What is the pattern? Literally means format and layout, but a deep understanding of the pattern reflects a person's mind, vision, courage and way of doing things.

Girl, it is very important to improve your own pattern, because a real pattern person never wastes time on unnecessary people and things, and she knows when and what to do.

Mode will determine every step of your growth.

Girls with large patterns are self-motivated, self-motivated, rich in heart and know what they want.

The life of a woman with a big pattern is interesting, because everything she sees is beautiful, and you will find it easy and interesting to get along with such people.

Girls with a large pattern are generous when things go wrong, don't care about gains and losses, don't haggle over every ounce, and have an inclusive heart.

Girls with big patterns know how to let go. The past you have experienced is only a part of your life memory, not a stumbling block to your progress. Those who learn to let go will have a better future.

Having said that, as a girl, how can I improve my situation?

1. Learning, life is a process of continuous learning.

There is a saying in the Queen's class: "As long as you are still studying, there are infinite possibilities in life."

The meaning of hard work is to make yourself better today than you were yesterday.

Think about how long it's been since we left school. How can a person improve himself if he doesn't learn new skills, is content with the status quo and only repeats himself in the past without making progress?

You study hard, not to compare your grades with others, but to have the right to choose a meaningful and time-consuming job in the future, instead of being forced to make a living.

Learning means having the right to choose and decide your own life.

Being able to choose the life path you want to take will also improve your pattern. While enjoying the quality of life, your life pattern will continue to expand.

Learning is not only learning knowledge, but also learning various abilities, talents and skills to adapt to society.

Learning, no matter when you start, is never too late. A woman who loves to learn shines all over.

Just like the colored lead painting class I signed up for before, one of my classmates is a 78-year-old aunt who lives in a nursing home. In addition to painting, she also rehearses programs and writes plays with others in the nursing home, unlike the monotonous life of old people of the same age. Her daily life is rich and colorful.

When I took my driving test, a group of me also had a 68-year-old aunt. Many people will say, what kind of driver's license should I take at the age of 68? Learn what car? But even if she did, she passed her driver's license. At the same time, there is an additional driving skill.

Madame Curie once said: "you 17 years old are not beautiful, and you can blame your mother for not inheriting good looks;" But if you are not beautiful at the age of 30, you have only yourself to blame, because in such a long day, you have not injected anything new into your life. "

Keep learning, inject fresh blood into life and make life glow.

2. Reading, all the books you read are hidden in your temperament.

Reading is also part of learning.

Many times, when I see other people's ideas gushing, I can't write a word when I start writing. This is the difference between reading more and reading less.

Dong Qing said: I always believe that all the books I have read will not be read in vain, which will always help me to perform better on a certain occasion in the future.

The reason why she can be such an excellent host has a lot to do with her reading and love of reading.

Calm down and read a book, which can make you more awake while studying.

No matter what books you read, if you spare some time to study every day, you will always gain something.

Reading can enrich people, broaden their horizons, cultivate sentiment, improve their ideological realm and cultivate their temperament. Walking on Wan Li Road and reading thousands of books, any book, is the world view in others' eyes and our own experience. Therefore, by reading, we can quickly accept the experience of others.

Recommended books for girls:

(1) World famous books seem useless, and reading too much can also increase girls' accomplishment.

For example, a dream of red mansions, gone with the wind, Jane Eyre and so on.

(2) Emotional books, women are naturally emotional, so it is necessary to learn some emotional skills. How to enjoy love, deal with the confusion in love, and love and be loved better.

(3) Business books, exercise thinking ability, learn financial management and investment are necessary.

(4) Skills books are especially important for women who belong to office workers.

(5) Aesthetics is a skill for aesthetic books. With the improvement of aesthetic ability, one's temperament will be improved accordingly.

San Mao once said, "If you read more, your appearance will naturally change. Many times, you may think that many books you have read are gone, but they are still in your potential temperament, in your speech, in your boundless mind, and in the words you have written. "

3. Improve your own pattern, while staying away from people with small patterns and getting close to people with large patterns.

People with small patterns are narrow-minded, short-sighted and lack subjective judgment.

People with small patterns often fall into the present and can't see a broader future, just like frogs at the bottom of a well, thinking that the sky above them is the whole world.

People with small patterns always see the negative side of things, amplify their negative side through their own ideas, complain and transmit negative energy.

If girls want to improve their situation, they must stay away from these people.

Getting along with people is more like a magnetic field. Good and bad will spread directly. People with small patterns are like negative magnetic fields, but people with large patterns can make you feel positive energy all the time.

In life, the bigger a person's pattern, the more he knows how to constantly break through himself, so that his life will develop in a better direction, and his contacts with such people will be positively affected and his horizons will be broadened.

On the other hand, people with small patterns tend to focus on immediate self-interest, like to care, fear failure, love to shirk responsibility, do not make progress, and take a resigned attitude towards life. Such people are not worth making friends with, so you should know how to avoid them when meeting.

Being an exquisite woman is also the key to improving the pattern.

I wrote an article about how girls become exquisite before. You can refer to my previous article, Amway's is very detailed.

Let's give you a brief summary. To be a delicate girl, you need to change your whole body.

1. Lose weight and exercise

Never underestimate the changes that losing weight will bring to your whole body and appearance. Losing weight requires self-discipline in diet and exercise, and persistence. If a person can make a determined effort to lose weight, then nothing can be difficult to get her.

2. Make-up and skin care

Looks are born, you can't choose! But if you let yourself go because you are not satisfied, it is irresponsible for yourself. The maintenance of the day after tomorrow is very important. Only lazy women have no ugly women, and your image can be changed through your diligence.

3. Temperament and dress

Some women are not outstanding, but her temperament can surprise you. Temperament is a wonderful thing, I can't say it clearly, but it is really irresistible from itself. In addition to years of experience, dressing style can also change your temperament, and choosing the one that suits you is the most important.

4. Changes in living habits

Some small details in life, including the sense of ritual I have been talking about, are the best for people who live with their hearts.

5. Establish a correct outlook on life and love.

Outlook on life, values and world outlook, as a person with a big pattern, should establish correct three views.

The outlook on life determines a person's living standard, the world outlook determines a person's way of thinking, and also determines a person's outlook on life and values.

These are difficult to explain clearly in a few words here.

I remember reading what others wrote, and the three views of not falsifying and not harming people are all correct. With this standard, we can compare our previous ideas, get rid of the paranoia that may exist in our thoughts, and thus establish a correct three views.

Everyone has a different lifestyle. Although everything is free, remember not to touch the bottom line and not to infringe on the interests of others.

There is a saying that you should be calm before you love others.

My understanding is that when you know how to love someone, you must be mature enough.

Love in youth is impulsive but beautiful, really from the heart, without considering more factors. With the growth of age and experience, love will be mixed with some other factors. Love for the purpose of marriage should consider the family of both parties and the occupation of the other party, including real estate. This is not snobbery but reality.

The so-called suitable marriage can last, that's all.

1. Since you love, you should be faithful and don't chop and change.

2. If you don't love, let go and don't pester.

Love a person and don't get involved in other people's families.

4. Trust each other, learn from each other's strengths and make progress together.

Even if you are lovelorn, don't be depressed all the time, lovelorn is not the end of the world.

In fact, love and marriage occupy a large part of a woman's life, but for a woman, she should not be defined by these definitions, she should have her own sky.

Girls can clearly understand their views on love and marriage, and their life planning and development will be different.

Having said so much, I wonder if it will help you.

To put it bluntly, improving a person's pattern means improving a person's cognitive level and thinking ability.

A girl knows exactly what she wants, and then fights for it.

Find your own strength, overcome your fears and cowardice, and become the person you want to be.

I hope we can all be our best selves.