Teacher, I have put down my face and begged him. I said all the good things and bad things. Why didn't he go in?

That woman is a bitch! How could he lose his mind!

Teacher, please pretend to be my relative and talk to him.

In the clinic, the deceived woman was heartbroken.

Is this family really hopeless?

When I say "there is still salvation", many people will question me again:

"I know him! He can never turn back! "

"Of course you have to say so, otherwise who will believe you?"

I am really sad: because for them, despair is better than hope.

If you are desperate, don't bother. If you don't toss, you won't be frustrated and you won't get hurt again.

But if I tell you that there is really a way to repair the broken marriage and return to the beauty of love, are you willing to take a brave step to understand and learn?

Today, Hsinchu will share with you a successful rehabilitation case, so that you can see how our emotional counselors can help them in emotional difficulties, fight back against the mistress and regain happiness! (In order to protect privacy, student information has been "hidden" and released with the authorization of students. Because the screenshot of WeChat chat is not authorized by the students, there is no screenshot of chat in this article)

Unexpectedly, the husband who has been deeply in love with Yang Chen (a pseudonym) cheated.

When the morning sun was puzzled, her husband clearly told her: "From the birth of the child, you spent all your thoughts on the child, and no one even listened to me. As if I didn't exist at home. "

Yang Chen has seen pictures of her husband and mistress. She is a woman whose appearance and figure are not as good as her own, wearing rustic lace and pretending. It is said that she is divorced and has children.

Yang Chen shook his head eagerly to see if there was any water. Please, even if you look outside, you must find a good one. Losing to a mistress who is not as good as me, where should I put my face?

She was extremely unwilling, and when the child was still young, she made up her mind to save her husband.

Yang Chen found many so-called "emotional skills" on the Internet and applied them to her husband.

Her efforts did not change her husband's mind, but she became more and more resistant to her.

Finally, one day, my husband said, "Don't bother. I'm tired, really tired. " .

He packed some clothes and moved out of the house they bought together.

When Yang Chen found the help of our hearts, her eyes were black and her mouth was blistered. She's hopeless. She repeatedly told us, "I'll try one last time, or I'll give up completely."

According to her situation, the assistant arranged a special emotional counselor to clear the heart for Chenyang.

In the gloomy mood in the morning, the counselor began to communicate with her.

Step 1: Recall and comb.

Under the guidance of teacher Qing Xin, Yang Chen recalled their first time together.

My husband is a member of the school basketball team, and Yang Chen is attracted by his abundant energy. Just together, she looked at his eyes are glowing. ...

Teacher Qing Xin asked, "When you first got together, when you were most relaxed and sweet, what was your interaction and mood?" ? What is the future picture of fantasy together? "

Yang Chen wanted to think, burst into tears.

At that time, although their lives were poor, they were full of hope, thinking about making money, buying a house and having children. The three of them lived in harmony in the United States. ...

Yang Chen cried and said, "Why did it become like this ..."

/origin/PGC-image/ab 9 a 98 EC 839 C4 dccb 645d 44 e 0 1 c 7 aad 3？ from = PC " style = " height:auto； "> Teacher Qingxin soothed her gently, and when her mood was stable, she asked her," Think again, what misunderstandings or contradictions did you have after that, which led you to go further and further? "

Chenyang put away her tears and told the teacher that in order to live the life they wanted, they focused on their careers. Every day when they come home from work, they are very tired and stressed. Everyone feels wronged, thinking about each other taking care of themselves, and quarreling more and more.

Later, when the baby was born, she was tired of quarreling and thought it was time to stop. I didn't expect him to find a divorced green tea bitch in an instant.

Visiting the teacher told her that her emotional foundation is still deep, but the "emotional container" is too small to accommodate and digest her emotions, let alone love each other.

If you can't give a man the understanding, recognition and worship he needs, he will naturally look out and a third party will take advantage of it.

Step 2: Calm and buffer.

After the analysis of teacher Qing Xin, Yang Chen's husband is currently in a period of "crazy brain use". At this time, don't throw a moth into the fire.

Teacher Qing Xin told her that if there is no way to create interaction, she can't "sell" unilaterally.

In the early stage of recovery, we should first give ourselves and each other a cool buffer period. Because of his hostile and distant attitude, he refused to communicate.

This shows that he has regarded you as a threat and pricked himself up.

If you choose to attack at this time, it will only arouse a stronger defensive instinct.

You should give yourself some time to observe each other's real needs, so as to prescribe the right medicine, activate it accurately and improve the success rate of recovery.

At the same time, it also makes her husband calm down from the excessive dopamine secretion in the "brain madness period".

After reading some salvaged articles, many people regard such methods as "calm down" and "breaking off diplomatic relations" as life-saving straws. As we all know, one method cannot be applied to all situations. In some cases, "cold treatment" will make the relationship between your worse! Please don't imitate blindly! You can ask a professional consultant to tell you the most suitable operation method at present!

Chenyang finally understood that 100 conversations with poor quality were not as good as 1 communication with heart. Pursuing "quality" is far more cost-effective than pursuing "quantity".

Step 3: Reshape the role

Starting from scratch is not simply going the same way again, but actively creating different relationship models.

In recent years, Chenyang has been playing the role of an employee, a wife and a mother, only forgetting that she is a woman, so she was used by a third party full of feminine characteristics.

Call on the teacher to tell her:

If you want to kill the third party completely, instead of killing the third party, and thousands of third parties stand up again, then what you have to do is not to compete with the third party, but to become a woman.

How to be a woman?

Take off your personality mask.

Teacher Qingxin and Chenyang shared her personal WeChat circle of friends. As a result, she couldn't stop when she saw it.

Chenyang was shocked: How can a 45-year-old woman live so wantonly? What she said, what she wore, what she ate, and where she played. ...

Chenyang said: I have lived in vain these years.

Teacher Qing Xin told her: In fact, you can be such a lively person.

After in-depth consultation and communication, Chenyang finally opened his heart.

It turns out that Yang Chen had a strict family education since childhood, and her mother kept a close eye on her femininity.

One day in the fifth grade of elementary school, Chenyang secretly wiped her lips with her mother's lipstick. Unexpectedly, her mother slapped her in the face and called her "shameless!"

From then on, she gradually lost her femininity, didn't wear a skirt, spoke and did things resolutely, devoted all her energy to her work and children, and forgot that she was a woman with desire. ...

Until many years later, a "weak, poor and helpless" "green tea bitch" broke in and broke her dream. ...

Chenyang said with a lingering fear: Fortunately, I met my heart's help and my teacher in quiet inside. Otherwise, my life will be over if I live like this.

Under the guidance of teacher Qing Xin, Chenyang opened his body and mind, and had an in-depth dialogue with his body. With the help of his heart, he didn't go on a diet or sweat. In less than a month, he lost five pounds and his waist was thin.

In the morning, the stiff shoulders of the sun were relaxed, the trapezius muscles were no longer stiff, and the round shoulder hunchback was improved. The once stiff posture gradually unfolded, the elegant swan neck came out, the drooping corners of the mouth were raised, and the whole body was full of vitality.

When learning the coquetry of charming women, Chenyang went very smoothly. She said: I always feel sick. It turns out that I can't spoil, but I don't allow myself to spoil.

Now I can finally embrace my soft side. It feels so cool!

She fell in love with colors that she used to think were too ostentatious. She put on a dress with a waist that she never looked at, and replaced her long-worn sneakers with low-heeled sheepskin shoes that take into account elegance, propriety and comfort. She went dancing and did a lot of work and things outside the family. ...

Yang Chen said: Look in the mirror every day, and the woman in the mirror will change. I watched a woman flower slowly gestate, sprout and finally bloom.

Teacher Qing Xin told her: Dear, you will succeed soon.

Step 4: Invite classmates to get together.

Teacher Qing Xin asked Chenyang to write a sentence and send it to a circle of friends with a photo. On the same day, she received her husband's praise and message.

During the chat, once, the conversation became stiff, and Yang Chen was in no hurry, because through the "emotional container expansion training", she could read the deep emotions that her husband could not express from the superficial language of complaining and anger.

* * * After falling in love with her husband, her husband's anger was suddenly doused, just like a fierce beast with a fried hair, and a basin of water poured down, but she was actually a shivering poor creature.

After deep understanding, her husband's tone changed obviously. The more they talked, the more enthusiastic they became. In the middle of the night, both sides were reluctant to turn off WeChat to sleep. My husband thinks: I never seem to know you.

Chenyang is also very sorry that they have never had such high-quality communication in these years of marriage.

We had a good chat and naturally made an appointment to meet.

On this date, teacher Qingxin helped her design the plan very early, and made further details adjustment according to their current situation.

Originally, there was a contingency plan for dating, but Yang Chen said, Teacher, I don't think I need a gradual dating plan. I learned to enjoy the present and become a woman who really loves myself.

Sure enough, not long after this date, my husband suddenly appeared at home, with gifts for Chenyang and her children, and blacked out all the contact information of the third party in front of her, begging Chenyang to forgive him.

Chenyang cried, and so did her husband. They cried for a long time and talked all night.

Chen Yang said that two people are fragile and relative, so it turned out to be so intimate and beautiful.

They live a family of three wholeheartedly. Sometimes, they send their children to grandma's house and the couple live alone.

Children often vomit: You show love and abuse single dog.

Although the care for children is less than before, the family atmosphere has undergone a qualitative change. Children have become lively, cheerful and confident, and even their academic performance has improved. Relatives and friends have asked, what cram school did they sign up for?

At this time, Chenyang will say half jokingly and half seriously: love cram school!

Seeing the man return to his family, all his plans failed, and the third party refused to give up and blocked her door to make trouble.

Chenyang is worried that her husband will be soft-hearted. As a result, her husband ignored San Xiao's cry and called the police directly.

Great, the third party knows it's awesome, and never shows up again.

Chenyang said that in the days of saving my husband, teacher Qing Xin was my guiding light and safety rope in the fog, helping me to grasp the direction and appease my anxiety.

Now, I finally found out that I thought the road was foggy, but in fact, as long as I open my eyes, I can see the road ahead.

This scheme is only suitable for personal customization, not all cases. Please don't blindly follow the trend.

We are a group of people who study the mind, so we know how painful it will be to be sad, so even if the whole world won't be gentle with you, we will. If you are suffering from emotional difficulties now, please add WeChat for immediate consultation, and we will help you heal your wounds, solve problems, make your love get what you want, and make your marriage and love wider and wider.