That's how women should live after 40.
Wen | Quiet
Unconsciously, I also reached middle age, experienced a little pain and vicissitudes, and finally survived the chaos of life, and finally I can calmly examine the life of this era with the mentality of my peers.
Either sink or be amazing.
Because, at the age of 40, I walked out of my parents' concealment and out of the simplicity and quietness that everyone guarded. I have undertaken the heavy responsibility of society and family, and my early years have also borne fruit in the years, and my life has grown into my own appearance.
Life at this age can't be whitewashed, it's too real to avoid.
Because, at the age of 40, the growth and accumulation we should have determines our mind, and the index of mental maturity determines the quality of our life.
Zhou said: True maturity should have the ability to grow, so it always contains childlike innocence in essence. A person is mentally mature enough to face up to and bear the hardships of life, but his heart is still simple and he still has a childlike innocence to the world. He is a clever man.
Therefore, a 40-year-old amazing woman has tenacious growth and pure childlike innocence. A 40-year-old woman shows her depravity, has a drooping life like wrinkles, and only has a muddy and tired heart.
My best friend Liu Xin got married at the age of 2 1 and gave birth to a daughter at the age of 22. My husband works outside all the year round. He goes shopping, goes to the theatre and plays mahjong in Liu Xin. I have been lazy for many years.
Recently, Liu Xin said that forty is really difficult.
My husband works as a coolie on the construction site. The older you get, the less you earn, and there are injuries. Thinking about doing something else, I have no capital and experience, and I can't afford to take risks. I have done nothing for so many years. Worked as a waiter in a supermarket for more than one month 1000. People are still too old.
Children follow their grandparents since childhood. At that time, when I was young, I felt that children were a burden and wanted to find some freedom for myself all day.
In a blink of an eye, children grow up, have ideas and opinions, and have closeness and distance. Say ten thousand words to the child without saying a word, and then don't say a word. No matter how close you are to your child, she won't kiss you or get close. If you don't listen to what you say, you can't control it, so you have to let nature take its course.
Parents are getting old, their health is getting worse and worse, and there is too little they can do.
Forty years old, old and young, struggling.
It's not surprising that the harder it is to cross.
I gave up my self-growth early when I was a child, thinking that comfort is happiness. Age and ability are inversely proportional, so they can only be low-level manual workers and have no competitive advantage.
I didn't accompany my children carefully when I was young, thinking that everyone is the same. The child grew up and airborne as a commander. The harder you work, the more you will fail. The more you fail, the more you panic.
Spring sowing in Xia Geng, I didn't try my best. The autumn harvest is coming, and I can't face the desolation. what can I do?
At the age of forty, I discovered that I didn't take good care of my children, didn't repay my parents, and raised myself badly.
How can such a tired and anxious life not sink?
My other friend Joan is the ugliest, poorest and hardest-working among us. I went out of the countryside to Beijing and have been studying for a doctorate. He is forty years old and his child is just nine years old.
That day, I saw her send a picture, sitting on the side of the road with her children to learn a foreign language, drawing the spring of recovery with a ballpoint pen. Simple lines glow with the most natural vitality.
I believe that a mother who sits outside and paints, a mother who locks her parents' right and wrong, will definitely bring a different starting point to her children. The children of the latter may also be excellent, but how much suffering does ta have to endure to erase the misdeeds brought by her family?
Joan has lived a well-off life in Beijing for a long time, but she can still see that she stayed up late into the morning for a copywriter and worked hard to win a client. I can still see her sitting in the waiting room with a book and watching quietly when she was on a business trip.
I asked her why she worked so hard.
She said,
Because the real effort is to give children the best education.
Because the best love is growing up together.
Because, life needs to grow up, and I hope others will respect their abilities, not accommodate their age.
Life is a bank. You may have some savings in your early years, but when your successors are weak, life will be ferocious.
Lu Xiaoman, born in a noble family, is brilliant, rich and has a beautiful crown. However, she is in a foreign country, romantic, spendthrift and unscrupulous.
At the age of 28, she lived in the worst conditions.
In order to provide Lu Xiaoman with a luxurious life, Xu Zhimo was exhausted and died young. She smoked opium and even had yellow stains on her teeth. Lazy lying on the sofa, exhausted talent, can't even do self-reliance.
In the second half of her life, she destroyed all her capital. No money, no lover, no beauty, no talent, no achievement ... before I was forty, I lost all my savings.
Let's look at another woman. She used to do odd jobs and part-time jobs, washing bills in a guest house, and was made difficult by others. Once I hosted a program, the ratings were in a mess, and I sat on the bench. Once, I wandered alone in Beijing and worked hard all night.
However, no matter in good times or bad times, she is trying to grow up, gritting her teeth and walking a long way.
She is Dong Qing, a woman who is getting more and more amazing with her age.
In this world, there are countless young and beautiful women than Dong Qing. However, only she has built herself into a peerless treasure in more than forty years of practice.
Dong Qing, who can stand loneliness, can also stand big red and purple. Atmospheric, steady, atmospheric, sincere, calm, true temperament is accompanied by a touch of smoothness, sonority and beauty. ...
No matter rich or poor, beautiful or ugly, there will be 40-year-olds running and crying without 20-year-olds. Without a 30-year-old poor man, there will be a 40-year-old poor man.
Don't be lazy if you want to be amazing. The face is easy to grow old, and we can only cultivate the soul. Only an elegant soul can support the vicissitudes of life in wrinkles.
I am almost 40 years old and have a deeper understanding of the meaning of growth.
Because, I think, to give children a quality life, this quality is not only material abundance, but also spiritual enrichment. Be a child's spiritual mentor, not a useless middle-aged woman.
Because, I think, to give the elderly a happy old age, I am gratified by my growth and happy for my happiness. I can laugh when you are old.
Because, I think, let my husband love me more. Although I am old, my heart is better, and I can still make him as obsessed as when he was young.
40 years old, unwilling to sink, stunning bloom.