Workplace rumors and coping skills 1
1, stay calm
Gossip is inevitable in the workplace, but don't go on the rampage and make a scene in front of it. This will not only help, but will leave your boss with a bad impression of impatience and lack of concentration. Rumors are by no means groundless, so calm down and find the source and solution. Remember, it is much better to keep smiling and calm in the face of rumors than to cry and beat your chest.
Step 2 ask for support
Laughing at rumors alone, although showing an open side, will leave you in a helpless situation after all. Taking the initiative to attack, seeking support and winning the vast majority of alliances is the way to completely defeat rumors. It should be pointed out that in addition to actively seeking support from superiors, it is also extremely important to seek support downwards. The boss always refers to the opinions of subordinates when facing rumors, and the opinions of subordinates sometimes play a role of keeping his mouth shut.
Step 3 reflect on yourself
Flies don't bite seamless eggs. Is it really related to what you did wrong? If you are really unfair, unkind, or even do something against your conscience, you might as well admit your mistakes and correct them face to face, seek public understanding and support, and let the rumors cool down or die out.
4. Attack its defects
The so-called rumors are generally fabricated by others. After tying up your own fence, you can take the initiative to attack and drive away rumors. Gossip is most afraid of truth and sunshine. Putting out the facts and the truth and opening the door to talk will give it a fatal blow.
5. Give up the disadvantages
Most workplace gossip is more or less associated with the word profit, which is hard to separate. If you give up small profits or stay out of profits, you can effectively avoid rumors. Of course, the abandonment here is an effective abandonment, and it is to retreat. Otherwise, it will fall into the trap of the rumor monger, and the loss will outweigh the gain.
Tips for dealing with workplace gossip;
Stay out of it.
As the saying goes, it takes two hands to make a sound. Gossip is often created by malicious people, or exaggerates the facts. Sometimes the more you explain things, the more complicated they are, and you simply don't explain them. Since it is a rumor, it will be untenable sooner or later. The so-called rumor ends with the wise. Failure to explain is the biggest counterattack against rumors.
Prove yourself
Prove that you are not for gossip, but for your own work. Many people spread rumors, often because of ridicule and jealousy. For example. If you are the least experienced and youngest manager, you will certainly be dissatisfied with many senior managers as soon as you take office. It is normal to have all kinds of gossip and contemptuous laughter at this time. What you have to do is to work hard silently, because for a young and inexperienced manager, your competitors will not treat you as a rookie at all, which is the best chance to overtake.
Use humor
If you often have your own gossip in the office, congratulations, because you are very important among your colleagues. If we come to the company early in the morning, we will be insulted and slandered by our colleagues, and we can also smile. We should take a step back and think, how could she do this? Oh, it turns out that her sales performance in recent months is so poor that she didn't sleep well last night, which is understandable.
Workplace rumors and coping skills II
Don't spread rumors.
If there are rumors in the office, there will be trouble. If you survive this incident, make a detached and irrelevant gesture. Don't join in the fun and eventually become the target of public criticism. Because there are more people who pick things up, the situation will inevitably become more and more serious, not to mention the rumors will only spread more and more. Those who make and spread rumors must have ulterior motives. Unfortunately, those who were followed by the spread became innocent accomplices, and even accidentally made themselves real murderers and were spurned by everyone.
Jean is a receptionist, and everything in the company cannot escape her eyes and ears. Naive, she always thinks that people who know more about the company are very popular, so she especially likes to make rumors with others. But once things got serious and the company's top management began to investigate, Jean became an out-and-out scapegoat. Several people pointed out that the rumor was made public, and as a result, I lost my job. People who are close to rumors in real life are easily approached by rumors, so the best way to protect themselves is to resolutely not fight rumors, and rumors stop with wise people. This is a fact.
Remember to be careful what you say.
Misfortune comes from the mouth. That's the old man's motto. Watch your mouth, maybe you can stop the initial inspiration of the rumor from the beginning. Some companies use shuttle buses to transport employees to work. Kathy from the customer service department likes to chat at home on the shuttle bus. Unconsciously, she vividly told the story of how to fight with her mother-in-law, and the whole class listened with relish, because the female colleague found an example: how to fight with her mother-in-law.
But I don't know. I didn't mean to listen. When Kathy might be considered for promotion, a story about a bad daughter-in-law came out of the office. Although it has nothing to do with work, she has a good reason for promotion: even her mother-in-law dares to do it. Will such people be friendly to colleagues? Kathy naively thought that her honesty would win everyone's favor, so she broke the news about her mother-in-law. Unexpectedly, parents' short time on the shuttle bus turned out to be a stumbling block to their future career development, which made Cathy realize that it is very important to keep her mouth shut and never discover the material for the sake of spreading rumors.
Rational and calm response to rumors
In case one day you are still unfortunately hit by rumors, you must calm down. Calm down is a skill to cultivate your patience. Many news makers want one thing: to make you anxious and dizzy. If you can't even calm down, you have made those people achieve their goals. Therefore, when there is a rumor, what you can do is to calm down and analyze the disadvantages brought by this rumor. Some rumors are full of contradictions and can't stand the test of time. There is no need to make a big fight to clarify them. Let time clear your name. But some rumors are very offensive, so you must find a boss who trusts you and tell him all the evidence that proves your innocence, and he will contribute to you. Never take the initiative to attack your imaginary opponent, which may involve innocence and exaggerate the situation. When Dany was sent to Shanghai from Beijing headquarters, many people said that she got a good Offer from hue. Dany didn't get angry and ignored those rumors. The first task she set for herself is to get familiar with the environment and new business in Shanghai as soon as possible. As a result, such rumors went away within three months, because Dany's later reserve and persistence in love made everyone understand that the previous rumors were only caused by jealousy.
Keep a low profile, so that the backstabber can't find the north.
People who are shot in the back in the office are usually those who are too high-profile. Because your high-profile has affected other people's emotions and even the original harmonious atmosphere, and may even inadvertently cause danger to the survival of others. In order to save themselves, talents began to play tricks behind their backs. I remember Shirley just changed her job as project director. In order to show her super ability, she immediately became angry three times when she took office: changing the original work team combination, all external documents were authorized by her to sign, reducing travel expenses ... colleagues who have been used to a work model for many years can't accept this move at once, which affects their work mood and clearly shows that Shirley has the purpose of asking for credit. So before long, her three core backbones jointly wrote to the general manager's office: If she goes her own way, we will resign collectively! This move was so effective that Shirley was called by the general manager to make a training plan. If I had known this, Shirley shouldn't have acted in such a high-profile way.
Leave room for yourself in everything.
Actually, there's nothing serious in the office. To put it bluntly, many contradictions and right and wrong are caused by some short-term interests, such as promotion and salary increase, human relations, welfare distribution and so on. So to say the least, we will not be robbed of our goodwill by these so-called interests. It's good to have a goal, but you can't push others to the wall for your own benefit, so maybe you won't create an opportunity to stab yourself in the back. Those who win people's hearts win the world, especially those who want to make progress in the workplace. Don't step on others' shoulders and go up. Even if they make such a leap by accident, remember those who have helped themselves. Gratitude is a bridge between people's hearts. Cindy's story is the best example. She used to be a regional manager, but later she was appointed as the Asia-Pacific business director because of her business ability. Because of frequent contact with the headquarters, she began to become a red man in this region, and she has great momentum to surpass the boss in the Asia-Pacific region. She also showed incomplete respect for her boss many times, which angered her boss who had promoted her, and finally she was demoted in a reorganization opportunity. Cindy regretted it afterwards. If she had been more mature, she wouldn't have ended up like this. Be kind and suitable for the workplace.
A thorn with a strong backing that bends the back
If you are careful everywhere, you will still find an arrow in the back. Then the best way is to build a strong backing for yourself and never be afraid of any backbiting. In the office, the best backing is a supportive team and a beautiful report card. Don't be naive to think that with the support of your boss, you can resist the backstabbing. The boss has his bottom line and contribution range, so only one boss is not enough to be your shield safely, so you'd better have a team. This team can be composed of your boss, your subordinates, your customers, your suppliers and your partners. Their joint efforts can help you avoid a lot of trouble, which is why some companies have to do 360-degree evaluation. Of course, you have to show something, and those who create value have the opportunity to stand on an invincible mountain. To put it bluntly, you need someone to support you in the office, otherwise you will be easily eliminated. But don't forget, when someone needs your backing, don't be stingy with your meager strength, otherwise there will be no next time.
Extension: workplace survival skills;
Learn to play dumb.