1, I bet you've done something similar:
At 1 am, I can't get away from my friends;
Chasing plays at home on weekends, only eating takeout, too lazy to go out and throw garbage;
I am confused every day and don't know what I have done.
Without an independent mind, it is difficult to express constructive ideas and speak without logic.
These manifestations are that a person is addicted to things with high consumption and low creativity, such as satisfying his own ideological needs through online novels, making himself happy temporarily through jokes, and filling his psychological vacancy through idolization.
Immersed in such a thing for a long time, just like a student who has just left school, he often complains at work: How can I know what to do if this thing has not been told to me?
In essence, he won't take the initiative to absorb knowledge, nor will he export his own knowledge, but he is like a hungry child, waiting for others to feed him.
To change this kind of thinking, the first thing to do is to do less things with high consumption and low creation.
Be careful of things that make people feel cool like traps, such as games, online novels and jokes.
These things are just consuming your thoughts and time to get short and false pleasure.
Only by doing something beneficial to our growth can we grow up in a short time.
Read 10 pages every day, and then spend 10 minutes writing about your feelings;
Spend 20 minutes learning skills every day, and then spend 20 minutes practicing skills;
Spend 10 minutes every day to figure out what to do today and what to gain after the resumption.
Doing these creative things with high long-term returns may bring you a slow sense of accomplishment, but as long as you persist for a month or two, your knowledge and ability will definitely surpass your previous self.
2. Take a book and read aloud in front of the mirror every morning 10 minutes.
Loudness means vitality;
Reading aloud means speaking clearly;
Mirror image means adjusting manners;
Reading means expanding your knowledge.
I used to be a quick temper, and I always talked glibly. Later, I began to try to get up early every day and read aloud. I found that I can not only make my words clear, but also relax my mood and calm my heart. The most important thing is to look in the mirror, so that you can observe your reading state, correct your posture problems in time, and make yourself more confident when you speak.
Therefore, I strongly recommend this method. It only takes 10 minutes every morning, not two months. As long as you persist for one month, your efficiency will be greatly improved, and your temperament, knowledge and expression will be completely changed.
If you are afraid that you can't stick to it, you can praise the answer, so you can see it on the home page and urge yourself at any time ~
3. Reduce the time spent on faster access to automatic cars, brushing Tik Tok and watching videos.
These softwares have become the daily life of most people. In fact, it doesn't matter whether they are really studying, but many people accept colorful information and take it for granted that they are broadening their knowledge.
Without systematic knowledge, you won't think further and summarize. In the end, there will be some one-sided and fragmented content, which will not help us at all.
Over time, you will fall into the information cocoon, your knowledge will become narrower and narrower, and your thoughts will become more and more extreme. If you think you know more than others and don't listen to others' ideas at all, you will be trapped in the black house you built.
4. The sense of crisis will not overwhelm you, and there will be no sense of crisis.
I just went to college, and my life has just begun. Don't worry.
Plan to finish the task in the morning, fish for the first three hours and finish it in the last hour.
We are always used to acting until the last minute. The reason for action is not consciousness, but the sense of crisis brought by the last moment, which forces us to act.
This sense of crisis is used in all aspects of life. In order to stimulate the user's action, the merchant will use this copy to discount the last 1 hour, leaving 10. While stocks last, the top 10 will give away a gift package with a value of 1 0,000 yuan.
We often fail in our actions, that is, we lack a sense of crisis, which is the key to changing ourselves.
We can learn from the above copywriting and establish a sense of crisis for ourselves:
My work this month is not outstanding. If I can't even complete the seven task indicators, my bonus this month will be gone.
The university is only three or four years old, and it is only here that everyone has the same starting point. If I don't learn more to improve myself and enter the society, why should I compare with others?
This sense of crisis will make us feel anxious to some extent, but if we can make rational use of anxiety, it will become the driving force to change ourselves.
It's like going to work forcing us to get up regularly, otherwise our salary will be deducted, and our work will keep us learning knowledge, otherwise we will not keep up with our career development and will eventually be eliminated.
Therefore, no matter what happens, we must have a sense of crisis, otherwise there will be endless delays.
5, reading, is the most cost-effective way to grow up, no one.
No matter how busy you are, read at least 10 pages every day. Reading is the fastest, lowest and most profitable thing. 10 page may be the time for you to brush a few Tik Tok and Weibo, but the benefits far outweigh them.
If you find it useless after two months, it's just that your original knowledge gap is too big. When your knowledge is refined and deepened, your thinking mode will be far away from those who don't study, especially those whose industries change rapidly and their core competitiveness is strong.
6. Don't bury yourself.
Find a time to study again, and there will be no following.
Wait for the boss to get a promotion and a raise, but don't show yourself.
No one knew who you were when she came to ask her out.
This society is very realistic, there is no such thing as pie falling from the sky, and expecting everything to fall on your head is just like buying lottery tickets every day and rushing to win the prize. Most people succeed because they take the initiative to fight for it.
You just want to escape from reality. I'll study at once. I believe I will be very focused then. Why didn't the boss give me a promotion and a raise? I have no credit and hard work. Why didn't she come to me? Is it because I hinted enough?
Wake up, no one will take the initiative to care about others What you can do is to do what you should and want to do in time.
If you want your boss to get a promotion and a raise, you must show yourself through the resumption, constantly optimize the work results, and let the boss see the value;
If you want to learn skills, you must act immediately, shut down the network, and don't give yourself the opportunity to be lazy;
If you want girls to notice you, you should take the initiative to attract girls to you with funny language and connotation.
Many people know many ways to grow up, but they still think this is the reason why it is useless. They have never taken the initiative to try, and know that the method of 1000 is also invalid.
7, the fastest way to grow-imitate others.
The reason why an industry has a big boss is because people understand the rules of the industry, and his connections and abilities can make him feel at home in the industry.
Imagine how you would change if his methods were transferred to you.
It may be awkward at first, after all, just learning through your teeth, a lot of bumps are inevitable.
However, the progress brought by these empirical methods must be rapid, because you are equivalent to getting a cheat in the game. Just enter the cheat code and press enter, and you can get a weapon that you have never obtained.
This is especially true in the workplace. Many times, our epiphany may be the foundation of others. It is better to enter the cheat code in advance than to bump your head.
8. You can be 20% better than others without dieting or even exercising, if you can be "gentle" when eating.
Some researchers did an experiment. One group chewed the same food 15 times and swallowed it, while the other group chewed it 40 times and swallowed it.
Afterwards, the blood sample survey showed that the group that chewed 40 times felt full faster, which would make us lose our desire for food and then play a role in losing weight.
Seeing this, some students may feel that there is almost nothing left. Don't be afraid. Before the end, I have prepared five treasure books that have been treasured for many years. They can greatly change your way of thinking, so praise Sanlian Collection ~
First, the "Learning Way" Douban score is 7.9
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Read a book, but don't remember what to say?
After watching a lot of American TV shows, English still hasn't improved?
Wechat official accounts, guidebooks and awesome posts have all declined, but they still haven't formed their own learning system.
This book systematically expounds the way of learning, each chapter will have a learning argument, and then it will be explained with a large number of examples, combining comics and graphics to enhance the reading experience and lower the threshold of understanding.
The learning and growth methods proposed in this book are very practical. For example, the way to overcome procrastination is to concentrate on working for a short time, so that you can chew slowly by breaking down the workload, which is also commonly known as "pomodoro technique".
I still use many methods in the book. I recommend you to try them.
Second, "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" scored 8.7.
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To change the status quo, we must first change ourselves; To change yourself, we must first change our views on the problem.
This is a landmark book, and Forbes magazine rated it as one of the "Ten Most Influential Books". Its author, Stephen Covey, was named "one of the 25 people who influenced the course of American history" by Time magazine.
The core of this book is not to teach you how to succeed, but to help you change your thinking. The seven habits put forward in the book, such as being proactive, starting from the beginning to the end, doing things by human effort, win-win thinking, knowing yourself and yourself, being comprehensive and effective, and constantly updating, are the essence of the author's thought, which can make us grow up with a better attitude.
Third, "Rich Dad and Poor Dad" Douban score 8.3
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The main causes of poverty and financial problems are fear and ignorance, not economic environment, government or the rich.
This is a book that can reshape the concept of wealth. The comparison of thinking between poor dad and rich dad in the book has brought me a lot of financial enlightenment.
Poor dad has a high education and high income, but he is troubled by money all his life. Rich dad has almost no education, not to mention status and money, but in the end he can become one of the richest people in Hawaii.
The reason lies in the concept of money. The concept of "rat race" mentioned in the book is a highly concise answer.
The fear of having no money urges them to work hard, and after being paid, greed makes them want to have everything that money can buy. This makes them need more money and make them spend more money.
For most people, financial management is the most effective way to achieve economic independence, and even if the income is not high, it can maximize the capital income.
Fourth, the golden pagoda principle douban score 8. 1.
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The four basic principles of gold and pyramid principles:
Conclusion 1: Each article has only one central idea, and it is placed at the front of the article.
Combine the above with the following: the thought at each level must be the summary of the thought at the next level.
Classification and grouping: The ideas in each group must belong to the same logical category.
Logical progress: The ideas in each group must be arranged in logical order.
This is a book that everyone needs. What is the golden pyramid principle? It is to express your thoughts logically, clearly and from top to bottom.
Its structured thinking can make us improve communication efficiency very effectively. Whether it is writing, communication, workplace or students, the improvement of this skill can bring great help.
Five, "Know yourself, accept yourself" Douban score of 7.5.
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If you measure how much people like to vent, you will get a high evaluation. If you measure whether people have changed, the effect of venting is very poor.
Martin seligman, the author of this book, is known as "the father of positive psychology". In 20 17, he was awarded the "Lifetime Achievement Award" by American Psychological Association.
As a psychological reading, this book aims to help us know ourselves. Everyone has something that can be changed and something that cannot be changed. By changing what can be changed, we can reverse our emotions, but what cannot be changed is to learn how to get along with bad emotions and bad habits.
Actively change what can be changed and accept what cannot be changed.
At this point, the suggestion is over, I hope I can help you!
Finally, in order to facilitate your review, I will briefly summarize that students in need like to take it away:
How to change yourself quickly in two months?
1, do less things with high consumption and low creation.
2. Read aloud in front of the mirror every morning 10 minutes.
3. Reduce the time spent on faster access to automatic cars, brushing Tik Tok and watching videos.
4. Learn to use a sense of crisis to urge your actions.
5. Keep the input of book knowledge every day.
6. Take the initiative to get what you want.
7. The fastest way to grow is to imitate others.
8, chewing slowly can lose weight scientifically.
Recommend five books that are of great help to change yourself:
First, "the way to learn"
Second, "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"
Third, rich dad, poor dad
Fourth, the "golden pagoda principle"
Verb (abbreviation for verb) "Know yourself and accept yourself"
The best way to change the world is to find a way that suits you and keep acting. I dare not say that all the above methods are useful to you, but there will always be one that can inspire you.
Before I go, I'd like to send you a sentence that I like very much:
"Gan Kun is undecided, you and I are both dark horses, and good things are about to happen."