Why are girls afraid of having children after 00? In fact, in our life, we can often hear a topic similar to giving birth to a child, which many people don't want to talk about. Let's understand why girls are afraid of having children after 00.

Why are girls afraid of having children after 00 1 0 1 will affect their work development?

Every one of us, from graduation to employment, to marriage and having children, is a natural development process.

Most women will choose to have children around the age of 30, which is the best time for women to have children.

But at the same time, it is also the golden period of women's career development and the rising period of career development.

If you go home to have a baby at this time, you have to stop or your present job.

In the real workplace, a large number of women are suppressed by companies or superiors because they have children.

Many women have been replaced by others or their promotion channels have been closed after returning to the company after maternity leave.

I have a friend who is like this. Before taking a vacation, he handed over the work to a new colleague and lost his job when he came back.

Then she was placed in some marginal positions, or casually found some trivial and unimportant things for you to do, which actually hinted that she would resign automatically.

Finally, in order to develop her career, she had to resign and find another job.

Therefore, most companies have a one-post system. If an employee takes maternity leave, the company has to recruit new people to do your job.

But when you return to the company after maternity leave, it is impossible for the company to dismiss new employees, and you are put on hold.

Potential discrimination against women in the workplace has always existed, and the core factor is childbearing, which mainly includes the following four categories:

Unmarried and childless: I will fall in love and get married soon, which will delay my work. Married without children: preparing to have children, delaying work. Married and pregnant: Sooner or later, you have to have a second child, which will delay your work. I have given birth to a second child: I have two children, but I still have time and mind to work.

Therefore, the development of women's career is the first thing that has the greatest impact on giving birth to children.

Of course, it has no effect on men's career.

This is the primary reason why more and more women are unwilling to have children.

02. Neglect children's education

For all working people, it is impossible to achieve a real balance between family and career, especially for most working women.

Each of us has limited time and energy, so if we focus on our work, we will naturally ignore our family.

For modern women, their concept of parenting has changed, and they are no longer the same as the older generation, as long as their children have enough to eat and wear warm clothes.

There are also children's education, spiritual counseling, homework counseling and so on. Nowadays, raising children is no longer as simple as meeting material needs, but more needs spiritual satisfaction.

Therefore, having children is not a child's play, let alone completing the task of "having children".

After birth, it is the responsibility and obligation of life. In addition to careful care in life, we also need parent-child companionship, parent-child reading, game interaction and so on.

For women who want to have their own career and achieve economic independence and self-worth through work, if they focus on their work, they will naturally ignore their children's education and companionship.

But for modern women with high-quality parenting needs, if they don't have time to accompany and educate their children, they might as well not have children.

Giving birth to a child is not a temporary impulse, but a lifelong responsibility and tie.

03. Widowed baby support

The improvement of modern women's status is also achieved by women themselves. They achieve economic independence and self-worth through work, thus winning the respect of family and society.

However, despite the improvement of women's status, the traditional fixed thinking of "men are the masters inside and women are the masters outside" still exists.

In most families, it is still women who support the responsibility of caring for children.

In addition to working outside the home, women also need to bear the responsibility of doing housework, taking care of children and educating and accompanying children after returning home.

And most men just need to work, which is like taking care of children's air.

Contemporary society gives women more rights to enter the workplace, but does not let men return to the family to take responsibility.

This has also caused many families to have widowed babies. In the family, only the mother takes care of the baby, and the father is always away.

In fact, the competition in the workplace in modern society is very fierce. The living costs and pressures of modern urbanites are very high, and the pressure on men will naturally be even greater.

I have seen many working men often work overtime until the early hours of the morning, and some are on business trips for several months and half a year.

It is not easy to make a living.

A lot of things fall on my mother in a natural family, but my mother is also very tired. She works during the day, takes care of the baby at night, and stays with her at last weekend.

The absence of the role of father increases the burden and pressure of women, which makes more women flinch.

The cost of raising a baby is too high.

For raising children, besides paying more energy and time mentally, more money is also needed.

Now raising a baby is not the kind of "hunger and cold" of the older generation. Nowadays, raising a child is all about money.

Food, clothing, housing and transportation are basically small money, and children's education expenses are the most expensive money.

Every year, tuition, remedial classes, training classes and other activities are basically consumed by children.

From the moment you conceive a child, you need a lot of money to ensure the child's basic material needs.

Someone once made a rough statistics on the cost of having children:

Check-up, delivery and confinement-about 80,000 yuan for milk powder, diapers, medical care and clothing-about 6,543.8+0.5 million yuan for kindergarten-about 6,543.8+0.5 million yuan for primary school-about 230,000 yuan for middle school-about 360,000 yuan for university.

By the time the children finish college, the cost has reached several million.

For ordinary families, this is not a small expense, and it is also unbearable for ordinary families.

Especially for families living in cities, there are car loans, mortgages, monthly property management fees, living expenses and so on.

If you want your children to go to a better school or public school, you have to buy a school district. The price of school district housing is beyond the reach of many families.

The cost of living is high and the pressure of life is high.

I have spent all my money on raising children in my life, but my family life is hard.

The cost of raising children is too high and it costs too much money. Few women want to be "child slaves" all their lives.

05, giving is not recognized.

Compared with time, energy and money, the most terrible thing is that your efforts are not recognized.

Moving bricks during the day, taking the baby at night, and working hard to run a family, whether it is a career or a family, will be looked down upon by others.

In terms of work, the salary level of most men far exceeds that of women, although they have made the same efforts and created the same value.

This has also caused that in general family relations, women's wages are generally lower than men's.

Although women devote their time and energy to their families, sometimes men or in-laws will use their wages to measure their contribution to their families.

Because your salary is lower than her son's, you will be looked down upon.

From the family point of view, although you move bricks during the day, take care of the baby at night and accompany the baby at weekends, the family doesn't pay the bill, thinking that this is what a mother should do.

Women's physical cost, time, energy, emotional labor, children's self-devouring of their mothers, workplace discrimination, development opportunities and social status. ......

Everything is ignored, as if air and water were taken for granted.

When our efforts are not understood, respected and recognized, what is the point of such efforts?

06. Unstable marriage.

The stability of marriage determines the happiness of a family and even the life of a child.

With the improvement of women's self-awareness and economic independence, many women's understanding of marriage relations has also changed.

Without attachment, unyielding and unwilling, a woman should have a happy marriage of her own, not just make do.

In addition, today's young people have high self-esteem and low tolerance for each other in marriage.

So the divorce rate is getting higher and higher today.

Of course, in addition to the awakening of women's independent consciousness, there are various temptations from society.

There are so many temptations in modern society that some men will be tempted.

In either case, the marriage relationship of modern young people is unstable compared with their parents.

In the case of unstable marriage, the biggest harm is the children.

Therefore, in an unstable marriage, it is still prudent to choose to have children.

After all, the relationship between parents will have a lifelong impact on children.

07. Women lost their freedom.

Hungarian poet petofi said in Freedom and Love: "Life is precious, but love is more expensive. If you are free, you can throw both. "

Freedom is what everyone longs for.

After giving birth to a baby, a woman revolves around the baby every day except for work.

Before the age of 3, children need a mother and need to be with them all the time. They finally look forward to their own growth, can accompany, pick up and drop off from school, take training and remedial classes, and they also need a mother.

Since you have a baby, don't crave any private space, or even take up your mother's rest time.

Mothers need to sacrifice shopping, travel, parties and other time to accompany their children, and there is no freedom at all.

This is only a physical bondage, and the spiritual bondage is the real loss of freedom.

Some working women will miss and care about their children even if they need to travel for a week because of their work, or travel with their girlfriends and friends.

We are all girls who love beauty. When we go shopping, we also hope to put on beautiful makeup and walk confidently in the crowd in high heels.

But these have become fantasies and long-awaited dreams after having children.

Therefore, after a woman gives birth to a child, the most worrying thing is to lose her freedom.

This era not only satisfies our materialistic life, but also increases the pressure of our life.

Whether born or not, every woman and every family should be respected.

Because children are not the only factor that determines our happiness.

True happiness is not living in the established framework of others, not living in the expectations of others, but finding your true self and living with your heart.

Why are girls afraid of having children after 00? 2 0 1, female independence.

From women entering the workplace to occupying an increasingly important position in the workplace, women's self-awareness has also risen and they have more choices for life.

Yao Yao entered the workplace after graduation, bent on getting some achievements in her work. Only by working overtime did she get a place in the male-dominated circle. I got married just before my 30th birthday at the urging of my family. Now that the promotion is just around the corner, a small life is ushered in.

In this era when women are becoming more and more independent, there are more and more girls like Yao Yao. When giving birth to children needs to be at the expense of their own health and work development, they are both happy and afraid of the arrival of a little life.

02, the pain of childbirth.

For women, while giving birth to life, it is weight gain, disorder of hormone secretion, stretch marks, freckles, deformity, postpartum depression and so on.

I am also a full-time mother myself. From giving birth to raising children, my eyes and mind are on my baby. The experience of my own changes and pains seems to flow like running water without leaving a trace.

When is self-awakening? It was only after the child was sent to kindergarten that his eyes and thoughts returned to him, and he suddenly realized that freckles, stretch marks, widened hips and fat body made him cry when he was alone in that painful period.

Many people think that women have children, don't they? Not so melodramatic. Many people can't understand the physiological and psychological effects of childbirth on women.

03. Economic pressure.

Raising children now is different from before. It's not born, just eat and wear warm clothes, and let them grow up all their lives.

Various pregnancy tests during pregnancy, various supplements, various postpartum repairs, various baby products, milk powder, various early education and so on. , are waiting for a sum of money.

Mortgage, car loan, having children can't go to work. Children's expenses are like a mountain, weighing on their shoulders.

Xiaoya was afraid of having children at first, and thought she was still young. When I was pregnant unexpectedly, although I didn't give up, the husband and wife quietly went to the hospital for surgery and didn't want children.

After two years, when both husband and wife wanted children, they were never pregnant. When I went to the hospital for examination, I was told that the last operation had caused some harm to my body, so the probability of pregnancy was relatively low. Later, my mother-in-law also knew about it, and the originally harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became tense. Now Xiaoya is trying to conceive in vitro.

Although having children does have a lot of pain and burden, if you don't face up to and understand fertility, you will often pay a huge price if you choose to escape.

When the baby comes, what else can we do to reduce the risk brought by childbirth besides running away blindly?

Eat scientifically and exercise properly.

After becoming a mother, several treasure moms often discuss together: after a star is pregnant, she is still slim except for her big belly. The oldest baby doesn't grow meat, which is partly influenced by his own physique. In fact, most people keep it under a scientific diet and proper exercise.

Pregnancy 1-3 months, fetal growth does not need too much nutrition. At this stage, pregnant mothers do not need to deliberately eat more, as long as the nutrition is balanced and they are not picky eaters.

From the fourth month of pregnancy, the nutrition required by the fetus and pregnant mother has soared, so it is necessary to fully supplement the nutrition, but eat more and less meals, never overeat, forbid sweets, don't eat too much at dinner, exercise properly to control the weight and ensure comprehensive and sufficient nutrition.

Nursing repair

Under the control of reasonable diet and proper exercise, the baby can be prevented from growing too big, and at the same time, the stretch marks can be prevented and relieved by adding essential oil care and massage to increase skin elasticity.

Pay attention to the use of abdominal belt after delivery, and correct and repair the body shape in time.

Moderate shaping exercises such as yoga can also effectively help the recovery of postpartum body shape.

About matter

A large part of modern women's parenting anxiety comes from "letting children win at the starting line". Therefore, early education, interest classes and kindergartens of all grades are torturing young parents. "Do you have the ability to let your children win at the starting line?"

Nana has always been a marketing position among girlfriends. At the height of her career, she got pregnant unexpectedly. She chose to change her job. When submitting her application, many people lamented.

Nana said, "No matter how much money I earn, it's for living. Money should serve people, not people. I know I want children myself. I like family life, but now that he is here, I may not be able to give him the most expensive milk powder, but the next one will do. " Maybe you can't give him expensive clothes, just wear warm ones; Maybe I can't give her the best toy, but I think I should try my best to give her the best company; Maybe you can't go to the best kindergarten, but as long as you are optimistic, happy and enterprising.

Good state of mind

Childbirth is really a difficult journey, no matter how well prepared beforehand, there will still be many problems. Still have to set a good attitude and face the joy and pain of childbirth with a positive and optimistic attitude. After all, the value and meaning of life are not determined by appearance and status. How precious a new life is.

New life brings new experiences.

There are always people who are afraid of meeting inappropriate people, so they won't get married; I'm afraid that if I have children, I will lose myself and I won't have children. But how do you know the result without experiencing life? The ups and downs are all life, and the joys and sorrows are all life. Even if you fall and get up, you will have a different experience. When you learn to face up to and understand, you won't miss it because you are afraid.

Why are girls afraid of having children after 00? It is not uncommon for women who are afraid of having children. There are three main reasons for "fear of having children":

1) Afraid of the "bitterness" of pregnancy in October

From pregnancy to delivery, in just ten months, women can worry about many things, mainly two:

(1) During pregnancy, I constantly have morning sickness and edema, can't wear makeup, and I am unkempt all day, and I will face serious shape loss, and even worry that I can't recover after delivery.

During pregnancy, I have to go home to wait for delivery, get rid of the original social work, gradually lose contact with many friends, lose the source of income that can ensure a sense of security, and fall into economic pressure.

2) Fear of the "pain" of childbirth.

From small to large, whether it is the description of the older generation or the fragments in TV series, the pictures of childbirth are described with great pain. Many women are afraid of the pain of giving birth, dare not give birth, or choose caesarean section directly.

Even if it is a caesarean section, there will be worries. Contemporary women are more independent and pay more attention to their own management. There will be physical injuries and marks such as stretch marks, incisions and pregnancy spots after delivery, which will also make women afraid of childbirth.

3) It is difficult to bring a baby, but it is difficult to raise a baby.

Anecdotal stories of "difficulty in tutoring homework" are constantly exposed on the Internet. Everyone is a hysterical baby mother, yelling at disobedient children. Watching the girls around you change from girls to bitches, everyone will worry about their future.

Among the post-80s and post-90s women, there are also many people who are afraid to take care of children, raise children, or even dislike children, because it is difficult to raise children now, which is one of the reasons why women are afraid of having children.

Is it really that terrible to have a baby? Not so: pain can be alleviated, and so can stress.

According to the survey data, the number of singles in China has exceeded 240 million, and the proportion is on the rise. The reason why young people are in fear of marriage is mostly related to married life, and they don't want to live in the pain of raising a baby. However, with the continuous progress of society, it is difficult to raise children, but we haven't found a scientific way to care for them.

1) With the development of medicine, labor pain can be alleviated.

In the past, children could only give birth naturally, and modern technology was developed. Not only had caesarean section, but also painless delivery. These advanced medical methods can help women alleviate more than half of their pain.

2) Scientific pregnancy will help you "rejuvenate" after childbirth.

The rapid aging of the older generation after childbirth is related to feudal superstitious nursing methods, such as not being able to "take a bath and wash your hair" after childbirth, and the growth of bacteria makes the recovery speed of the body plummet.

It's different now. People pay more and more attention to the recovery of postpartum figure. Not only many famous doctors have published books to teach scientific confinement, but also many confinement centers and postpartum nursing institutions are under construction, so that some people can achieve the effect of "rejuvenation for the second time" after childbirth.

3) There are ingenious ways to bring a baby, and parenting experts answer questions.

How hard is it to take care of the baby? I'm afraid only my own experience will understand. The parent-child videos that people see on the Internet are often just a small fragment in life.

There is a popular online saying that "if you don't do your homework, your mother will be kind and filial, and if you do your homework, the chicken will fly and the dog will jump", so raising a baby is a painful and happy process, and it is also the biggest gain for parents.