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I know that love has something to do with dopamine, so I remembered an article I read before and finally found it after searching for a long time. So I'll share it with you.
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Love is one of the most beautiful emotions in the world that people have been pursuing and yearning for; It is a strong attachment, closeness and yearning between people, and it is also an emotion of selfless dedication; It is a pure feeling that men and women admire each other in their own hearts based on the ideal of life and long for each other to become their lifelong partners. Some people say that "love is blind", while others say that "love makes people crazy". British researchers have found that when people fall in love, some changes do take place in their brain tissues by scanning their brains, which explains these claims from a scientific point of view. Let's see what is in charge of your love!
What is a hormone?
Hormone is also transliterated as hormone or hormone, which means "exciting activity" in Greek. It is a chemical substance produced by endocrine glands or cells, which is transported to the whole body with blood and affects the physiological activities of the human body by regulating the metabolic activities of various tissues and cells. Although the amount of hormones in human body is very small, it plays an important role in regulating metabolism, growth and development, reproduction, nerve signal conduction and so on.
discharge time
When people experience the discharge period of love, the body will secrete a hormone called phenylethylamine (PEA).
Whether it is love at first sight or long-term love, as long as enough peas are produced in your mind, then love will follow. As the saying goes, the feeling of "calling" is pea's specialty. Interestingly, when people are in danger or nervous mood, the secretion level of PEA will also increase. In other words, when people are in danger, the possibility of love will increase, which is why couples like to watch ghost movies together!
Lovers express their love by sending chocolate, and chocolate is indeed the best love food, and its pea content is the most among all foods. Therefore, it is scientific to send chocolate to your lover.
Love affects judgment.
Semir Zaki, a professor of neuroaesthetics at University College London, designed an experiment in which volunteers were shown photos of their loved ones or "enemies" and then their brains were scanned with the help of magnetic resonance imaging equipment. The results show that the activity of the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for judgment and reasoning, decreases when watching photos of lovers. This means that they no longer doubt or criticize each other. When watching photos of "enemies", the prefrontal cortex of the brain becomes active.
The Daily Mail quoted Zaki as saying, "When you see someone you love, although some areas of the brain become active, larger areas become inactive", but people in love can still make most decisions in life, such as making a deal or changing mortgage institutions.
In love
When people are in love, the body will secrete another hormone-dopamine, which gives people a sweet and happy feeling.
Dopamine plays an important role in our physical and mental health, and it is also related to pleasure and satisfaction. When we experience something new, exciting or challenging, dopamine is secreted in our brain. Under the action of dopamine, we will feel the happiness of love.
The "passion" that dopamine brings to love will give people the illusion that love can be fanatical forever. When your brain is full of this hormone, it's time for you to fall in love madly.
Being in love is like taking drugs.
Studies have also shown that people in love have higher levels of dopamine in their brains, while the secretion of serotonin decreases.
Dopamine is a reward chemical secreted by the brain. When people get rewards, dopamine levels rise rapidly and then drop rapidly. Previous studies have shown that drugs can also release dopamine from the brain, signaling excitement and happiness.
Serotonin is a neurotransmitter produced by human body, that is, a channel for transmitting information between nerves, which will affect people's appetite, internal drive and mood. Another hormone that changes because of love is adrenaline. In other words, people in love are looking forward to meeting their lovers, which is similar to the craving of drug addicts.
Falling in love is hard to control.
Psychologists are concerned about why love sometimes makes people more controlling.
David Niasse, a British clinical psychologist and writer, focuses on the phenomenon of stalkers, and thinks that although this behavior is extreme, it explains to some extent why people do incredible things when they are in love.
"For stalkers, love snowballs. It has evolved into a mental disorder, leading to paranoia, "he said. "Sadly, we still know very little about the causes of this situation."
Nias believes that if such people can be trained to change their way of thinking, they can get rid of obsessive-compulsive disorder and be surprised by their behavior.
Unfortunately, dopamine can't be at such a high level in the human body forever. The human body has a strong self-regulation ability and always tries to adjust the state of the human body back to normal. Once dopamine decreases or even disappears, people will recover from this intoxicating state, or, as we often say, lose the feeling of love. Generally speaking, depending on the individual and the environment, the peak dopamine concentration can last for about 6 months to 4 years, with an average of less than 30 months (about two and a half years). With the decrease and disappearance of dopamine, passion becomes calm.
Lovelorn period
Losing love is almost the limit of human suffering. Why do people feel very painful when there is something wrong with their love relationship? Anthropologist Helen Fisher says this can be found in the neural network and evolution of your brain. People who are lovelorn usually have the pain of "being abandoned by you, but I love you more". Researchers believe that with the departure of lovers, the increase of brain network activities and the increase of chemicals secreted by the brain will make lovelorn people have stronger feelings.
Psychiatrists divide lovelorn into two stages: the first stage is "protest" and the second stage is "abandonment/despair". In the protest stage, abandoned lovers will never forget each other in order to make them change their minds. They think hard about their own problems and how to find ways to rekindle love. At this time, it is very common to keep calling, sending emails, writing letters and visiting two people's friends repeatedly. The more intense these behaviors are, the stronger the love of the abandoned people is sometimes. This situation is called "frustration attraction" by researchers.
Psychiatrists believe that the "frustration attraction" of lovelorn love is related to dopamine (a chemical substance that controls muscle movement and makes people feel satisfied). Studies have shown that in the early stage of romantic relationship, the system that produces dopamine is activated. During the protest stage, the activity of dopamine also increased, which made the rejected lovers feel more intense passion.
Marriage period
When people enter the marriage hall, the body will secrete endorphins, giving people a warm and comfortable feeling.
After a vigorous love, with the decrease of dopamine concentration, we need another love substance-endorphin to fill our passion and make people feel attached, warm, comfortable and calm to a stable relationship.
If phenylethylamine is similar to ecstasy, endorphins are similar to morphine. Therefore, dopamine is called "love substance" and endorphins are called "marriage substance".
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2013 August 27th 07: 15 Sina Health Comprehensive
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Wake up, your so-called "feeling" is just "good conditions"
In my gender communication art class, I have been using the program "If You Are the One" as a teaching material.
(Note: This course has been suspended)
There are 24 female guests in the program, and 5 male guests in each session. Watching programs all the year round gives you a relatively large sample, which can be used to observe the mate selection strategies of men and women.
On the regular program of 20 15, a male guest came, setting a record as "the king of lights". After three short films, all 24 lights came on.
This male guest has excellent conditions. He is English. I started a company at the age of 24, made a lot of money, traveled around the world and did public welfare in Africa. He is handsome, a part-time model, and comes standard with six and eight abdominal muscles.
Such a male god appeared, and of course all the female guests left lights.
Interestingly, the girl holding hands with the male guests is also the sister of a pair of twin sisters on the stage.
My sister cried her eyes out. My sister expressed her feelings like this: "Seeing that my sister finally found a boyfriend, I sent my sister away with my own eyes ..."
The host Morphy said something very interesting: "If it was another man holding your sister's hand, such as the last male guest, it is estimated that you would not be so sad ..."
This sentence is vicious enough. But it's true. My sister was so excited and moved that she shed tears. I'm afraid her heart is more unwilling, annoyed, jealous and sad: "Why did you take my sister instead of me?"
In the program, female guests often say that they have no feelings for male guests when they turn off the lights.
If you interview 24 female guests on the spot, if you have any feelings about this male guest from Britain, you will definitely answer with one voice: "Yes!"
It can be seen that "feeling" is basically regular and unpredictable, unlike what everyone thinks, a white cloud, a pale dog, without a trace.
When I was a child, I didn't know where I heard a story, probably love novels and movies, and oh, love songs. The song you listened to sang like this: "I don't know why, I like you …"
Listen to the meaning of this lyric. Love is a lottery game. Everyone will get lucky sometimes, and I don't know when I will win the grand prize.
I don't know anyone else. That's what I thought when I was a kid anyway. I dreamed that I didn't know when I won the lottery.
I also mistakenly think that I like a woman at random, and there are unknowable behind-the-scenes manipulators, such as "fate", "old age" or "destiny takes a hand".
When I am old, I have observed myself a little and found that the women I like are quite simple. All beautiful women like it!
Shit! Do you have a personality?
I hate myself. But I can't. I am like this, so vulgar, so humiliated.
Seeing more women, I gradually understand that the "feeling" in women's mouths is also a deceptive story. As long as Gao Shuai is rich, 10 of the women meet her, and 10 says she has feelings; As long as it's short, ugly and poor, 10 all the women have seen it 10 said they didn't feel it.
The so-called "feeling" is just a fig leaf of "good conditions"!
No man wants to admit that he likes beautiful women, and no woman wants to admit that she likes rich men, because that will make him look vulgar, LowB and hierarchical.
But to say that you have feelings and have no feelings seems to have connotations and pursuits, and you are a person who pays attention to your heart.
Shit! Bullshit! It's all self-deception
I had an online relationship in college.
I met a girl on QQ and chatted on QQ for two years. I also wrote hundreds of emails, hundreds of them, enough to make up a book!
Internet access was very expensive at that time. The most expensive time is one hour 12 yuan, one hour 12 yuan! I don't even eat more than 3 yuan! I live in 400 yuan every month. A phone card 100 yuan, only enough for 8 hours! There was a small stack of calling cards.
I don't remember how many mornings, afternoons and evenings I spent chatting with QQ in Internet cafes. Because internet cafes are cheap.
Probably it was that online love that poured all my youth and enthusiasm. I feel that I have never been in love since then.
I've been online dating for more than two years, and I haven't seen each other, even photos. Finally, egged on by my classmates, I asked them to send me photos.
I opened the photo with anxiety. After reading it, I was disappointed
Disappointment is not the most important thing. The important thing is that I feel guilty. Because I saw the truth. The truth is-
I am a "superficial person" who judges people by their appearances!
Ah, ah, ah ~ this truth hurts me so much. I have always thought that I am a person who pays attention to the soul, pays attention to the inside, does not pay attention to the appearance, is not superficial, and is out of low taste.
So I'm not!
It turns out that I am vulgar, superficial and popular. What I value is appearance, not profundity, detachment, nobility and exquisiteness. ...
It's really a blow!
In 2003, I liked to listen to a program of Shenzhen Radio Station called "The Night Sky is Not Lonely", and the host was Hu Xiaomei.
Hu Xiaomei said that he had a youthful memory. When he was a child, he liked to read Qiong Yao's novels and love stories. At that time, I liked to walk slowly on the school gravel road with my hands behind my back, waiting to meet my prince charming. Walk on that road every day ...
At that time, I thought, as long as I am kind, as long as I have a beautiful heart and an inner self, I can always meet my Prince Charming.
When I grow up, I realize that fairy tales are all lies! Women should be beautiful, women should have breasts, only men can catch up and meet Prince Charming. Your kindness, your inner self, men simply can't see it! I can't see! Can't see! Men are highly myopic!
Finally, end today's article with a famous saying:
"Handsome people have youth, and ugly people like us only study!"