First, listen to each other's troubles. At this time, you can't immediately ask what's bothering you recently, because you will get a "nothing" response. Therefore, you can choose a more tortuous method, first tell your recent distress, so as to guide the other party to "worry communication." It must be noted that your so-called troubles can't be that you want to get back together now, but the other party doesn't want to, and you can't simply transmit negative energy. For example, "I had a problem with my boss, and I was fired by the company." I have to pay the rent in a few days, and my mother is ill again. " Even if that's the case, you don't have to make yourself so miserable. It must also be noted that the things that upset you were not the things that she cared about at that time. For example, you said that you want to buy a house in Area A recently, but the price is too high to bear. At that time, two people were together, and she suggested that you buy a house in Area A as soon as possible, when the house price was not high. It's best to say something that is very easy to cause * * *, such as "I have wisdom teeth recently, I have to sleep and eat, and I have lost weight by the way." You used to have wisdom teeth. Where did you get them knocked out? "If there is a combination of work, the other party can understand it, and it can be said that it is distressed by work. Second, how to respond to the suggestions made by my predecessor? Speak out your troubles first, so that the other party can find the voice of * * *, and it is easier to speak the truth. The distance between your's heart will be shortened at once. When you express your troubles, she will also give you some advice or comfort. And how will you respond at this time? Thank you. I see. I'll take the exam? Or something like that. Of course there is nothing wrong with such a reply, but the topic is over. Then how should we respond to each other's kind suggestions or comforts? If the other person tells some of his past feelings and experiences in his reply, you should give a completely agreed response immediately. For example, "yes, I'm afraid to go to the dentist, too. I feel extremely painful." I'm not the only one. "That is to say, deepen the singing of * * * and make it clear. How to respond to the other person's troubles If the other person tells her some recent experiences and troubles in the response, then you should ask questions carefully and express your views on what she said. At this time, there is no need to change the topic of discussion, that is, there is no need to become a new topic of discussion. The response time does not need to be long. If you haven't seen the reply for a long time, you should make it clear that "I was just reporting my work and the message was late." I feel you ... "... you must make the other person feel that you are very attentive and valued. In addition, moderate praise can be added. For example, the other party complains that the work is boring and the daily work is not targeted and purposeful. You can say that you have had a similar personal experience, or you can praise her: "I think you are very valuable. Two years after graduating from college, I can persist and keep my enterprising spirit. "If you can master the natural praise method, the other party will have a pleasant and relaxed chat impression on you, and naturally love to chat with you. You don't have to guess whether the other person still loves you. If it feels like it, everyone will get back together as soon as they talk. Correct chat ways to save ex-girlfriends 2 1. Talk about the same hobbies of two people in the past. Chatting with ex-girlfriends may be awkward at first, because they used to know each other very well and shared many interests, but they had to break up for some reasons. So when you chat with your ex-girlfriend, you can talk about places they have been to, movies they have seen, and so on. This can not only avoid embarrassment between two people, but also lead to more * * * topics. Talking about the same hobbies is very useful, which can let ex-girlfriends down their guard and make chatting more enjoyable. 2. Say what she wants to say. Maybe you will feel that you just don't know what she is thinking, so you can't talk, and you don't know how to read her mind. In fact, finding the answer is very simple, judging by the other person's circle of friends. For example, in her fitness circle of friends, you can say, "I find that your figure is getting better and better now. I also went running recently, and I feel very good after exercise. "Chatting with her like this can make her feel comfortable chatting with you, and you can understand her heart. Don't argue with each other. If two people have different opinions in the process of chatting, they must follow each other and don't raise objections. Be sure to pay attention to each other's mood. If the other person is unhappy, don't continue to talk about this topic. After all, two people have known each other before, so we must follow each other's wishes.