The way to improve self-control is the ability to control and restrain one's emotions. Neurophysiologists tell us that rational thinking and emotional behavior have a division of labor in the brain. People's behavior is not only guided by sex, but also influenced by the emotional state at that time. This kind of influence is good or bad, and the degree is also strong or weak. Without self-control, it is impossible for emotions to act freely and self-behavior management. Only by strengthening self-control can we force ourselves to carry out the decisions that have been made, overcome the interference of confrontation such as fear and laziness, restrain emotional excitement, and make people become patient and have the ability of self-denial. Historically, the more faithful you are to the little things in life, the more you can show a person's credit level. During the Warring States Period, Wei Wenhou told the head of the hunting ground that I would come here to hunt in a couple of days. That day, Hou Wen was drinking with his courtiers, and he was among them. Hou Wen stopped his glass and said it was getting late. I'm going out. The courtiers were all surprised. It is raining outside. We are drinking here, and we are very happy. What are you doing? Don't go! Hou Wen said, "Two days ago, I made an appointment with someone (the person who manages the hunting ground), and today I will go hunting. It's hard to stand up anyway! " As a king, Hou Wen advocates dating people. Because loyalty is the most important moral principle since ancient times, and it also reflects its own image, so Hou Wen needs to do this for everyone. Conversely, this also shows the importance of keeping promises and keeping promises. Self-control also plays an important role in improving physical and mental health. People who can't control their emotions and behaviors will not have a healthy body and a healthy mind. In order to improve self-control, the following six methods can be adopted. 1 distraction means that when you are stimulated badly, you can think or do other things first. For example, Turgenev, a famous Russian writer, suggested that people turn their tongues in their mouths 10 times when an argument is about to happen. 2 Psychological suggestion methods, such as Lin Zexu's self-control under the banner of "controlling anger", and Su Shi's self-encouragement with the words of "forbearing small anger and making great plans" to keep himself in a good mood when encountering bad stimuli. 3 Avoidance of stimuli When you encounter stimuli that may make you lose self-control, try to avoid them. If someone scolds me next door, I won't listen. Go out for a walk. In this way, we can avoid the conflict caused by anger. 4 Reasonable venting methods Some people will vent their emotions by listening to music and drawing when their emotions fluctuate. The positive compensation method is to use the powerful motivation generated by anger and passion to find a job you like, or study hard, or study hard at your desk, so that negative emotions can be actively used. The opposite is to do what you don't want to do first, that is, deliberately give yourself a hard time. Self-control is a kind of willpower, a manifestation of self-esteem, self-love and self-respect, which enables us to choose the best behavior plan, pass the fork in the road smoothly and always move in the right direction. The basic quality of an excellent person is self-control. "Self-control" means that even if you don't want to do it, you should try your best to do it, so that you can do what you want to do. Roy L. Smith said, "Self-control is like a controlled flame, which makes a genius." /kloc-in the 0/4th century, there was a nobleman named Ronald III, an orthodox duke of ancestral fiefs. His brother opposed him and overthrew him. My brother needed to get rid of the Duke, but he didn't want to kill him, so he thought of a way. After Ronald III was put into the cell, his younger brother ordered the cell door to be narrower than before. Ronald III was too tall and fat to get out of prison. My brother promised that if Ronald could slim down and walk out of prison by himself, he would not only regain his freedom, but also his title. Unfortunately, Ronald is not the kind of person who has self-control. He can't resist the temptation of the delicious food sent by his brother every day. As a result, instead of losing weight, he became fatter. A man without self-control is like a prisoner in an iron fence. Any excellent player knows that without self-control, he will never succeed. Excellent people have the courage to accept mental and physical training; They are willing to accept tasks beyond their imagination and devote themselves wholeheartedly to completing them; They often keep their brains active, consider some challenging questions and constantly think about things that need to be taken seriously, so as to train their self-control. And this self-control determines what people do at critical times. Biographer and educator thomas huxley said: "The most valuable achievement of education is to cultivate self-control, whether you like it or not, as long as you need to do it." If the basic quality of an excellent player is self-control, then adaptability is an essential quality of an excellent player. Napoléon Bonaparte is one of the greatest soldiers in military history. Thanks to his courage, flexible strategy and quick action, he won many battles. He once said to one of his defeated soldiers, "Your battle plan was made the day before the battle, but when the battle started, you knew nothing about the enemy's actions." Napoleon thought his opponent's achilles heel was lack of adaptability. Yes, anyone's rigidity and stubbornness are the biggest obstacles for him to become an excellent player. If a person acts rashly, lacks confidence or is lax, all these can be overcome. But if the mind is rigid and headstrong, this is the root of destruction and failure. Rosa Besmos Moss Kanter, a professor at Harvard Business School, pointed out: "Successful people are good at changing and adjusting themselves and their peers to achieve greater success." Therefore, adaptability is strong, which is an essential quality for an excellent person. Adaptable people are always exploring new fields and willing to try new things. As long as they can get new experiences, they don't care about short-term pain and unhappiness. They have a strong interest in new things and think that the only way from ignorance to understanding is to break down obstacles and adapt to the objective environment quickly. However, they can take newcomers and capable people, change their positions or titles, change their ways of doing things, be calm, and always look at the new environment and new changes from a good perspective. Only adaptable people are willing to adjust themselves to meet the needs of the team, and they will not find excuses to shirk their responsibilities, but try to think about how to do better. An excellent person should also be far-sighted, and every action is aimed at his long-term goal; Caring for others, good interpersonal relationship, willing to sacrifice personal interests; Perseverance, diligent study, maintaining a positive and optimistic attitude in adversity, etc. "Although the strong may not always win, the weak are doomed to fail several times."

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