Everything has a price.
We won't do anything that violates the law and morality, because we know that if we do, we will be punished by law and condemned by morality, and our life may be finished.
However, there is no crime of cheating at present, regardless of the law. Morally, everyone turns a blind eye and takes it for granted. The developed network provides convenience for cheating, which leads to lower and lower cost of cheating, which is one of the reasons why cheating is becoming more and more popular and the divorce rate is getting higher and higher.
Without legal and moral constraints, men can only rely on self-discipline without cheating.
Mature men, when they encounter the temptation of the opposite sex, will calculate this account in their hearts. If they cheat in their marriage, what will be the price:
1, reputation cost. Although there is a very incorrect value that "cheating is a mistake that every man will make" and "men have the ability to cheat, but they don't have the ability to cheat", in the final analysis, cheating is still a disgraceful behavior under the current monogamy. Once the infidelity is exposed, the reputation of individuals and families will be affected. From being condemned by relatives and friends to being scolded by public opinion, some people may even lose their public office and affect their future.
2. The cost of money. A man cannot have an affair without money. People who can play without money must be superior in other aspects, such as appearance and sex. There will be money investment in derailment, and this investment is still relatively large. For example, dating, eating, giving gifts and opening a room all need money, and because of the particularity of extramarital affairs, the dating place, eating grade, gift price and hotel opening a room are all particular, which undoubtedly increases the cost of cheating. In addition, if men don't want to play and women don't, then men have to get rid of women and use some means to buy out the relationship, which is not a small expense. If a woman is pregnant and still haunts a man, it will be even worse. Either she has to pay for the abortion, or she has to prepare money to pay for the child's future support.
3. Psychological cost. At first, cheating will definitely feel fresh and exciting. Like falling in love, I feel full of energy. But after a long time, all kinds of problems came. After all, cheating is a shameful act, psychologically speaking, it will be a little scary. On weekdays, you should not only guard against your wife's questioning at home, but also take time to please San Xiao for fear that she will pester you and embarrass yourself. Besides, you have to endure the guilt and conscience of marital infidelity from time to time. When the time schedule is not enough, you have to lie and make up stories to appease both sides. Over time, there will be no psychological problems. And long-term sneaking around, having a guilty conscience, living in tension, fear and worry, cardiovascular and cerebrovascular problems will also occur.
4. Physical cost. The possibility of not having sex is too low. Once you have sex, the chance of getting sick is very high. It is reported that the ratio of male to female is about 7:3, and 99% of men suffer from sexually transmitted diseases because of extramarital affairs. If they are accidentally infected with AIDS, it will be harmful to others and themselves. In addition, because you have to face the sexual needs of your wife and extramarital lovers at the same time, the possibility of physical overdraft is higher. Too much long-term sexual life will lead to premature aging.
5. Family cost. It is certain that cheating will lead to family disharmony. No cheating family will be happy, and no woman can remain calm after finding her husband cheating. Usually, a man's infidelity does great harm to his wife. Because of her husband's infidelity, the wife lost confidence in marriage and trust in her husband. For various reasons, she may choose to divorce or forgive and move on. Divorced, naturally hurt, children, houses, tickets are scored. If it continues, the wife will be suspicious all day and closely monitor her husband. The relationship between the two is tense and it is estimated that it is difficult to be harmonious. In addition, children will also be affected by their parents' marriage, be afraid of their parents' divorce, and may make some inappropriate behaviors in psychology and behavior. In addition, if divorce and remarriage, family reorganization, child rearing education is also a big problem.
In this way, a mature man will have no intention of cheating, put all his love and responsibility into the family, run the family with care, take good care of his wife and children, make the family harmonious, benefit himself, and be happy and healthy every day.
Immature men don't even think about the cost of cheating. They first meet their own physiological needs. As for psychology, they always have a fluky psychology, thinking that everything they do will not be discovered, and even if they are discovered, there is no loss. All they have to do is pretend to apologize sincerely to their wives as if nothing had happened.
In their minds, cheating has no cost, or the cost is very low. For them, cheating has neither legal norms nor moral condemnation, and even they have no inner self-discipline.
They take cheating for granted.
My wife doesn't care enough about me, my wife can't meet my sexual needs, life is too stressful, there is no language between husband and wife, there is no novelty, and women outside seduce me first. ...
In short, in their eyes, there are many reasons for cheating, but none of them are their own.
So the cost of cheating is high or low, which is different in different men's hearts.
If you find a mature man, then congratulations, a lifetime of family harmony, grow old together.
If not, then you should make a choice as soon as possible to minimize the harm caused by marital infidelity.