1, let students know the misunderstandings that should be paid attention to when making friends, and eliminate confusion and get out of the misunderstandings through activities;

2. Feel the joy and happiness of life, treat everyone around you with a positive and optimistic heart, and be kind to every day of life.

Activity preparation:

1, the host signs up, determines two people, and writes the prologue and transition language;

2. Before the meeting, each student is required to collect and prepare the information about making friends with middle school students, choose freely, join the corresponding topic group and organize distribution.

Lecture materials;

3. The monitor on duty is responsible for arranging the site before the class meeting.

Activity flow:

Host 1: Looking forward to growing up, childhood passed unconsciously, and teenagers who entered middle school were inspired by the god of youth and gradually belonged.

Because of your "mature face".

Moderator 2: The figure with declining childishness shines with youthful brilliance and is full of youthful vitality.

Moderator 1: Young hearts churn with the tide of youth;

Moderator 2: Young hearts are tasting the taste of youth.

Moderator 1: In this rainy season, it brings us boys and girls excitement and surprise, as well as anxiety and trouble.

Moderator 2: In this colorful young age, there are more dreams and more hazy "love".

On the occasion of classmates, the class meeting between men and women with the theme of "We are all good friends" begins now.

Moderator 1: The main topic of today's theme class meeting is "getting out of the psychological misunderstanding of classmates' communication". Before the class meeting, according to the need, by

Students prepare questions and follow pre-designed procedures.

Moderator 2: Please ask the class teacher to speak first.

Class teacher: Students, I'm glad to see you grow up, but there are a lot of troubles during your growth. I let you go today.

The hot topic that students usually talk about-"classmate communication" is in front of you, and I believe you will handle it correctly. I just want everyone to say

Tell the truth in your heart. Let's leave the following time to the students.

(The group leaders put forward topics for collective discussion, and the group leaders summarized them on behalf of the group. )

Topic 1: Friendship is intimate, so we should not alienate ourselves.

Topic summary: Psychological compatibility is an important condition for establishing good interpersonal relationships, and one of the ways to promote psychological compatibility is to shorten the psychological distance between them.

From this perspective, psychological closeness is a good thing. However, extremes meet, and walking too close will make people uncomfortable. This is due to

Because in interpersonal communication, everyone wants to monopolize a certain space, which is called interpersonal space. Because it surrounds this person like a big bubble,

Therefore, some psychologists vividly call it "interpersonal bubble". If the distance is too close, "interpersonal bubbles will squeeze each other, and their independent demands will

If people are not satisfied, they will feel uncomfortable being harassed. It can be seen that on the one hand, people need to establish close relations with others, on the other hand,

Need a certain exclusive psychological space.

In daily study and life, many students used to have a good relationship. No matter what you do, you should go hand in hand, even if you go to the toilet, but the result is often good.

It didn't take long, or gradually alienated, or broke up in discord. As a result, some students complained that I was particularly kind to him. Why did he alienate me and betray me? In fact,

Where is this alienation and betrayal? To a large extent, the other party feels the "crowding" of the "interpersonal bubble" and wants to try to pull away a little, but

Once this attempt is not understood or even misunderstood by the other party, the result can be imagined. So distance is really a subtle thing, too far, isn't it?

Line, unable to communicate; It's too close, and it won't work. A proper distance can not only give both sides enough psychological freedom, but also make them feel comfortable.

But also can increase the aesthetic feeling of distance, thus making the relationship more harmonious.

How to be intimate and have a house Some people say that you must never be arrogant, because it gives people a feeling of disloyalty to friendship. But we can

Starting with adjusting the spatial distance, we can control the psychological distance closely related to it. Of course, the most important thing is to maintain a certain degree of independence in the daily activities of both parties.

Stand, I don't want to say what you say, do what I do. Cultivate more independence between friends and reduce some dependence; behaviour

If you are free physically, you will be free psychologically, and a sense of distance will be appropriate. A moderate distance will make people enjoy the happiness of friendship.

Topic 2: Friendship is harmonious and there should be no conflict-the relationship between classmates and friends should be harmonious, but what if there is conflict?

Topic summary: Conflicts in classmates' communication cannot be totally negated, but should be treated dialectically. If conflict is really inevitable, then it's simple.

Let it erupt naturally, happily and healthily. I believe the sky will be bluer and the sun will be brighter after the rain. If you have to keep reporting,

Inevitably, that "boil" can't get out, and friendship will only gradually become moldy.

Conflict is not terrible. Terrible is that when a conflict occurs, we may hurt our friends because we can't control our emotions and keep a clear head.

Love. In this regard, we must bear in mind a principle, in the face of each other's sudden words and deeds, we should not answer blows with blows, but should adopt an understanding attitude.

And tolerant attitude, control emotions, let wisdom dominate words and deeds, let kindness dominate wisdom, be kind to each other and resolve contradictions.

Topic 3: I have a vague feeling about him (her)-puppy love is a common phenomenon on campus today. How to face it?

deal with

Topic summary: Middle school is the period of laying the foundation, and there is no orientation for what kind of career to engage in in in the future. For every middle school student, the future life path is still

For a long time, it is difficult to predict what occupation and where everyone will work in the future. As time goes by, life changes.

Everyone's thoughts and feelings will change constantly. The vows of eternal love in middle school often cannot stand the severe test of real life, and the puppy love in middle school is ten

Nine times out of ten, you can't bear the sweet fruit of love, but the bitter wine of life.

Puppy love among middle school students is often intense and vague. The reasons for falling in love are often extremely simple and have no solid ideological foundation, such as being influenced by others.

Driven by the curiosity and mystery of the opposite sex; Some judge people by their appearance and are attracted by each other's appearance and demeanor; Have a plenty of envy each other's knowledge and talents.

Yes; Some people have a good impression on each other because of accidental meeting, and so on. Puppy love among middle school students is like sailing in the sea without a compass and rudder.

The danger of hitting the rocks and sinking lurks at any time.

Therefore, you can actively participate in some cultural and sports activities, cultivate your own reading interest, cultivate healthy interest, and develop hobbies and specialties in these activities.

Make the surplus "youth energy" get beneficial and effective use; You can also promote mutual understanding between students of the opposite sex in various activities and learn how to respect each other.

Pay attention to the opposite sex and learn the basic etiquette and ability to get along with the opposite sex; If you don't know how to deal with love letters, you can consult a mental health teacher.

Or talk to your trusted teachers and ask them to help you with your ideas.

Teacher in charge of the class: Students, this activity was very successful, and almost all the students became small experts in mental health research. Just now, the students just

The discussion about "three psychological problems in students' communication" is very pertinent and reasonable. I think students should understand the fact that in middle school.

It is an era when personal and interpersonal relationships are relatively simple. During this period, the objects of students' interpersonal relationships are mainly parents, teachers, peers and people.

There are few direct conflicts of interest between countries. If every student at this time can treat others with a natural, frank, equal and friendly attitude, he will be reasonable.

Understand the emotional needs of others, respect the rights and interests of others, sincerely praise, criticize and help others, and we will certainly be able to maintain and develop together with others.

Develop a harmonious relationship, and get the pleasure of friendship and life from it.

Topic: The times need a healthy mind.

Teaching purpose:

1. Let students understand the importance of healthy and perfect psychology to people's growth and life;

2. Understand what kind of healthy psychology a high school student should have;

3. Learn how to face troubles and setbacks, and know the importance of cherishing and loving life.

Content and form:

1. Prose with Music: Cherish Life (read aloud by Lu XX and Fang XX). See attachment 1.

In view of the phenomenon of young students committing suicide, students should find relevant cases and show them in the form of programs, so that everyone can understand the meaning of life and help students know, cherish, respect and love life.

Two. See Annex II (performance by 6 people including Ge XX) for the content of humorous jokes.

In life, humor is something we can meet anytime and anywhere, and it will be used when we communicate with people. What gives us the greatest happiness and frees us from pain is humor. Humor is what we know the least and often ignore. Humor and laughter are a kind of latent instinct of human beings and a part of human nervous tissue, which have specific physiological and psychological functions. Humor and laughter are unique and universal functional phenomena of human beings, which are beneficial to physical health, maintain psychological and physiological balance and give people a relaxed and happy feeling. Through this project, students' survival skills and quality of life can be improved.

Three. Student forum: How to face setbacks and failures (see Annex III)

Three students talk about how to face setbacks and failures through their personal experiences. Because the students have just taken the senior high school entrance examination, they have a lot of feelings about this issue. By asking everyone to write "How to face setbacks and failures" in advance, and selecting three representative examples, students can further learn the methods and skills to deal with setbacks and learn the crisis intervention skills to deal with mental trauma.

4. Music and emotion: (introduced by Dong XX, member of the Literary and Art Committee)

Music to promote sleep includes: Mozart's "lullaby"; A midsummer night's dream; Two springs reflect the moon; Autumn moon in Pinghu

Music to dispel drowsiness: the fourth movement of Beethoven's pastoral

When appetite is stimulated: Mozart's divertimento

When you are tired: Haydn Suite "Water Music"

When you are blue: Mozart's Symphony No.40 in B minor

Verb (abbreviation of verb) saxophone solo "Go Home" Player: Dong XX

Six, health tips: (1) the quality of the winner.

(2) Healthy and perfect psychology

(3) the role of self-confidence

7. Game: Psychological Q&A (conducted by representatives selected by each group led by Lu XX and Yao XX, with the aim of letting each student experience the ubiquitous knowledge of mental health).

Eight, guitar playing and singing: the days of our lives Performer: Jin XX

Postscript:

In the process of preparing the materials for the theme class meeting, the students learned a lot about mental health under the guidance and guidance of the teacher. At the same time, in the rehearsal of sketches and jokes, in the preparation of talking about feelings and introducing relevant knowledge, some students who are usually unhappy and some introverted students have been exercised and become cheerful; It also exercised students' abilities in all aspects and received unexpected results. In order to consolidate the achievements, we will hold a series of class meetings with the theme of "cherishing ourselves, respecting others, caring for the vulnerable groups", "cherishing the family, attaching importance to friendship and loving the collective" and so on.

"Respect nature and develop a simple attitude towards life" will make students think about life and death, explore the ultimate concern of life, and aspire to be a healthy generation full of vigor, wisdom and pursuit of life ideals, thus truly playing the role of mental health education.

Location: indoors

Formal methods: discussion, games

The goal of the class meeting: to assume "responsibility" today and achieve "ideal" tomorrow.

Class meeting operation demonstration:

1. Opening: The head teacher introduced the management, service institutions and service contents of mental health education in our school. Make students master the methods of psychological help.

2, small game: oral whispers (I have walked to the station in the morning and found it a bit cloudy, like it is going to rain soon. I don't trust. I was afraid of rain, so I went back and got an umbrella. I didn't expect it to be sunny again Start with the first person and whisper to the last person in the group, then ask the students to talk about their feelings.

The purpose of this exercise is to understand how truth becomes illusion; The longer the propagation path, the greater the distortion. Therefore, if you want to know the truth, you must not listen to hearsay; Everyone who sends and receives information is responsible for ensuring the accuracy of the information. )

3. Organize discussion:

Origin: In September, a large number of new faces appeared on the university campus, but not all of these young faces were smiling. It may be because there is something wrong with the examination room, it may be because of mistakes in volunteering, or there may be other reasons. Although some people walk into the university, they feel that they are in the wrong place-this is not their ideal school! Many students have a very obvious (inner conflict): "I like going to college, but I don't like my university, because it can't compare with Huda, Central South University, Peking University, Tsinghua and other famous schools." The resulting problems are: lowering self-expectation and lacking learning motivation.

What shall we do? How shall we spend our college life in the next few years?

3. 1 How to solve the contradiction of "I like going to college, but I don't like my own university"?

3.2 Why don't so many students study hard?

3.3 You give yourself reasons, but do you believe in the reasons in life?

3.4 What's the difference between us and our classmates in Tsinghua, Peking University?

3.5 Is the difference between students in Peking University and Tsinghua irreversible?

3.6 What are the advantages of our school?

3.7 How can I make myself responsible for myself from now on?

4, the class teacher do summary guidance:

Life does not believe in reasons, and growth depends on efforts here and now.

No matter how many mistakes he made in the past, as long as he is willing to seize the present and draw resources from the past mistakes that are conducive to his future growth, he can create a virtuous circle for himself, which not only avoids the distress of "young people don't work hard", but also fully meets his needs for growth and development.

Precautions:

[Class meeting operation demonstration] is for reference only. Under the premise of not violating the theme of the activity, each college can design a variety of theme class meetings suitable for its own characteristics.

The second theme class meeting

Theme: One small step to accept yourself and one big step to be confident in life.

Time: April 16-April 30, 2006.

Location: indoor or outdoor

Formal methods: discussion, games

Class meeting goal: No matter what my present situation is, I choose to respect the uniqueness of my life.

Class meeting operation demonstration:

The game before the class meeting: "Choice in the case of shipwreck in the ice sea" Facing the shipwreck in the ice sea, the only lifeboat can only accommodate three people. At that time, there were 10 people on board, namely: singers, movie stars, doctors, students, the elderly, children, Miss World, scientists, soldiers and athletes. Please choose which three people to stay and give reasons. Do it twice, the first time: regardless of roles. The second time: everyone is assigned to play a tenant role. Let the students discuss every time they finish.

Highlights of this activity: Everyone is very important.

Origin: In the process of psychological counseling, we found that on the surface, young students now have a high evaluation of themselves, but if we go deep into their hearts, we will find that their evaluation of themselves always swings between the two extremes of inferiority and conceit, especially to the point of inferiority. A person always blames himself and dares not make demands on himself because of lack of self-acceptance; A person always complains about others and can't accept others. Its root lies in his lack of self-acceptance. And a person can be kind not only to himself, but also to others. The key is that he can accept himself So this theme class meeting was designed.

The head teacher made the opening remarks: Self-acceptance is an important feature of a healthy personality. But students who have experienced strict control will ask: Will self-acceptance lead to self-abandonment? Isn't it a family of its own? The traditional educational model makes us good at self-blame and not good at acceptance. Accustomed to investigating my own shortcomings, I gradually learned to look at myself critically. ...

1, How to understand self-acceptance Self-acceptance is an inherent right of human beings, and it is not necessary to have outstanding advantages, achievements or make changes that others want to be accepted.

2. How many people can accept themselves?

3. Will self-acceptance hinder growth? Previous consulting experience tells us that many students have a misunderstanding, fearing that self-acceptance will keep them from making progress, and even think that self-acceptance equals self-abandonment.

4. Effective ways to achieve self-acceptance.

4. 1 Stop opposing yourself. Tell everyone: "stop opposing yourself" means stopping your dissatisfaction and criticism. No matter how many inappropriate things you think you have done and how many shortcomings you have, stop criticizing and blaming yourself from now on, and learn to stand in your own position and safeguard the dignity and value of your life.

4.2 Stop demanding yourself. Specifically: allow yourself to make mistakes, but do the following two things after making mistakes:

4.2. 1 Make compensation to make up for the losses caused by your own fault;

4.2.2 Never fail, that is, never make mistakes twice.

4.3 Stop denying or escaping your negative emotions.

4.4 Accept yourself unconditionally

Please discuss how to not only accept, but also grow better.

The advice for everyone is:

5. 1 Treat your weaknesses and mistakes with a constructive attitude and method.

5.2 Try to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and don't learn from each other unless absolutely necessary.

6. The class teacher makes a summary and guidance: If we can learn to accept ourselves sincerely, we will naturally accept others.