Modify the way you interact with people. If you want to improve your personal cultivation, I think you should do the following six things:
The first is silence.
Talk less and listen more. Because of people who love to talk, they lose a quiet beauty. What's more, if you talk too much, you will lose. There is a saying, think twice before you act. What I want to say here is, think twice before you speak. Even the network, a platform for language communication, can be very annoying. If you want to talk, say to yourself, don't tell anyone, because almost no one wants to listen now, except her.
The second is slow.
There is a saying that you should speak slowly, but act quickly. I think, in some cases, you should speak slowly, but act slowly. I have tasted the sweetness of "slowing down". You are doing things too fast. Sometimes, when you just do it, the leader doesn't think it is necessary. And you are too enthusiastic, a subtle psychology, he will be uncomfortable and think there is something special in it. Slow, another advantage is that you can take a shortcut to success on the basis of others' failure. But this often misses many opportunities. Anyway, it's not business, so we don't need to grab the market. The key is that people who are too capable will become the object of jealousy and prevention.
The third is forbearance.
In the face of injustice, don't be angry or vent. On the one hand, anger hurts the body, on the other hand, anger can't solve the problem. "There is a stomach that tolerates the things that cannot be changed, the courage to change the things that may be changed, and a wise man who distinguishes the above two things." These are the three qualities that a successful person should possess. Since some things are beyond our ability, why not look on coldly? Venting discontent will only make others watch the play.
The fourth is to let.
Right and wrong, involving issues of principle, can not give in, it is up to individuals to make decisions; But for small things, listen to others' opinions as much as possible. If you can do what others say, you won't stick to your point of view. Take a step back and broaden the horizon. And if you do it according to other people's opinions, you have to share the mistakes.
The fifth is light.
Look down on everything. For fame and fortune, for money, for feelings. Nothing can survive without it. Gains and losses are also dialectical. If you lose in this respect, your mind will be released and you will have a chance to try other options. Opportunity cost in economics is more appropriate here. The less you watch, the calmer your mind, and the more you can experience ordinary happiness.
Six is flat.
Is ordinary, is plain, is balanced. The disadvantage of angularity is that it is easy to be bitten by others. Ideas exist outside of work. If a person can unify his thoughts and actions at work, he is a leader with decision-making power. There is an online buzzword: "How far your thoughts are, how far you roll." In public institutions, your thoughts can only exist within the scope of your decision-making power. Although ordinary people have no color, they often live the longest. People should live a wonderful life, but first of all, they should be able to live and not be kicked out. Students with jobs said, "For work, we should believe in materialism; Believe in idealism in life. " Therefore, we need close friends and a safe space to express our ideas. There, we can show our extraordinary.