First of all, seize the opportunities in life and guide children to try to learn self-control. Nowadays, many parents rely on "electronic nannies"-mobile phones, pads, computers and so on. Once a child touches it, it is difficult to control it. Ningxia suggested that parents might as well take this opportunity to create "self-control" for their children-contact is ok, but it must be agreed in advance, "for example, point to the number on the clock and agree on a specific end time. This method is very effective for preschool children. After several times, most children can consciously control their time. A few children who can't, even if their parents take the equipment away, won't cry as before. "
Secondly, we should "slim down" the game area and reduce "goodwill" interference. Many families have specially set up a room or an area as a children's play area, which is filled with all kinds of toys. But the reality is that children often pick up a toy and play with it a few times, then throw it aside and play with others immediately. Ningxia advises parents to "slim down" the game area and put only one or two children's toys at a time to facilitate concentration. Many parents, especially grandparents, like to ask "Are you hungry", "Are you hot" and "Do you want to go to the toilet" when their children are reading books and playing games. This kind of "kindness" interruption is often not conducive to the cultivation of children's attention.
Third, carry out positive family interaction to improve children's sense of participation, thus stimulating children's internal learning motivation and interest. Attention has the functions of selection, maintenance and adjustment. People tend to focus on what they are interested in at an early age, which requires parents to accompany, pay attention to, observe and discover their children's daily interests, or participate in games and share with their children, and use specific language to affirm and strengthen their positive qualities such as "concentration" and "persistence". The effect of this method is often better than traditional mandatory language such as "listening carefully"
Fourth, in order to make children concentrate on listening, parents should first watch and listen more. A child just left school and saw his mother or grandmother at the school gate. He ran excitedly and said, "Mom/Grandma/Grandma, have you seen me?" Before I finished, my mother/grandmother took out the towel or paper towel that had been prepared early: "Look at your sweat, it's so hot!" " "Talking," do you want to drink water? Mom also brought cookies? "After adults have done a series of actions in the name of love, children have long forgotten the interesting things to share with their mothers. Ningxia said that many parents have such a common problem, they don't listen carefully to their children's expressions, and they have a heavy "coping" mentality, which can neither meet their emotional needs nor help them concentrate on listening. For children, it is better to give them a kind of love than a family education. Only when children really feel that their families are trying to understand themselves can they feel respect, understanding and care in such equal interaction.