Love is not only lip service, but also empathy.
In the latest issue of "Wife's Romantic Travel" (the third season), the wife group came to the famous "face-beating hall" in Thailand, which achieved the effect of plastic surgery through the form of "face-beating".
It is precisely because of this way that it is highly respected without surgery, medicine or prosthesis, and the price is of course quite expensive.
All the members of the wife group were "slapped".
Li Na has no hope for the expected effect of slapping. The first attempt, followed by Nana, Miriam Yeung and Tang Yifei, all achieved remarkable results.
In this process, except for Li Na, who was born as an athlete, she didn't cry out for pain by perseverance, and all other wives suffered a sudden "crit" and screamed again and again.
Huo Siyan was the last one to be slapped. But in the process of watching other sisters being slapped, she was very excited and had high hopes for this beautiful woman.
I hope that through this "face-beating", I can achieve the effect of face-lifting, buttocks-enriching and slimming.
And indifferent to the pain of sisters, that is beauty, can endure any pain.
The process of Huo Siyan being "punched in the face" is really crazy, but Huo Siyan can really bear it, and the effect is better.
The average price of this kind of "face-beating" is about 1000 yuan per person.
Seeing this scene, the four husbands sitting in the studio expressed different views.
Miriam Yeung's husband, Ding Zigao, thought it was too painful to hit him in the face, and he felt sorry for his wife.
Jison, from the athlete's point of view, thinks that a short beating will improve blood circulation, and the effect is normal.
On the other hand, Ling Xiao Su was very angry and confused. He shouted that such a "slap in the face" would hurt his wife and cost a lot of money.
But when the host asked Du Jiang, Du Jiang's attitude was completely different from that of the other three husbands.
He said that he knows his wife very well, and she cares about her appearance, so she is willing to try anything that can make her beautiful.
This time, through just three minutes of "hitting the face", there will be immediate results. Wife must be very happy. As long as his wife is happy, he is happy.
Besides, Du Jiang said that he was willing to give it a try.
It can be seen that Du Jiang's love for Huo Siyan is not only lip service, but also empathy.
Yes, it costs 1000 yuan to "hit the face" for 3 minutes. For Huo Siyan and Du Jiang, the pain is tolerable, and so is the economy. They are full of expectations for this process, satisfied with the effect and can make their partners happy and confident. Why not?
However, in many marriages, not everyone can appreciate, understand and support their partner's preferences, ideals and careers.
Love is allowing your partner to live and grow at his own pace and way.
Hongyi (pseudonym) and her husband's marriage are on the verge of collapse.
The two wronged each other. For her husband, "she is just too stupid, always willing to take detours, not listening to people's advice, not accepting people's management, willful and difficult to get along with."
For Hony: "I am an adult and have my own ideas and opinions. Don't use the moral shackles of' I am good for you' to bind me. "
A concrete example is that in daily life, the husband always forcibly arranges all his life and work on the grounds that he is a man, self-righteous and knowledgeable.
For example, after getting married, I also feel that I am getting married late and getting old, and I want to have children as soon as possible.
However, the husband believes that the two should have children later, fight for their careers first, and have an economic and career foundation to provide better protection for their children.
In order to prevent unwanted pregnancy, the husband proposed separation at the early stage of marriage.
Occasionally, in the life of husband and wife, you should also see Ye Hong taking birth control pills.
It was not until three years after marriage, when she was 33, that her husband agreed to have children.
However, due to many reasons, such as side effects of drugs, old age and great psychological pressure, it has not been successful for more than a year.
It was not until the age of 35 that Hongyi became pregnant. She was already a high-risk pregnant woman of an appropriate age. During this period, the psychological pressure suffered by Hong can be imagined.
After giving birth, Hongyi wants to take time out to do yoga and physical therapy to recover and recuperate her body. However, her husband thinks that all these things are deceptive, the process is slow and the effect is poor, so he doesn't allow Hony to sign up and threatens to stop Hony from signing up because he doesn't help with the children.
Hongyi cried and begged, but he asked Hongyi to do more housework, saying that housework is much more useful than yoga.
I searched many articles, theories and videos about the benefits of doing housework for Hongyi. There are many similar little things that directly led to Hongyi's postpartum depression for one and a half years.
After the maternity leave, Hony wanted to ask the nanny to help with the children, but her husband insisted that the old people from both sides help with them, otherwise he would not help with them, do housework or bear the expenses of the nanny.
At first, Hongyi asked her mother to help her, but her mother was in poor health and her father needed her care more. Three months later, her mother had to go home.
The husband took over his mother-in-law, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was not good. Moreover, coupled with the discord between husband and wife and the conflict of parenting concepts, it can be said that there is a big quarrel for one, four, seven, and a small quarrel for three, six and nine.
But every time her husband reprimands her, she doesn't know how to be grateful and filial to the elderly.
The fuse of this divorce is that after countless times, her mother-in-law still wiped her mouth with a tablecloth; Wash your child's face with the basin where the child washes his ass; Taste the baby's milk powder with your own mouth ... and answer confidently: "That's how I raised my child, there is nothing wrong with it." Why is your child so melodramatic? " He is my grandson. Will I harm him? "
"This is harmless. Why do you argue with my mother so unreasonably? There is only one mother, and the wife can marry another. " These are her husband's exact words.
When Hony really filed for divorce, her husband threatened that her children would never have a complete family, could not get their father's love, and Hony could not get satisfactory alimony. I hope Hony would still be grateful to him and live according to his arranged lifestyle.
However, Hony is determined to live in her own way through her own efforts. No matter how bitter it is, freedom is too precious.
Love is a little dream of respecting and appreciating your partner.
Yao Yao (pseudonym) is now a senior media person. She said that her economic prosperity, independence and future prospects were all due to her ex-husband's ridicule and satire, which gave her the courage to fight back.
Yao Yao likes writing since he was a child. As a student, her composition has always been a model essay favored by teachers.
She likes to keep a diary, from junior high school until she gave birth to a child. When she showed her husband her treasured junior high school diary, he said, "What the hell is this?" Is it meaningful to remember everything? "
When she was moved by the lines and scenes in the film and television drama, her husband would sarcastically say, "You are still too idle. Do more housework and see more children when you have time. So many affectations are all fake. "
Especially when Yao Yao lost her job because she had a baby, her husband was very sarcastic. No matter what job she wants, her husband always hits her first.
When Yao Yao said that he wanted to be a freelance writer and write from the media, her husband even laughed his teeth off: "What are you writing? What are you going to write? If you want knowledge without knowledge, if you want literary talent without literary talent, who will you show your writing to? Who sees who wastes time! "
However, Yao Yao registered an account and opened an account with his love, free online study and fee-based study.
After taking care of the baby, she learned writing skills, mastered parenting knowledge, psychology knowledge, editing knowledge, wrote columns and made videos, and finally gradually accumulated many loyal readers. After three years, her monthly income has exceeded 10,000 yuan, which is very easy for her.
However, in the past three years, her husband has never affirmed and praised her once. On the contrary, he often finds his dissatisfaction because Yao Yao stares at her mobile phone and computer every day and neglects to take care of her family. "It is strange that he never regards his partner as a partner, but as an enemy. When I was inferior to him, he looked down on me in every way, but never reached out to help me, just treating me as a laughing stock; When I caught up with him, he seemed more angry, as if the better I was, the worse he was. That's ridiculous! Just like I don't dress up every time I attend any occasion with him. He thinks I'm ashamed to dress up and I'm too ostentatious. In short, there is no word' appreciation' in his dictionary. " Sighed far away.
People don't enter marriage just to look at each other, and each other feels bad about each other; But hand in hand.
If he can't even satisfy your little hobbies and even understand your little dreams, how can he be happy all his life?
The journey of happiness needs accurate love map navigation.
John gotman, an American psychologist and marriage pope, put forward the concept of "love map" in his book Happy Marriage:
The place in your brain where all the information about your spouse is stored, and the cognitive space created by husband and wife for marriage.
"Love map", in layman's terms, is your understanding and understanding of the details of your partner.
All happy journeys are guided by accurate love maps.
Only in this way can we walk into our partner's heart and move towards a smooth road to a happy marriage.
Just like whenever Huo Siyan asked Du Jiang if he still loved himself, Du Jiang always said, "I am a vulgar person, because of your beauty, I have no other personality attraction at all."
Just like Huo Siyan's suitcase is extremely messy, Du Jiang has cleanliness addiction, but he still thinks: "Different kinds of lifestyles are not more noble than the other, but everyone is used to this kind of life ... I will not take these things seriously in the future."
Just as Huo Siyan was too lazy to go back to the bedroom, Du Jiang took her back to the bedroom. ...
Every unhappy marriage has its own misfortune, and every happy marriage should have its own characteristics.
However, the background of mutual understanding, tolerance, support, appreciation and praise between husband and wife is indispensable and should not be diluted.
I hope the above words can encourage my readers.