In the family, the two people who are most likely to make women feel wronged and often have contradictions are undoubtedly "mother-in-law". It is never possible to say who is right or wrong between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If anything, it can only be that both of them are wrong. According to common sense, the reason for the frequent conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is: "One person takes his son as a backer, and one person takes her husband as a backer." The man caught in the middle is at a loss, and the two don't help each other, which makes the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more acute.
People say that the play of "The Life of Three Women" depends on whether the performance of the woman is wonderful or not, but in real life, there are few examples of going their own way, especially in the family, when three women compete on the same stage, one woman will unite with another woman with the highest status to oppress the last woman.
Originally, the dispute between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was very laborious. If they face it alone, they will certainly fail, be treated unfairly and suffer injustice. In their view, this is the exclusive right of the winner, but in Lin Jun's view, this is a sign before the volcanic eruption. Once they can't stand it, the final outcome will make everyone tremble with fear.
Everyone's pressure will have a critical point, so that adults can bear not to break out is the existence of "reason." Reason is the product of adults who are not controlled by emotions and concentrate on the pros and cons. They will have a balance in their hearts to measure whether what they see is worth doing irrational things. All irrational things are unequal.
In the family, the relationship between "sister-in-law" can be said to be the most harmonious. On the one hand, the two sides are about the same age. On the other hand, because my sister-in-law will get married sooner or later, there is no need to have an unpleasant relationship with her. But this does not mean that all families are like this. Some families always have some indisputable facts.
Jingjing, a reader who just gave birth to a child, looked at the child in her arms and her eyes slowly turned red. She has no joy in giving birth, and there are not many women's smiles after giving birth. She just stared at the child. There is no one around except her parents, not even her husband. Jingjing knew that she might not go back to her husband's house for a long time.
Jingjing, who has completely torn her face with her husband's family, has no guilt at all. Occasionally, she also resents her original humiliation. Jingjing thought more than once: "If I had been a little tougher, maybe the ending would not be like this. If they don't push me, how can I have a big fight with them? "
In Jingjing's mouth, they are her husband's family. In Jingjing's impression, since she married her husband, the smiling faces that are often scattered on her face have become much less. Although Jingjing was psychologically prepared for her mother-in-law's difficulties, Jingjing never thought that her mother-in-law would bully her again and again. At first, Jingjing, who was patient, could not accept her mother-in-law's behavior and began to fight back.
In order to gain the upper hand in the struggle, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law pinned their hopes on Jingjing's husband. The man who can control the family situation didn't help anyone. He swore at Jingjing and her mother in the ear and did the most basic thing. The struggle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became fierce.
But the news forced her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to stop fighting. Jingjing was overjoyed when she learned that she was pregnant. The unhappiness between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was deliberately forgotten by two women, and she was preoccupied with the unborn fetus in Jingjing's stomach.
When a woman is pregnant, she needs someone to take care of her. Jingjing, who is pregnant, knows that her busy husband can't get away, and she doesn't want to bother her parents, so the only one who can take care of Jingjing is her mother-in-law, but there is no harmony between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law. Although Jingjing's pregnancy made her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law stop the previous contradiction, the contradiction did not disappear.
After Jingjing's husband asked her mother-in-law to take more care of Jingjing, her mother-in-law accepted the job happily on the surface, but she was unwilling in all aspects, but everything should be child-oriented. Jingjing's mother-in-law can only take care of Jingjing reluctantly, and let a disgruntled person take care of another person. Naturally, she will not do her best. Jingjing also knows the truth. Although she said nothing on the surface, she gave her mother-in-law a look.
With Jingjing's mother-in-law's temper, she wouldn't be so used to Jingjing. She simply gave up and let Jingjing stand on her own feet. Jingjing is also happy at leisure. Besides, she's just pregnant, and she still has some mobility. However, with her belly getting bigger and bigger, Jingjing feels a little tired, so she needs some help to sit, lie down and walk. Jingjing's husband is honest, although he doesn't care about his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Knowing that his mother didn't want to take care of Jingjing, he pulled his face down and asked his married sister to go back to her family for a few months.
Jingjing welcomed her sister-in-law, who took care of Jingjing in every way in the first few days. But soon, Jingjing found that her sister-in-law was impatient with serving her sister-in-law, so she often stayed in the bedroom with her mother-in-law. Jingjing knows what happened even if she is stupid. Obviously, the mother-in-law has told her daughter about her pregnancy.
No matter whether a woman is married or not, she will turn to her mother, and Jingjing's sister-in-law is no exception. Jingjing guessed that her mother-in-law would make herself miserable in front of her sister-in-law, and the two of them would jointly give her a good look, but what Jingjing didn't expect was that not only her guess came true, but also the attack of her mother-in-law and sister-in-law was so fierce.
Knowing that pregnant women can't do strenuous exercise, she gave Jingjing a pile of dirty clothes that should have been washed by them. Jingjing wanted to refuse, but before she could say it, she heard her sister-in-law say, "Sister-in-law, pregnant women should exercise more. Sitting still all day will make it more difficult to have children. I'm thinking about you. "
Jingjing didn't expect to refuse for a while, so she had to wash the dirty clothes they deliberately left behind. If they just do this, Jingjing can bear it, but another thing that Jingjing's mother-in-law and sister-in-law did almost made Jingjing lose control.
Since Jingjing became pregnant, the problem of cooking at home has been contracted by her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law has no objection. That day, Jingjing came out of the bedroom to prepare for dinner as usual, and saw her mother-in-law and sister-in-law sitting on the sofa eating takeout. If that's all, Jingjing went to the sofa and found that there were only two takeaways.
Jingjing smiled and asked, "Where is my meal?" Sister-in-law looked up and said, "Do it yourself. I ordered this takeaway. I should buy it for my mother, but why should I buy it for you? " With that, she looked at her mother proudly. Jingjing opened her mouth and didn't speak. She didn't know what to say. After all, sister-in-law's behavior is not just embarrassing her.
If there is no step down, find your own step down. Jingjing said nothing. She shuffled slowly towards the kitchen, ready to cook for herself. At this moment, Jingjing heard her mother-in-law's smug voice vaguely. "Don't move the guy in the kitchen, I bought it. If you want to cook, you can buy kitchen utensils first, and the gas is free for you. " Mother-in-law said.
Jingjing suddenly froze. She asked her mother-in-law with a grain of salt: "What do you mean, I can't use kitchen utensils, mother-in-law, you are a little too much." "How too much? After all, you are an outsider. " Jingjing's sister-in-law defended her mother. Jingjing was on the verge of breaking out at that time, but she touched her abdomen and calmed down immediately. Her body can't bear the consequences of being angry at will.
To tell the truth, Jingjing's mother-in-law and sister-in-law are really cold-blooded, and it is hard for people to believe that their families can still do this. At that time, Jingjing chose patience, not only for the children, but also for the stability of the family, preferring to wronged herself, even though the family atmosphere maintained by Jingjing only existed on the surface.
Jingjing's husband didn't make any noise even though he knew Jingjing had been wronged. Maybe he also feels that he has difficulties in his heart. After all, he and his wife are the two closest people in the world. To tell the truth, if he intervenes properly while the situation is still under control, he won't regret it later.
Jingjing's family has an unwritten rule that everyone eats in a fixed bowl. Not everyone in the family has cleanliness, but it has become a custom rule, which has become the fuse of all contradictions.
When Jingjing's husband seldom had a rest, Jingjing's mother-in-law cooked a meal with her daughter. After all, the family's economic source depends entirely on her son, and this meal is also a reward for him. Jingjing found a problem when she was sitting at the dinner table before. In the past, only the dishes and chopsticks prepared early on the table were missing her share.
Jingjing turned to the kitchen to get it for herself without saying anything, but strangely, no matter how she looked, she couldn't find her own chopsticks. Jingjing walked out of the kitchen and shouted to her mother-in-law, who casually said, "I don't know, maybe it was when the garbage was thrown out." Jingjing's reaction at that time was very strange. She didn't respond at all, while Jingjing's husband hurried to pick his favorite dish and turned a deaf ear to what was happening in front of him.
Maybe it's more sad than dying in your heart. Jingjing has a panoramic view of what people do in front of her. Somehow, her heart twitched inexplicably, and her beautiful big eyes slowly lost their spirits. She opened the door and went out alone. On that day, Jingjing only brought some things that were most important to her, and went back to her parents' house under the intentional gaze of her husband's family.
Until labor, Jingjing didn't inform her mother-in-law's family, and even her husband didn't know about it. After the baby was born smoothly, Jingjing's father, who really couldn't stand it, told her in-laws. Mother-in-law rushed to the hospital after listening, even before drinking water, pointing to Jingjing and saying that she was rude and ungrateful.
Jingjing didn't speak. She looked at her husband's family coldly, as if she had lost the focal length, and the atmosphere in the ward changed accordingly. It was not until Jingjing's husband wanted to hold the baby that Jingjing's eyes had a look. She looked into her husband's eyes and a faint "roll" came out of her mouth.
Since then, Jingjing has never seen anyone from her husband's family come to the hospital, but this is just what Jingjing wants. After all, there is nothing between Jingjing and her husband's family except an empty marriage. Things have come to this. Jingjing felt that even if her husband's family apologized to her one by one, she would not choose to forgive.
Reason can't restrain impulse, and impulse happens in an instant. People may be as horrible as a volcanic eruption at that moment, or they may pretend that nothing happened. The only thing that is the same is that they can no longer be forgiven. For Jingjing, she did not repent for what she had done. Under her instinctive consideration, she thought she had made the best choice for herself at that time.
Everyone has a bottom line in his heart. Before the bottom line was broken, it was reason that managed his emotions. But once the bottom line is broken, reason will follow the body instinct and let people do the most beneficial behavior. This process is called "impulse". Some people say that impulse is the devil, but in fact impulse is to protect yourself.
Strictly speaking, the root of discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lies in men, who are the pillars of a family. No matter what is done between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as long as men get involved, things can develop towards a healthy side. If a man chooses to watch and watch things get out of control and be indifferent, things will develop in the worst direction, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be completely confused about winning or losing. A complete family, at the moment when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are completely confused about winning or losing, is often.