You don't want to be too active, but you are worried that if you don't get closer, you may miss love.
Just like Linlin, a schoolgirl, she fell in love with Lei Lei at first sight at the party. Lei Lei has excellent conditions, and she has been the management of the company since she was very young. It can be said that she should have a lot of face and status.
At that time, Lei Lei actively added Linlin's WeChat, and then they would chat with her. They often chat late into the night. From Lei Lei's words, Linlin can feel that he really likes her.
More than a month passed, and Lei Lei had a good talk with her, but she never showed the appearance of wanting to upgrade her relationship.
Linlin is in a hurry, but she is a girl. If she is in a hurry to take the initiative, she will either be looked down upon or let him think that she has a plan;
If you don't take the initiative, Lei Lei is so good. If other girls beat you to it, wouldn't it be a happy hand?
Therefore, Linlin hopes that under my guidance, he can make boys pay more attention to her in an appropriate way, so that he can show his love on his own initiative.
If men, visual animals and girls want to attract his attention, they must learn more about makeup, slimming, dressing and manners, and show their elegance and beauty.
However, we will not elaborate on this aspect today. Let me teach you a few tricks to arouse the curiosity of the other person from a psychological point of view on the basis of face value and make him like you.
The first move is to create unfinished events.
The memory effect of Zeegnik in psychology points out that people are more impressed by unprocessed things than processed things.
Have you ever tried, when the work is not finished, you are always thinking that eating and sleeping are not practical and you always feel uncomfortable. And I will take the initiative to finish things in the near future and let my heart settle down.
In other words, if you go somewhere and intend to eat special dishes, but you don't eat anything, you will definitely remember it deeply and never forget it. It's always a pity that I won't forget this wish until I have a chance to eat it again.
The same is true of feelings. Zeegnik effect makes boys pay more attention to unfinished events, and it is easy to worry about you related to the events.
Therefore, in the process of communication, you can also create some unfinished events appropriately, so that he will never forget you.
For example, boys and girls usually go out for dinner and movies, and then they may go shopping, chat in cafes or bars, and some boys will want to take you to indescribable places.
In this process, if you stop dating after watching the movie and find a reason to leave, boys will not be able to implement the rest of the plan. For boys, this is an event that needs to be completed. Then, he will never forget it and try to implement the plan.
For example, when two people are chatting when they are in a good mood, you tell him that chatting with you is really fun and makes me feel special.
He will definitely ask you, what is it like? At this time, if you find an excuse not to talk, he will be very curious about your answer.
However, it should be noted that although the unfinished events have a promoting effect, the frequency should be controlled. If it is too frequent, it will bring a bad dating experience to the other party and affect the development of feelings.
2. The second measure is to indirectly guide intimate attention.
I believe that people who have been in love have this feeling, and the process of increasing intimacy is the process of deepening understanding.
If you want him to know you and care about your feelings, you must first know him.
At first, it may be just a form of "you ask me and answer me", but with the deepening of communication, he may take the initiative to reveal his feelings and tell you more privacy.
At this time, you just need to be a good listener and provide him with emotional value in time.
On the one hand, talking to you can increase his intimacy with you. I can talk to you, at least I have regarded you as a friend.
On the other hand, if you know him, you are also urging him to know you. Because in this kind of personal emotional communication, a principle of reciprocity in interpersonal communication will be embodied.
In other words, when I talk to you, I will also understand your needs, so as to achieve an inner balance.
So after answering the question, let's ask another question, "What about you?" Or "What do you think?" In fact, it is to use the principle of reciprocity.
3. Third, fully demonstrate your usability.
According to social psychology, the intensity of people's behavioral motivation mainly depends on two points: the value of behavioral goals and the difficulty of achieving them.
Recently, there was a hot topic in Zhihu, "Why do boys seldom take the initiative to chase girls now?"
In fact, it's not that you are not good enough, but that the cost of chasing girls is much higher than before, and sometimes boys lack self-confidence, so men's motivation to chase girls is not strong.
Under this premise, you need to expose your interest indicators and availability to arouse his curiosity and pursue your motivation.
The core of this move is to convey the message: "I don't reject you, and I don't dislike you. You may catch up with me."
For example, you can say, "I know the secret room of a new horror theme. Find a few people and let's play together. "
Or, "I have an appointment with my best friend to go out this weekend. If you are free, you can come and be our photographer. "
Of course, you can also send him some photos of your food while chatting with him. If the other person praises you, you can say, "Please, I can let you try the dishes cooked by the chef."
The above examples, although there is no direct love, will give him a hint that "you may accept him" In this way, whenever a boy likes you, he is willing to try.
In fact, it is really not as difficult as you think to let the person you like actively pursue you and promote your relationship.
Why can't you learn the little skills of getting along with men and women, so that the male god can get it easily?