When Cabbage Lu was reported, it was difficult to attend to the process of conceiving Cabbage Lu. Xu Xiaoke said with a wry smile, "I was really surprised to see the two lines of a pregnancy test while I was still taking care of two children." I thought I could easily cope with the arrival of a second child from the original parenting life with only boiled water, but I didn't expect that I would be too busy to take care of children of different ages at one time. One is a newborn baby girl and the other is an active little boy. Life schedule is completely different. Xu Xiaoke said that at that time, water and water were too sticky for me, and I couldn't concentrate on taking care of my daughter, milking and nursing. Hearing the crying of water and water in the room, I have to hurry. " When she felt exhausted, she also told her husband Ben that the third child would be delayed for several years. As a result, I didn't expect the life of "Cabbage Lu" to come, which made Xu Xiaoke even more at a loss. After giving birth to my daughter Baihua Oil, I was pregnant for less than a year, and my mother has not fully recovered. Will it cause discomfort during pregnancy? Xu Xiaoke pointed out that there was no discomfort during pregnancy, but it happened that Ben filmed a drama asking her to stay away from Taipei for a long time when she was pregnant for more than four months. She said, "Ben is actually worried about everything at home, especially that I have to take care of two children besides pregnancy, but I know that he has a deep fate with this drama, and I encourage him to take this job when she is pregnant." There was no difficulty at first, but as his stomach grew bigger, Xu Xiaoke began to feel the inconvenience in life; The children are looked after by the nanny during the day. When I go home on holidays, not only the food and my daughter's non-staple food are cooked separately, but also the time and habits of taking a nap are different. From 8 am to 8 pm all day, they hardly rest or eat. In addition, their daughter was still unstable and needed to be bathed. In addition to her big belly and the weight of her child, she is often too tired to breathe. After the birth of "Cabbage Lu", Xu Xiaoke encountered some embarrassment in real life. At that time, the new home had not been decorated, and there were no more rooms for him to sleep in his hometown. First of all, his daughter is used to sleeping by herself, and his eldest son needs company. He was worried that the crying of "Cabbage Lu" would wake him up in the middle of the night, and he had to sleep in the living room when he got home. Therefore, he stayed in the confinement center for an extra month. However, Xu Xiaoke was glad that he had met a good nanny. In order not to affect her and her husband's quality of life and take good care of the other two children, she offered to bring "cabbage Lu" all day and take it home on holidays. Referring to this matter, she lamented: "Cabbage Lu Gang was born less than three months ago, and the baby who needs a sense of security runs on both sides like this. As long as he takes it home on weekends, he won't sleep well that night, and he will take it back to the nanny's house on Monday. Facing the maladjustment of the environment, I was really distressed to see him full of anxiety. "Through the difficulties in the early stage, Xu Xiaoke is now enjoying the feeling of being a mother. She can cope with her child's illness with a relaxed mood. On the contrary, her husband's mind is delicate, and his eyes are full of tears when he looks at the sick and uncomfortable child. She had to comfort her husband.
Superman Mommy _ Xu Xiaoke Xu Xiaoke gave birth to a son "boiled water" and a daughter "white flower oil" after marriage, and welcomed the arrival of the third son "cabbage Lu" in June+10 last year. A family of five is very lively, which is simply a model of increasing production and serving the country. Facing the three babies at home and her husband Ben, who looks like a big boy, Xu Xiaoke plays the roles of mommy, wife and artist at the same time. She is like a superwoman, and everyone can handle it easily! Husband's care, postpartum body recovered quickly.
Speaking of her husband's intimate behavior, Xu Xiaoke said sweetly: "I remember being extremely hot when I was pregnant with my daughter. On a cold winter night, Ben asked me if I wanted to eat something. I just felt very hot and wanted to eat ice cream, but I wanted him to eat with me, so I asked him to buy a bucket of two flavors to eat together. As a result, we turned on the air conditioner in the room and ate ice cream while watching TV. Ben looks good after eating the whole person. " In addition, she said that as long as she needs to work when she is pregnant, her husband will definitely pick her up in person. When she was pregnant with "cabbage Lu", Ben worked in the field for a long time, but she would definitely video with Xu Xiaoke and her children every day. She said: "Don't look at Ben as a tall and rugged Leo man. Even if he works outside, he still cares about his home and often misses the crying child. As long as he is at home, he will certainly help take care of the children and let me rest. For Xu Xiaoke, the most painful thing during pregnancy is to control her weight. For the sake of figure and health, the first child is completely eaten according to the diet, without starch, sugar and carbohydrate. He only eats high-protein food and vegetables rather than fruits. Even if you eat starch, you must finish it before dark, and you should mainly eat brown rice and whole grains, and sweets are completely taboo, so that your postpartum weight will recover faster. So Xu Xiaoke is good at fitness, so many mothers will ask her how to lose weight after childbirth. In this regard, she explained that some mothers did not manage their weight well during pregnancy. In order to provide nutritious milk for the baby after delivery, I ate a lot of milk delivery food. In addition, taking care of your baby may lead to irregular eating and lack of sleep, leading to slow metabolism and fat accumulation. As a result of the vicious circle, they can't lose weight. In the case of difficult choice, you can only control your weight during pregnancy, don't gain too much weight, and there won't be much difference after delivery. In addition, it is not recommended that mommy lose weight immediately within 3 months after delivery, because at this time, the baby needs whole breast milk, and the milk depends on the mother's water, fat and nutrition. If you lose weight and lack nutrition, the milk will disappear first; Or mommy who wants to lose weight and keep breast milk may choose to drink water, but too much water will dilute the concentration of breast milk and will not make the baby feel full. Being hungry quickly will make mommy work harder. Therefore, Xu Xiaoke suggested that mommy should grasp the golden period of slimming from half a year after delivery to 1 year, so as to restore her figure. Xu Xiaoke emphasized the importance of confinement. She said: "When I gave birth to two children before my death, I didn't have a good confinement. Even after giving birth to my daughter, I missed my eldest son so much that I neglected to hug him when I was still confined, which led to frequent low back pain. "I am physically weak and afraid of the cold, and my hands and feet are easy to get cold. After giving birth to my third child, I have been sitting on the moon seriously, especially eating ginger slices for many meals. After a long time, physical fitness and metabolism have improved, which is very helpful for postpartum slimming. 」
Parent-child relationship is good and brotherhood is deep. Are the eldest son "boiled water" and daughter "white flower oil" jealous of this new member "white flower dew"? Xu Xiaoke smiled and said, "You're welcome! Their brother and sister love this youngest brother very much, and Ann likes them very much. As long as my brother and sister are near, they will laugh happily. But sometimes their brotherly love makes Ben and I feel like lovers. Shuishui loves to hug her sister, and her sister never calls her "brother". Their personalities are very different. Shuishui is like a warm man and his sister is like a savage girlfriend. Baihuayou was born when the boiled water was still small, and he didn't know what a baby was, but now he knows that Cabbage Lu is the youngest brother and needs to be taken care of. He also knows that his mother must take care of his younger brother. He is also quiet and usually plays with his younger brother. For example, Xu Xiaoke said, "Once Ann was playing a music score and knocked two drums on the book. After water and water were discovered, she knew she had to take care of her brother. She added: "Before driving out, whenever I wanted to sleep, I always held my sister's hand. Maybe my sister is also influenced by my brother. Now she will also hold her brother's hand. Looking back, we can see their three little babies holding hands with each other. This picture is so warm. As a big brother, Shuishui usually helps me discipline my younger brother and sister. I often hear him say, "Just say it's no good, do you hear? ",let me at ease. Many parents want their brothers or sisters to be polite to their younger brothers and sisters. Xu Xiaoke believes that there should be no so-called "concessions", and they must communicate with their children. If the owner of a thing is a brother, they should ask their willingness to borrow money, instead of forcing them to deprive them of their rights, because children can't decide the order of birth. Therefore, don't let children feel that they were born early and resentful, but let them enjoy themselves. Xu Xiaoke went on to say, "I think children should establish feelings for each other. Even if there is a quarrel in the process of playing, it is also a process of cultivating brotherhood. At this time, my parents are only assisting, and I won't interfere too much. When it comes to fostering parent-child relationship, Xu Xiaoke and Weng Ruidi are also very skillful. She said: "I must tell each other I love you every day, and I will kiss you good night before going to bed." Never be stingy with these expressions of love. Besides, I chat with my children before going to bed every day. For example, now that my spoken English is better, let him tell us the happiest and most unhappy things today, and he will also ask us questions. It is very important to understand each other's ideas in this way and let children learn to express themselves. 」
Superman Mommy _ Xu Xiaoke Xu Xiaoke gave birth to a son "boiled water" and a daughter "white flower oil" after marriage, and welcomed the arrival of the third son "cabbage Lu" in June+10 last year. A family of five is very lively, which is simply a model of increasing production and serving the country. Facing the three babies at home and her husband Ben, who looks like a big boy, Xu Xiaoke plays the roles of mommy, wife and artist at the same time. She is like a superwoman, and everyone can handle it easily! Parenting concept, complementary roles of husband and wife. At ordinary times, Xu Xiaoke is the role of accompanying children to have fun crazily, and he is proficient in horseback fighting and role-playing. This is the rule and etiquette for disciplining children all their lives. They are dignified in front of children, with their own responsibilities and complementary roles. Of course, there will be differences of opinion in the process of education, but as long as we communicate well with each other, it is no problem to agree with ideas and practices. Xu Xiaoke said: "I used to worry that Ben's sternness would alienate my children, especially between father and son, who obviously love each other but dare not express it because they are all men's faces, but Shuishui loves his father very much. One night, after brushing my teeth and washing my face, the water wiped not only my own towel, but also Ben and mine, saying, "I love my mother and I love my father." "At that moment, he knew that his father was teaching him and his parents were equally important, so I was relieved. Regarding beating and cursing, Xu Xiaoke believes that every child should be severely taught once before the age of 2, which is easier for later education, but communication after class is very important, so that children can know why they did something wrong? Why are parents angry? More importantly, be sure to ask your child why he did this and express his feelings, so that the child will understand the connection and it will not be easy to make the same mistake again next time. However, parents should treat children of different ages in different ways, because this will affect the way brothers and sisters get along. Xu Xiaoke said that parents' words and deeds are almost the prototype of children's learning, and children learn quickly. Therefore, words and deeds must be correct. She added that the way and tone in which Boiling Water talks to her younger brothers and sisters is completely imitating the way they talk to Baihua Oil and Cabbage Lu. As children get older, outdoor activities will also increase, but now people are worried about their safety. How does Xu Xiaoke face it? She said: "In the past, I thought that children should take the initiative to greet others and smile, but public security problems spread frequently. Now I think children can scream and run away as a way to protect themselves. I also wonder if they should be picked up and dropped off 24 hours a day to keep them away from strangers. In fact, my heart is very contradictory. On the one hand, I am worried that my children will be in danger, but on the other hand, I don't want them to lose their independence. This is tantamount to depriving them of their learning instinct. Especially now, with three children to take care of, they can only try to move in open places where they can see no dead ends, which also reduces the chances of walking outside, so they choose to drive themselves to be vigilant. 」