they want, so they make them up and pollute others. Wait a minute, he read these books by himself and became fascinated. He also wants a beautiful woman, so he makes them up for fun. Does he know the truth about that official school? Don't say that the official book in his book is a gift for everyone. Now, really, there is no such thing in our middle-class families, not to mention those big families. If you know you've lost your chin. So we are never allowed to say these books, and girls don't understand these words. I am old these years, and their sisters live far away. Occasionally bored. I will listen to them when they come and have a rest. "
Isn't it vanity to compare yourself with a poor talented person and want to meet a rich girl and get promoted and made a fortune?
Third, don't be a fake "celebrity", but be a real "Cinderella" to find Prince Charming.
Fake "celebrities" are like Cinderella's crystal shoes. They will return to their original shape at midnight on 12. But Cinderella is a real celebrity. She fell into the hands of her stepmother. Her father is an earl. Otherwise, how could she have a chance to dance with the prince in the palace?
Therefore, those fake "celebrities" who package themselves can enjoy that kind of happiness, but if they are looking for a lover, they seem to be going the wrong way. Real rich people are not fools. They have seen the world. Can they be fooled by your fake photos?
Just like in the movie Marry a Rich Man, a woman who wants to marry a rich man only meets a poor boy who wants to marry a rich woman. It's just that the reality is not a movie, and in the end, they can make a windfall, and they really live a rich life.
Marriage, pay attention to the right match. This is not only money, but also the strength of two families, the educational level and ability of two people, and more importantly, spiritual wealth: that is, the three views are correct. Just like the sentence at the beginning of the video blogger, only if you are full of spirit, confident in your bones and don't feel inferior can you have a correct outlook on life, see the value of others and understand the responsibilities of your family.
If your foundation is still poor at present, you should calm down and improve yourself, so that you can meet excellent people. Don't get married just because you are old or urged to get married. Marrying the wrong person may really ruin your life, for example, a pregnant woman in Thailand was pushed down the mountain by her husband; The lady whose husband chopped the body in the sewer in Hangzhou; Poor girl Ram, burned to death by her ex-husband's gasoline ... one shocking case after another makes people shudder.
Li Ai said: The most important decision in a woman's life is not to find a husband for herself, but to find a father for her baby.
This statement is right or wrong.
Yes, because she is sober, looking for a husband should find someone with certain strength and responsibility.
No, it's because human nature is a hard thing to ponder. Without the real scene of giving birth, it is difficult to find out whether the person you are looking for is a person or a ghost. The most important thing is whether this man's spiritual world is rich, whether he is really mature and whether he knows his responsibilities.
How to judge whether a person's spiritual world is rich? First, get along and fall in love for at least 1 year. Second, there are many scenes, such as traveling together for a long time, seeing the way the other person treats people, the ability to handle things, personality and temper. Third, see how the other person gets along with his family and his attitude towards you when he is with his family. Fourth, discuss some social events and get to know each other's positions and opinions, whether paranoid or not. Fifth, whether there is empathy in treating young people. 6. Do you have the same topic? Can we talk together?
There is no fixed formula for getting along with people. Pay more attention to whether the shoes are comfortable or not, and your feet must know.
In short, the awakening of women is a good thing. At least this generation of women should educate the next generation of men, take on more responsibilities and protect women. The family belongs to two people and needs the same efforts. Don't deny the value of being a full-time mother, and make the next generation of men more sober. Don't repeat the mistake of "the daughter-in-law has been a woman for many years and continues to bully the next daughter-in-law".