It is worth noting that sometimes it is necessary to polish your eyes, distinguish the object and grasp the scale. Although we should be sensible, we should not lose ourselves, especially emotionally. Being sensible requires a certain bottom line. Why do women work harder when they are more sensible?
Because women are too sensible, paying too much will be considered justified, so they will not be respected and cherished.
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Before she got married, Nini was the planning manager of the company, and her husband was engaged in the sales of decoration companies. Their jobs are different in nature, and Nini works much harder than her husband. Husband is the kind of inconsiderate person, and Nini is responsible for all housework or trivial matters in life. But Nini loves him to the bone.
Nini always thinks too perfectly of her husband and is good at making many excuses for her husband's thoughtlessness. For example, he is too tired and stressed. I'm just in a bit of a hurry to do these things by myself.
On holidays, Nini will buy holiday gifts for her in-laws. She thinks that all these things should be done by herself. She also thinks that both her husband and in-laws can feel their thoughtfulness, but they don't need to be grateful, as long as they can love each other.
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To Nini's surprise, after getting married, all the housework fell directly on her. No matter how much Nini doesn't want to get up in the morning, she always cooks breakfast for her family. Nini had to work overtime and came home in a mess. The dirty dishes and chopsticks in the kitchen were staggered. Not only did no one ask Nini if she had dinner, but Nini had to clean up the mess when she changed clothes.
Nini didn't say much at first. The husband told himself that his mother worked hard to make Nini filial. Nini also thinks that her mother-in-law will do more when she is old, so that she can have a comfortable old age as much as possible.
However, this kind of pay, not only did not get her husband's love and understanding, but felt that this was what Nini should do as a daughter-in-law. Nini told her husband that she was very tired and asked him to share some housework. Her husband replied:
These are not what you have been doing, so why do you feel so hard now? Isn't that what you should do in itself? ?
Nini actually had a lot to say, but she didn't say anything in order not to ruin her feelings.
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Nini is really one of the best wives. Nowadays, many young people don't live with the elderly, and few can cook. Nini really deserves to be evaluated according to the virtue of China's daughter-in-law. For this feeling and for loving my husband, I think it is worthwhile to pay and work hard. Now, I feel deeply wronged.
Nini's mistake is that from the beginning, she was too considerate and one-way, and trained a man into a shopkeeper of cutting and her mother-in-law into a person who didn't want to be reasonable. Let both husband and mother-in-law feel that what they are doing is taken for granted.
Nini's misunderstanding of feelings is that she is always too sensible and has been exchanging her one-way pay for so-called happiness.
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As a girl, being sensible and virtuous is a woman's virtue. Because of love, she is willing to compromise, but there is no bottom line. If all this is done under her own overload, is it too hard on herself?
You can be kind and sensible, but you need to be sharp, especially emotionally. These are mutual. If a person's kindness and understanding are used to present the so-called happiness, it is only the kidnapping of selfish people for being too kind and moral.
It is right for two people who love each other to love each other, but everything I am willing to do for you because I love you is wrong. These are mutual.
If one person pays for another person without limit, and the other person enjoys it endlessly, such feelings are unequal.
True love is mutual love and respect, and the feelings that one pays in one direction are not love. Know how to love yourself before you love others. In feelings, the more sensible a woman is, the more tired she lives.