The problem you have experienced is actually a concern of many women, that is, I have been paying. How can I guide men to pay for me and invest for me? First of all, women want men to pay for you, so you should know what you want. What can this man do for you? What's the use after handing it in? Let me get this straight. In fact, a man's investment in you, in a word, is two big pieces: the first piece is called time investment, and the second piece is called emotional investment. Let's talk separately.

For example, the first investment, time investment, as the name implies is to let men spend more time with you, then you must learn to guide him. Let me give you a simple example. For example, if you want a man to accompany you, you can ask him to go shopping. In fact, shopping also has such a trick. For example, if it gets cold this day, it will be autumn. You want a man to buy you a set of pajamas. You tell the man directly, and you tell him to buy a pair of pajamas. It is estimated that he will go to a pedestrian street and bring you a set casually. You're still mad to death. What can you do? You can choose on Taobao first. Then many people's methods are to send a good link to your husband on Taobao. Don't send him a link. You can send him a screenshot directly. What's the use of sending him photos? Does he want to search, even identify this picture and this dress? Does he want to choose the price, style and size? Does this process take time? Is he thinking about you? This period of time in his brain is an investment of time. So you try to make things a little more complicated.

The second is called emotional investment. To put it bluntly, emotional input means that the more emotion a person puts into you, the more he will pay attention to you. First of all, this emotional investment, I hope everyone can understand what emotion is. Everyone can think about your emotions. They may all be positive, such as happiness and excitement, but not only happiness and excitement, but also many emotions such as anxiety, disgust and fear. These are human emotions. Because people's emotions are not only positive, but also negative, such as anger, anger and jealousy. Just like you usually eat sugar every day, in fact, you don't know what sweetness is. Suddenly one day you tasted the bitterness, and you remembered what is sweet. Therefore, emotional investment can also be called embellishment.

For example, you can make him jealous or angry occasionally, but you should know that this is my conscious control and can't be excessive. For example, one day you go out to a dinner party. After dinner, you can call that person. "Husband, today's friend's birthday, there is a man so annoying. He kept asking me for WeChat. I told you I was married, and he wanted to drive me back. I didn't promise. Please come and pick me up. " This not only makes men feel that you are attractive outside, but also shows that you are loyal to him and makes your man feel a sense of crisis, but there is no reason to blame you. Instead, he will reflect on himself and then invest more in you, because he will be afraid of losing you in his heart, which is to guide men to invest emotionally in you.

Of course, what are all the prerequisites for a man to invest in you? That is, you have to be valuable. While guiding men to invest in you, don't forget to invest in yourself. This is my advice to all women, and I hope it will help your feelings.