Many girls told me this question. In fact, I think they are asking themselves: I swear to lose weight, or I can't resist the temptation of delicious food; I said early to bed and early to rise, but I still can't forget the short video of Tik Tok on my mobile phone. It's like asking a child: I agreed to study hard, but I failed the exam; Originally said to be diligent, but has been lazy? This is actually human nature. When he married you, he said he would love you for life, but he didn't betray you in the end? What should I do if my husband cheats?

Then why do you believe that he will break up with a third party now?

With such good self-control, he is not easy to cheat.

So _ So here comes the question. If the cheating man says that the third party is broken, should he believe it?

Yes, you shouldn't believe it, but pretend to believe it.

Different husbands have different psychological warfare when boys agree to break up with a third party. There are two kinds. The first kind: they really regret it and decide to choose a home, but sometimes they still can't help but want to meet, or the other person goes out to tolerate and cry, and he will be overwhelmed by personal heroism and feel sorry for the third party and guilty.

Although this kind of husband is having an affair, he is not heartless. If you two get divorced, neither of you will have a good life in the future, and he will also play a sincere role in you. This kind of man is a male god, soft-hearted and infatuated, but he can easily become warm-hearted if he is not careful. Their intimate boundaries are vague and they don't really like their daughter-in-law. They will never go back to active women. They are very hesitant, indecisive and clingy.

The second kind of boy who agrees to break up with a third party, the general idea is: first perfunctory, calm down here.

This kind of boy is more selfish and cruel than the first kind. They respect their own experience, how comfortable they are and how they come, and rarely consider what others think. When he thinks that the third party will really directly affect the income of his current divorce, he will give up decisively, even if it is useless to cry. But if the income of the third party with him is higher than the rights and interests with you, then _ you cry and take the children to commit suicide.

So I think it's really bad to agree to break up with a third party, but it's really bad to contact privately. At least it can prove that he is not a heartless person. He has done vicious things like not killing people or destroying bodies. It's just that you need to put a lot of thought into this war of attrition.

A husband who agreed to break up is actually a horrible boy. Just like quitting smoking and drinking, he will quit when he says, and he will be especially hard on himself and others when he is hard. He is cold-hearted, and a broken man will see it. Unfortunately, he will soon find a new substitute.

Naturally, what we are discussing now is not what kind of boy you meet, but what should we do?

The method is natural!

First: I said before, first of all, pretend to believe;

Step two, find out why he cheated. Another point of view is to find out the use value he must have in marriage, that is, where your use value belongs.

Indeed, even if the wife is extreme, the husband should have an affair or an affair.

But we will find that some people cheat, but they are not divorced. Someone is cheating, so ask for a divorce.

Because people are basically practical.

When the wife can't give her husband in all fields and can't give them any use value demand, he will give up decisively.

In other words, if you only have the use value of your child's mother in marriage, he is likely to find another woman to replace you.

But you also have other use values, such as good personality, stable working ability, good influence with his parents, especially good education for children, and some of your contacts have backstage management? Then _ now he is likely to come back after you find out about the affair and give you up reluctantly.

Then _ when we realize that our use value is very small, we should quickly fill our use value, improve our use value, and choose to firmly believe that he is broken with the third party.

Because at this time, it is very important that you still choose to believe him when you see him mutiny at home. Maybe he will be blatant, but he also feels guilty about the explosion.

Frankly speaking, this is also the criterion to consider whether a man is suitable for you to be with him.

If you choose to trust him, he doesn't feel guilty, but he is blatant. It only shows that this man didn't consider your experience. He is vicious and selfish. With a boy like that, he will never grow a real feeling of knowing each other and cherishing each other.

Observation, tracking and peeping are not the reasons why he chose to return.

He's really not worried about you because you caught the package software. He doesn't want to lose your usefulness when he comes back.

If you have no use value, you can't hang it on him.

Put this assumption on yourself. If a handsome, rich and caring man loves you and marries you after divorce, but your husband is nothing but the father of the child, how do you choose?

The third step, if you find that your use value at all levels is higher than your husband's market value, and you have undergone three to five months of psychological adjustment and dedication, and he is secretly contacting a third party, then _ you need him to write a marriage loyalty agreement, then take away his mobile phone, install _ monitoring in his car, and let him report his behavior anytime and anywhere for 24-hour supervision.

If he doesn't agree, I want a divorce.

Be tolerant first and then strictly control, give them a space to deal with their own problems, and let you consider his and your own space. When the conditions are ripe, he can't handle the messy relationship before you leave.

What should I do if my husband cheats? There is no need to convince such a boy who is not good at managing himself, unwilling to divorce, insatiable and hesitant.