Bridal money and dowry, since ancient times, it has been a custom for men and women in China to get married. Men pay bride money to women, and women should bring dowry when they enter the door. Although this ancient tradition has been eroded by time in some areas, it is still popular in Quanzhou in southern Fujian.
Most areas in Quanzhou advocate that the amount of dowry paid by the man and the amount of dowry paid by the woman should exceed. However, in the atmosphere of ostentation and pride, the amount of dowry has risen rapidly, and the popular saying is that the dowry cannot be less than 654.38+0.5 million. This phenomenon is even more outrageous in economically developed areas such as Jinjiang and Shishi. It is said that the dowry of women in these places is at least twice that of men, so it is not surprising to pay hundreds of thousands, millions or even tens of millions of dowry.
It is said that the highest dowry record of women in southern Fujian is set according to the standard of 6.5438+million-a Mercedes-Benz 320, a BMW 725, six shops facing the street, cash of 6.5438+0.5 million, and US$ 6.5438+0.5 million, and other sets of the most luxurious and fashionable furniture and appliances are ignored.
"You send less, will be looked down upon by others. If you send more families, you can't afford it. The problem of employment funds is bothering us. " Li Yang said. In fact, because of high salary and dowry, many tragedies have been caused.
It is reported that Chen Dai has a family who married a daughter-in-law. When they got engaged, they gave her several hundred thousand yuan as a dowry by usury, but when they got married, the woman did not return the dowry in full according to the marriage custom. At the wedding, the man's mother knew and fainted on the spot.
On the other hand, the woman pays the wages of family factory workers with the salary of hundreds of thousands of men, and it is impossible to have a high dowry to marry him. Both marriages ended in discord.
Look at his wedding bill.
Characters: the groom Li Yang and the bride Chen Yan.
(excluding buying a house, dowry, dowry)
Decoration of new house (calculated by 90 square meters of wedding room): Simple decoration costs about 30,000 yuan.
Household appliances: LCD TV, refrigerator, washing machine, etc. Total 14500 yuan.
Furniture: bed, wardrobe, living room cupboard, sofa, etc. Total 1 1000 yuan.
Wedding photography: mass consumption, 3500 yuan.
Wedding ring: the woman's diamond ring is more than 6000 yuan, and the man's ring is more than 3000 yuan, 10000 yuan.
Wedding dress: the bride's dress, shoes and accessories are 3500 yuan, and the groom's suit and shoes are 2000 yuan, totaling 5500 yuan.
Household and bedding: 2500 yuan.
Wedding car rental: provided by the main wedding car hotel, 6 auxiliary wedding cars Passat, totaling 2400 yuan.
Such as candy, such as cigarettes and so on. : 5000 yuan
Bride pre-marital care (slimming, beauty, etc.). ): 1000 yuan.
Wedding banquet layout (camera, hotel layout, etc. ): four thousand yuan
Wedding reception: 36 tables, each table 1000 yuan, totaling 36,000 yuan.
The total * * * is1.2000 yuan, and this does not include the red envelopes of relatives and friends, the hospitality of rooms and distant guests.
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Miss Wang, a company employee
This house belongs to my husband. It was renovated before, only adding some furniture is enough, and the total cost is about 18000 yuan. The biggest expense is the wedding banquet. According to the standard of each table in 800 yuan, because there are many good classmates and friends coming from other places, I have to arrange hotels for them, which is also a big expense, so the expenses on the wedding day are about 30,000-40,000 yuan. Followed by the wedding dress, which cost 4000 yuan. Necklace and wedding ring, although bought in an acquaintance's shop, cost 10000 yuan. Other expenses, such as wedding floats, are borrowed from friends. The wedding car is decorated around 300 yuan. Wedding candy is only 1000 yuan per package 10 yuan. Other purchases of new clothes, dresses and furniture are negligible. As for the engagement fee, because both parents don't care much, it's not much, and the equal transaction between men and women will offset it, so the whole fee is between 70 thousand and 80 thousand.
Groom Li Yang:
The cost of 1.2 million yuan is basically within the budget. To tell the truth, people's living standards have improved, there are more kinds of goods, and prices have also gone up. It's not expensive to have a wedding at this price. It's basically middle class. Fortunately, our husband and wife are very civilized and don't care so much about face, so there is no contradiction because of the amount of engagement money. In fact, we are opposed to comparison marriage and sky-high marriage. We can't afford luxury weddings. Most expensive weddings are unnecessary waste. They got married to be happy in the future, not to put on airs for others to see. Now the country also advocates a conservation-oriented society. So I think if family conditions permit, as long as the wedding is not too shabby, save where you can. After all, husband and wife still have to live in two weeks.
Miss Wang, the bride:
Our wedding can be regarded as relatively civilian, and many friends around us get married. Among them, my wedding expenses are basically relatively small. To tell the truth, I do feel a little embarrassed, but our family environment is average, and we can only forget about those high-end and luxurious weddings. I think getting married is the most important thing in life, and money should be spent. If I had, I wouldn't mind spending a lot of money on a luxurious wedding. But I will pay attention to saving and try to avoid too much waste.