Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said that the most common cause of new mothers' syndrome is loss. There are two specific situations:
During pregnancy, pregnant women will receive great care from their husbands or other family members, but this care is partly for the mother and partly for the children. Children's attention is unified before birth, and it will split after birth. A considerable part was transferred to the baby, and only a part was left to the mother. In addition, in many families, wives were originally used as a tool to carry on the family line.
At this time, young mothers will have resentment, and resentment is often unclear, whether it is for children or for people who neglect themselves, such as husbands.
Another situation is that there is something wrong with the relationship between husband and wife. A husband loves his wife not like an adult, but like a little girl. Before the baby is born, this is no problem. However, if a daughter is born and the husband has a real little girl, his focus will quickly shift from the "fake little girl" wife to the real girl daughter.
In this case, the mother will also have a great sense of loss, and even think, if only she had no children. Once the latter happens, the mother's nature will give herself a great ideological burden, and she feels how she can think like this, thus causing division.
The above two reasons may lead to the pregnant women eating more after delivery, but the thinner they are. Because the body is resisting this sense of loss in a morbid way, hoping to win back its love and find a balance.
But obviously this is wrong. What we should really do is to find out the specific psychological problems first, and then prescribe the right medicine to solve the problems in essence.
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